Healthy Mental Health?

Question

Here is a basic description of myself
Currently I'm 2nd year college student. I have no friends, more aquantices, people I will chit chat with here and there. I say hello, they say hello back, etc. No strong friendships or social ties.

I hardly ever go out and when I do I'm by myself. I usually will go a see a movie on a Sunday afternoon and the theater is practically empty. I wondering do I have any strong emotions in my. When my favorite aunt died, I didn't even cry at the funeral. Everyone else around me was. Even my mom and I hardly ever see her shed a tear. The only time I shed a tear is when I have a cold or allergies. Sometimes I just feel numb.

Sometimes I see myself as cold or an uninterested person. When people try to start a conversation with me, I do talk and look them in there eyes. Its like when someone tries to talk me, its like pulling out a tooth. After a while it's like people just give up, and let me be. I just don't feel a connection with people. And
I don't know why.

I rather sit at home in my room and read a book. I'm tired of it. Any tips on what to do or how to build friendships, or stop seeming cold. I've been like this for quite a while, since around 6grade.

Answer 1

You are an introvert and may have a personality disorder. You can get free help at the college infirmary. Now would be a good time to get to the bottom of the problem. It sounds like you have a protective mask to shield you from getting hurt for some reason. Find out why.

Answer 2

It's my second year of high school and I'm going through the exact same thing, but I am putting on an act just so I can be valedictorian and not be hated by others by that time... I guess other people would consider it to be depression and maybe it is... I haven't gotten it checked out-- don't want to-- and I've just gotten colder and colder... I've been like this since 8th grade...

so, well, any tips? I won't tell you to be positive because that does not work. but I have figured something out that DOES help... I'm getting into the whole karma thing... I think that if something bad happens, something good will come... it works some times-- okay all of the time-- but might not for you...

for the friends part... I dunno... it really is hard to trust people these days but just try to be a little more social even if it is at a more shallow level. like a hello, how are you, how's your day, the exam sucked, etc.

If you're the type of person who's okay with it, just try to improve your life a little... talk a little more, go to a few restaurants, even go to the library and open your mind with books... if you don't like this state of mind, go to a counselor and get meds or a good ole fashioned talking to.

Just hope you know that you aren't alone.
Good luck with it.

Answer 3

You sound very normal to me. If you'll happy then all is good. I'm not a person that likes to be around people and I have one friend. She is the same as me and we see each other 3 or 4 times a year. Your normal.
I never cry it's just our personalities.

Just try to find someone who likes doing the same things as you and talk more might let people know you are friendly.

Answer 4

Listen, some of us have little in common with the masses. That doesn't make you weird or wrong. When we do meet people we related with, that is for life.

I don't want to say this. I wouldn't unless I felt that special,, isolation that you feel. Some of us aren't meant to go along with the crowd! That doesn't mean we can't be happy.. it is happiness on a different level. Most people do not understand the independent thinker. Person, fellow human, do not worry about what others see! It is what we see that leads humans!

Be who you are!

Answer 5

Well if your Mom's that way You might have "learned" the behavior from her. If you truly want to feel connected put yourself in more social situations. Try meeting a few people. Go slow and see if you can find some people who are interesting to you. Some people (like me) don't have alot of friends ,but the ones I do have are great. I wish you much happiness and success.

Answer 6

sounds like a personality disorder, like schizoid, but you could just be a loner. Try finding people with similiar interests.I was kinda like that when I was younger. You just gotta learn to open up. We all fell alone sometimes, I used to go everywhere alone, too, to the movies, i don't know why i changed, just as time went on, i opened up, made more friends, etc. Maybe you are into intellectual activities. It's ok, we all feel alone sometimes. I'd rather chill at home too, it's my comfort zone.

Answer 7

It may be hard for you to put yourself out there. My guess is that somewhere someone left you or hurt you at a young age. You need to get out of your comfort zone and try to connect with someone. It may take a while, but eventually you will trust him/her and you will become more comfortable. You also sound very independent, try letting someone else call the shots for a while. Next time someone asks you to do something, go even if you really don't want to.

Answer 8

You could have Social Phobia, Separation Anxiety Disorder, or Schizoid Personality Disorder. Need to see a Counselor or PHD in Psychology at your college. Good luck, Kitty

Answer 9

You are normal. You sound like me.

I describe myself as a realist. If you are tired of being a lonely realist, then find another realist to be with. They won't think you are cold for not caring or feeling certain things. They'll feel the same way.

Seriously, no books, no counseling, just find another realist to be real with.

Answer 10

Sounds like a matter of "like mother, like daughter". And as you are evidently unhappy with the way you live now, would strongly suggest you seek therapy. A therapist can help you to understand why you are who you are, (suggest strongly you explore your relationship with your mom) and then can give you ideas as to how to become who you want to be.
You do not have to be the product of your parents mistakes in child rearing, you can be who and what you want to be....see a therapist and get your head straight.