and he gets super upset and thinks that he will always be alone..He knows I am trying to work on my problems, and I cant do that while I am trying to focus on "us" or should I say him... I have always made 1125% effort with surprising him with a hotel, restraunts, always thinking about how we can spice up the relationship..evenl lingerie and he says it doesn turn him on..he didnt even do anything for me for valentines day, I cooked dinner, candles, etc...I just feel like along with my problems that I need to take care of he does not appreciate me ..I am not materialistic at all, but he never wants to go out, I am super outgoing..and he would rather stay at home and watch a movie..now he is telling me that he has thought about killing himself in the past and now because he has had a bad life...I just feel that if he loves em like he says he does he would give me that break..
2006-09-01 10:17:45 · 9 answers · asked by nrsechica 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
buy him a gun!!!! bang!!!! bang!!! next!!
2006-09-01 10:21:48 · answer #1 · answered by geminidrums 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh does this sound like a repeat of my second marriage. Except he never threatened to kill himself. First off - because he has threatened to off himself he is being very immature, selfish, manipulative, and controlling! Had a boyfriend when I was 16 who did this! He's still alive, married for 18 years to someone else, and has 3 children. He's trying to make you stay by being an a**!
I also was the one trying so hard to keep the relationship vibrant, and fun, and romantic! I didn't get a valentine's anything one year. I had planned a 2 day get away for us, candles, massage oil, food. He got there and called his buddy first thing and talked for an hour - both days!! Stupidly I stayed with this man for another seven years!! It was a complete waste of my time. I broke up with him once and he schmoozed me right back into his arms and the same crap all over again just a different year!
How old is this boyfriend? Thinks he's always gonna be alone? He will with that attitude! But why are you making this your problem? If he knows that you have problems of your own that you're trying to work on, he should be a man and bow out respecting your wishes for a break. Don't take care of him - take care of YOU!!! His mama taught him how to wipe his own rear end and nose, so let him snivel to her!! Honest to God, you will sink right along with him into his dark hole of depression. Do you really want that for your life?
2006-09-01 17:38:25 · answer #2 · answered by yokrem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well no one knows the whole story, just you and him, but I will tell you this much, you seem to be the type of person that is always trying to make him Happy.....Right? well here is a piece of advice, in order for him to be Happy, you have to first make yourself Happy....... Just because he is the movie couch kind of person and you are the outgoing type doesnt mean that you cant be together... seems to be more to the situation, than that..... but this is my advice to you, the old saying you dont know what you have until it is gone, it seems to me that will do you both some good, it will be hard as it always is leaving someone that you love, but with them gone he can realize what he had, and no longer has, and it will give you both time to figure out what it is that you really want.... take care girl and good luck
2006-09-01 17:24:13 · answer #3 · answered by Kimmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly what you want. Do you want to stop seeing him or do you want a break? It seems to me that you two are just not made for each other in any way. Girl, get out of this relation ASAP. Over and Out.
2006-09-01 17:23:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, if you dont want to be with him then dont. It sounds to me like he is trying tomake you feel guilty and he is just being selfish. I had an ex who I seriouly was afraid to break up with him cause I thought he might kill himself, but when I finally did he realized that we were not supposed to be with each other.Also it is not your place to try and change him, he needs to want to do it for himself. If you think that he REALLY might kill himself then you need to call a hotline or something.
Dont worry you deserve to think about yourself every now and then!
2006-09-01 17:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by Lindsey H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh he's one of them clingy needy ones that resort to threaten to kill themselves. Tell him if that's what it's going to take to get over this, then so be it. Break away and never look back. He's got problems....big problems.
2006-09-01 17:22:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you got to do if he can't at least give you time he's just looking for attention and that's not good for you because it will eventually put a strain on your relationship
2006-09-01 17:20:13 · answer #7 · answered by USAF1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel and even if he refuses keep walkin girl try dat out and holla at me at csnsjy@yahoo.com
2006-09-01 17:24:23 · answer #8 · answered by Tha Peoples Champ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him "See ya"
2006-09-01 17:20:34 · answer #9 · answered by imnotbtami 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋