13 year old dating?

Question

I have a 13 year old daughter, which she is my only child. SHe is dating a 16 year old, he's a really nice guy. Is he too old for her though?

I don't know about it. Like I said, he's really nice. But, I never have dated a guy that much older than me.

Answer 1

I am married to a man 17 yrs older than me; however, I tell my daughter (who is also an only child) that she is not "dating" until she is at least 16 (she's 10) and even then it will all depend on her grades and her attitude. I tell her to wait until she has graduated college to get married and to not have sex until after she is married [35]. I encourage the older man for marriage material as they are more mentally compatible [mature], but only after college. Books and school come first. Boys come last. If grades are good and she's being obedient and respectful and showing that she is mature enough to handle the relationship, then I guess under extreme supervision I might allow it in groups, maybe.

ofcourse, I realize that I really don't know what I'm gonna do when that time gets here. I'll be crossing that bridge pretty soon though. I feel for you. Pray and pray and pray some more is the best I can tell you.

Answer 2

Your daughter is 13 years old and the boy is 16 and to me boys at the age of 16 are already getting horny and well I honestly be live that you don't want your 13 year old daughter having sex tell her to wait till she is at least 15 years old to have a boyfriend sorry to hear that you are allowing your 13 year old to date I for sure would never let my daughter or even son to date at 13 or 14 15 is a little more reasonable carefully with her and this boy and good luck that she doesn't end up pregnant by the age of 16.

Answer 3

OK, you asked.
Yes, I do think he is too old for her. He can drive, but has next to no experience driving. Do you want her going places in a car with him driving? Not to mention, he's driving a car.......do you trust him taking her places? Not the same question...........
She's 13 years old. Why does she feel she needs to be dating? Kids keep pushing the age of activities back, younger and younger. Dating at 13 - what does that leave for 16 or 18?
At 13 why isn't she going out with her friends to movies and sports, instead of going with a guy. What's wrong with group dates, just a group of girls and guys who are friends going somewhere together? With, horrors, someones mom or dad driving them?
He's 16 - sadly some of his friends have probably already had sex. What's to happen when several of them start to pressure him as to why he hasn't? Is he solid enough to be able to stand up against his buddies and say it's because she's only 13 and he respects her enough not to try anything? Or do you think he might "cave" and try something? Then, do you think your daughter is strong enough to risk "losing him" by saying "no"?
Or, might he just tell everybody that he HAS had sex with her?
Since you asked the original question, I think these are some more you need to give serious consideration, for the sake of your daughter.

Answer 4

a 13 year old is waaaaay too young to date. A 16 year old guy is going to be worlds away from her. When she is 15 or 16 she can handle responsibilities better. At the local middle school here we had many pregnant 12 and 13 year olds. Step up Mom and make some rules, and if you have not done so, teach her about sex and protection.

Answer 5

I think 13 is too young to be dating anyone! At 13 your daughter should have lots of friends and not one specific *boyfriend*- what exactly are the 2 doing when they go on a date? What would be my concern would be what happens when there are no adults around in the car or any place else? I guess the only way I would possibly consider the relationship is that he can come to your house and hang out but I don't think I would let her go on any *car dates* until she turned 16 and was educated about what a relationship at this age should be and not be...

Answer 6

It depends. How modern are you?

Ask yourself - when did you start having sex? Would you be OK with your daughter having sex at the same age?

She may be 13, but is she assertive enough to say "No" to the guy and mean it when she doesn't want to do something?

Are you open enough that if she did come and ask for birth control you would allow it - even at 13 or 14?

What do you know about the boy? Is he smart and well-mannered, or a trouble-maker? That's probably the other main question I would ask. Not because I'm sympathetic to nerds like me, but because someone who's smart and aware of the world probably has given a bit of thought to consequences and planning. Someone who's hoping to be a doctor probably doesn't want to pay child support for the next 18 years - he'll restrain himself, take precautions. Someone who'll pump gas for a living probably doesn't care...

Of course, if he's a loser and you try to stop this, all it will do is make her more determined. You can't win. That's the definition of being a parent.

Does your husband own a hatchet that he can threaten the boy's body parts with?

Answer 7

13 is too young for "single" dates, but going to the movies with a group should be fine, as long as all the kids are about the same age.

Remember what 16 year old boys were like - way too much testosterone that they really did not know how to control? Ummmmmm and 13 year old girls are HOW gullible???????

Later, 3 years is not going to be a big difference - right now it is massive.

Answer 8

wow your daughter is dating at 13 with a 16 year old. this is not right your daughter should not be dating at all imo. a 16 is way to old. maybe let her date in a group dates at 16 and a half or 17.

Answer 9

Why is she dating at 13? And YES a 16 year old is too old for a 13 year old.

Answer 10

She is 13, for goodness sakes. She should not even be dating yet, let alone a 16 y/o that you think is really nice. What goes on in parents minds these days, I just don't get it.