Well , Im 16 and I have basically been going through a weight problem all my life, Im real nice and sweet and I will help people if I can.. I mean most guys either say they don't like big girls, Im to sweet. and everything..I'm not in this for the guys ,but I would like to get some friends.Yeah. All my life I have had people put me down for what I am. and I deal with is .. now Im in high school and well, it seems some people don't get anymore mature. all I hear is people bring my weight. They don't care that Im smart. I have a 4.0 adv. and that Im actually nice. Why are guys like that?
2006-09-01 10:24:48 · 14 answers · asked by Corie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To the people that have asked... I m trying to lose weight and I do have friends...I have bunches of them.. they think Im beautiful and that I shouldn't feel bad about the little comments ,but all in all.. they do hurt after a while and then sometimes you start believeing them.
2006-09-01 10:40:10 · update #1
because they are shallow and mean people
2006-09-01 10:27:21 · answer #1 · answered by Sexxssay? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know you or your medical history and you say you've historically had weight problems. I am assuming therefore that you have been trying to do something about your weight and I'm not going to go there. That's between you and your doctor to figure out.
The male gender is primarily hardwired for more slender women. That is nature. Style may dictate what style of slender is currently in fashion, but the basic inherited instincts are there. The bottom line is sexual attraction, especially during the teenage years.
As to people not caring that you're smart. Unfortunately, the fact that you're smart may actually intensify the remarks about your weight. Fact may be that they are jealous and wish they had your smarts and use your weight as a leveling device. Please, do not take this as a message that you should play down your intelligence or attempt to fit in by dumbing down. That would not be a good plan.
There are always going to be clods in this world. Sometimes it seems that they are in the vast majority. Fortunately, most do eventually grow out of it. Some never do.
I know that its hard to be patient, especially when you're a teenager and everything is about friends, fashion and what's hot. But the good thing about bad things is that eventually they will change. Just keep being nice. Don't let them make you into someone you wouldn't want to know.
2006-09-01 17:44:48 · answer #2 · answered by Magic One 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the age mixed in with hormones. Some guys and people in generally dont really think about others and their feelings, especially in high school!! High school can be one of the hardest times in your life or it could be the best years of your like, it just depends on how you want it to be. To find friends maybe you should join a student organization or group that might sound interesting to you. Dont worry after you graduate you look back and see that it all really doesnt matter cause you will probably never see most of those people again, no matter what "group" you were in. Good Luck!! :)
2006-09-01 17:32:45 · answer #3 · answered by Lindsey H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To the guys who cut you down they are immature. They don't have a brain big enough to comprehend that women who are smart, can sometimes treat them better.
But about the size, it isn't just a guy thing. Everyone has what they like, I myself happen to like small chicks but you don't see me cutting you down :D. I have some friends who like the :more to love: sized women. It's all in how you were raised what you were raised around. You're smart you don't need a guy right now because honestly you probably won't make it. But don't give a dang what guys say, you worked hard to get where you are, in brains and weight. It defines who you are and one day, no matter what 1 guy will love you for exactly who you are.
Hope this has helped answer your question and for all you ladies out there. Be yourself, don't change yourself for no man, because in the end the scumbag isn't worth it.
Oh and to the guys who told her to loose weight, she isn't humongous so grow the **** up. Magic One, first of all Nature doesn't make us guys attracted to slender women. It's the ******* moron guys who want to stupid *** Blonde Cheerleader *****. But thats ok.. you get your cheerleader because once school ends and thier friends go away, they end up a big blong plumb.. Full of juicy filling... and you end up jobless living in your mom's basement.
I know plenty of guys who won't date a slender chick, they dont' want a girl they could easily snap in half. It's all depending on who you meet. The guys you never know in school probably are into you but most people just pay attention to the jerkoff class clowns. Corie, my advice for you find you some nerd who is extra smart, lol. But women are into the good looking guy too. So it's not all about men, but hope that answers your question.
P.S. I'm goodlooking and concieted... it's a package deal lmao!
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2006-09-01 20:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by Chris E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hormones, pure and simple. Once they get to be about 30 guys do stop being so judgemental and realize there were alot of reall cool girls they could have been with if they had not been such pratts. Plus they hang out with crowds of other guys that think its just not cool to date someone who doesnt look like a barbie doll. The flip side of the coin is if you are the Barbie they think you are brain dead and eassy to get to bed. i used to wish i was invisible. They didnt really care i have a brain or was in ap honors classes either. But now im older and have found out blessed be the do out grow it! Hang in there!
2006-09-01 17:32:09 · answer #5 · answered by mother_of_bonehead 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl it's not jus guys that's every body, the only answer i can give is that's jus a way of life, try not to let it get to u, im a lil big myself, and guys and even jus my friends do me like that, all last year of my freshmen year people would ask if i was pregnant and all that crap! it was tuff, it still is now, but u jus gotta know u are beautifully made by god and them guys that be actin da way that they do, dont worry bout them! i reali u hadnt asked for all this but i wanted 2 encourage u! cuz girls u gon' be dealin with guys like that for the rest of ur life like i said it's a way of life! hoped i help if u wanna chat more sometime email me at eshavonnetucker@yahoo.com lemme know if there's anything else u strugglin wit or wuteva kay? feel free.
2006-09-01 17:37:56 · answer #6 · answered by Here2Help 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everyone not just guys can be like that...it's so awesome that you know your positive features...Don't ever let anyone make you think you're less than a beautiful wonderful individual with faults and gifts...we all have faults and wonderful qualities...if you're happy with yourself this will radiate from you and you will be able to ignore stupid rude and insecure people who are only mean to make themselves feel better about their faults...and NO people don't get nicer in high school if anything they get LESS mature and more superficial!! Love yourself and ignore the losers and be nice even when this is hard...you will be better in the long run--good luck beautiful!!!!
2006-09-01 17:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by *walkinthelight* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GUYS SUCK! Actually human beings in general suck. Nobody cares about other peoples feelings anymore. It has become and inhumane world. But I know that people do get a little better when you enter the college stages. Just hang in there hun and keep being you. Don't let other people get you down!
2006-09-01 17:29:09 · answer #8 · answered by day dreamin baby 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
when people make fun of anything that's different than what they consider to be normal, they do it to reassure themselves that they're OK. in high school it's about fitting in a clique. just find your clique, loose some weight or not that's your choice. you'll be healthier if you do. try to find a way to enjoy high school and forget about the people that base a friend on how much or little they weigh.
2006-09-01 17:45:49 · answer #9 · answered by The Key Master 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could be the most terrific person in the world and people will find any way to put someone down. Maybe you should try to loose weight from a health standpoint
2006-09-01 17:29:09 · answer #10 · answered by Jimbo23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just ignore them you dont need people like that. They are probably just jealous because you are smart. Just think to yourself everytime they say crap to that you are a smart girl and you will have a great career someday and where will they be? nowhere!
2006-09-01 17:30:20 · answer #11 · answered by jessica 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋