you? What would you say to him if he told the judge you were an abusive parent to him?
2006-09-01 10:34:10 · 13 answers · asked by ladetina 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'd be upset that I hadn't raised a better son.
2006-09-01 10:37:57 · answer #1 · answered by jimvalentinojr 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well the first thing I would do is look within myself and see if I really was abusive. Abuse comes in many forms besides physical, which I'm sure you're aware of. Why did he attack you to begin with? Did he have a reason to? If his allegations were false I can't imagine an attorney even being willing to take his case to begin with. If the alligations were true, then I would find a counselor and learn to parent my child without being abusive. Sometimes admitting truth is very hard. I don't know what your situation is, but true or not, there are problems between you and your son that need to be resolved with someone else mediating between you. I wish you the best. Above all, be real in this situation - admit what you've done wrong and maybe your son will too - so that the hurt on both sides can begin to heal. - prayers -
2006-09-01 10:45:03 · answer #2 · answered by heartforhelping 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know that the allegations are not true and that he is simply fabricating these allegations against you so he could harm you. I would not see him as my son anymore., I am a mother and I know that it is hard to say and do, but that is what I would do. I would not tell him anything and I would request the judge to have him removed from my house as he is a threat to me and any other(s) family members which are residing with you. I would also put on the record that because of his violent behavior I believe that he is under the influence of either drugs and/or alcohol. I would treat this like any legal matter and see him as not my son, but any 16 year old. If he wants to be tough, then you be tough, if he does not know how lucky he is for having a mother, then he should not have one., he will have to fight, struggle, to show me once again that he should be loved by me!!! A mother is not the lucky one for having kids., the kids are the lucky ones for having a mother that takes care of them and struggles to give them only the best. Kids now a days, think that they are doing us a favor for being around, at least once they turn a certain age when they think that they need nobody and could do it on their own. I would tell him, listen move out, go rent a room and live on your own, do not be a burden on me, if you are a man, act like a man and do not come back to my house. Do you have any idea how many mothers leave their children, neglect them, abuse them, etc., and if your son is so ungrateful that he does not appreaciate everything that you have done and given him, step away - - treat him like a MAN not a child.... If you have anything to say to him, it would be: Be a man and get out of my house and stop depending on me to provide for you! As of this date, you have no mother, I gave you my everything and I loved you unconditionally and you gave me NOTHING in return, so I wish you the best and only the best and the day that you do realize that you mistreated, disrespected your OWN mother, maybe it will not be too late for me to forgive you when and if you come back asking for forgiveness. . .
2006-09-01 10:43:56 · answer #3 · answered by Snowwhite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't abusive, I wouldn't be afraid to look the judge in the eye. Your son has issues and if you don't take care of them now they are only going to escalate. He'd have to prove abuse with witnesses or pictures, and if you are a good parent he won't have a leg to stand on. It might just get him deeper in trouble. If he's threatening to do this, then call his bluff. You have to take a stand.
2006-09-01 10:36:47 · answer #4 · answered by S. O. 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
kids dont turn out that way for nothing. you did something to get a kid like this, even if it was the fact that you did nothing, that is still something. not enough dicipline is just as abusive as too much. take charge and do something now, before it is too late and he ruins his life and ends up in jail.
i am guessing divorced with a single parent household, little or no supervision while you work, date, whatever. spent more time with the tv or his loser friends than with a role model?
any of this hitting close to home?
2006-09-01 10:43:00 · answer #5 · answered by paintmetalwood 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Legally, the only thing you could do is to tell the juge that your son is "incourageable". This would force the courts to remove your son from the house. You cant kick him out etc. This is the only way to help your kid. If you truly feel there is no other awnser, and you are in fear, do this. Like Burger King-have it your way!
2006-09-05 09:31:25 · answer #6 · answered by jenCSI 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, are you abusive? abuse comes in two forms....verbal and physical.
think about it.
word of advice: try not to practice adultism (total control)....you've been a teen once too, keep that in mind when dealing with your son. if you wish for your son to respect you, you have to set the example.
2006-09-01 10:40:02 · answer #7 · answered by giggling.willow 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Firstly, I would not allow the child back in the house.
Secondly, I would go to court, refuse to enter a plea, and tell the judge to mind his own business. If he wants to raise my child, he is more than welcome to take him home.
2006-09-01 11:01:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, are you? sorry to say, but you got 2 more years with this bad azz kid, pray and ask god to give you strength, and when that kid turns 18, kick his azz to the curb, if thats doesn't work, you run away, good luck
2006-09-01 10:38:04 · answer #9 · answered by davionmw 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd be confused. I'd ask myself what I had done to get such a crazy son.
2006-09-01 10:36:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋