Question to other mothers out there?

Question

What do you do if your teenage son physically attacks you when you punish him for bad grades and he curses you for not letting him drop out of school?

Answer 1

You must be pretty bored. Judging from your previous questions....I'm surprised this one doesn't containg the word "toilet"

Answer 2

That is a tough one. I don't have teenagers yet but maybe taking this up with the school counceler might help. Instead of punishing him for the bad grades, it might not be a bad idea to find out why he is getting them and also why he wants to drop out of school. He may be having a hard time understanding certain subjects or he may be getting teased at school. I don't agree with teachers or parents punishing a child for behavior, unless they have tried to get to the root of the problem first.

If he is just lazy and unmotivated then by all means, he needs to be punished, But if there is some type of learning disorder, he has a very difficult teacher, or is being made fun of at school, these may be reasons that he doesn't want to be there.

That is where I would start though. But don't hesitate to call the police if your physically in danger.

Answer 3

I do not have this problem...my son is six months. I have personal teenage experience about this. I had a pretty good childhood, there was no reason for me to act the way I did. I was a depressed teen. I never physically attacked my parents but I was very disrespectful and rude. I wanted to move in with my boyfriend. My parents tried everything, counceling, locking me in my room, punishment. Nothing they tried worked. They HAD to let me go. I was sixteen when I left, about to turn seventeen. My parents had just moved to Ohio...I moved to New Mexico. Just to spite them and to prove I was worth something (and I admit it...to make them proud) I finished off school....I only had a half a year left. I did what I thought was right. I should actually say what my parents taught me was right. I still live with my boyfriend...he's now my husband and we have a beautiful son. I love my parents...we have the best relationship. Had they not let me go...I would be into more drugs, trouble, and maybe even in jail. They never did anything wrong. They did their best raising me. They raised my sister the same an in my eyes she was "perfect"...followed the rules, got good grades, helped around the house, had good friends...etc. Some kids are just different. Do what you feel is right but I just thought I'd share my story. I thank my parents everyday for their decision and in MY situation...it was the best. Good Luck and God Bless you and your son!

Sorry this was so long!

Answer 4

If my child physically attacked me? His father would take care of that :) Actually I have raised a very loving, tender child. I am guessing you did not. Ask him if he would rather go to a child detention center where they will make him earn good grades and follow the rules to earn privleges. And start making him earn his keep around the house. Sounds like you are raising a very selfish kid and if you don't do something quick, you'll be visiting him in jail. Get some counselling for the both of you as well so you can figure out how to relate to one another and communicate.

Answer 5

Teenagers can be hard to raise. Have patience and know that we all went through phases during our teens.

As for the violence, it should not be tolerated. If talking calmly doesn't help, seek professional advice. School counsellor preferrably.

Although, I never punished my kids for bad grades. I do on occasion take away things that they love, for a few days or weeks. Raising them is hard enough. So when it comes to punishment... parents just need to keep in mind that it helps to be realistic & stick to our guns.

So good luck with finding an even balance with your son. Have faith and good things will come to you.

Answer 6

I let my son know when he was little, I'm not the one to try. Now he's 20, 6'4", wears a size 17 shoe and DOES NOT try me. You've got to nip his bad behavior in the bud WAY before his teenage years. When they get that age and that out of control, you've got to into this mode: "I can show you better than I can tell you". Make a call-he's gotta go. His anger is deep laden, and you're gonna be the target because you're the easiest the most vulnerable. Get him out and get him help-QUICKLY! Before it's too late! Good Luck!!

Answer 7

Seek help! He may be doing drugs,bad or mean things. Try talking to him not yelling at him. Maybe even have someone else that he trust talk to him. Kids are scared to talk to parents because they don't want to get in trouble or they feel the parents won't understand. Also check with the school maybe he is having problems with some people at school and he is afraid of saying anything

Answer 8

I don't have teenagers yet, but I would think if he's attacking you physcially, he might need intervention from the law. He has anger issues and he might hurt you or someone else someday. You might have to face the possibility of having him arrested for assault. If he doesn't learn that violence has consequences he could really hurt someone some day without thinking twice.

Answer 9

Physically attacks you - call the police. Counselling may be in order!

Answer 10

Tough situation. Anyway, tell him that if he hits you again, you will call the police. Tell him also the reasons why you don't want him to quit school, try to talk it out when he calms down.

Answer 11

pay and send his *** to juvenile hall for 2 weeks. and if that dosen't work the next time he attacks you call the police and press charges. it's all about tough love. love your self first.