So she thinks she is pregnant. She say abortion is out of the question. fine by me, but I already have a baby's mama. I don't need two. That means Im marrying this time. but she doesn't want to get married. But the way I feel is all or nothing. If she doesn't want to marry me then I don't want to pay child support. can I sue for this? what to do?
2006-09-01 10:11:16 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you peope are missing the point. I want to be a dad, all the way. I just don't want to get dragged through that awful child support system. If you don't know what its like don't judge. I care about the girl. I have no problem with her being preg. but if she doesn't want to do the family thing correctly. then i don't want to be punished because of her.
2006-09-01 10:20:23 · update #1
Maybe you can compromise, If she doesn't want to get married, talk to her about what the two of you can do together. You can settle this out of court, as long as you hold to your agreement. And who knows, maybe someday she will realize that she loves you and wants to marry you. But now her hormones have taken over and she is probably scared to death about having a baby, never mind getting married.
Whatever happens, make sure you are there for this baby in every way possible. The happiness of this child is all that matters right now, not what you decide you want to do. Best of luck with everything.
2006-09-01 10:42:59 · answer #1 · answered by keri0426 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sorry pal, it doesn't work that way. Get ready to pay for the next 18 or so years.
No, you can't sue! But if you don't pay support, you may rest assured that SHE will sue you.
You'd think that having done the baby mama thing once already you would have got your head out of your backside and taken precautions.
This is something that you should have been talking to her about BEFORE you two started messing around and got her pregnant.
It doesn't matter that you don't WANT to pay child support all over again. You will, like it or not.
Start thinking with the head on top of your shoulders, not the other one. Stupid is as stupid does I guess...
2006-09-01 10:27:19 · answer #2 · answered by Bostonian In MO 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd love to see you try to sue her for choosing to have your baby and/or deciding not to marry you! Please, I'm begging you to take her to a TV court show, cuz I will be waiting w-popcorn!
You took the chance of getting her pregnant and having ANOTHER illegitimate child whenever you had unprotected sex BEFORE marrying her. You obviously knew that it was a likely consequence, considering she will be "Baby's Momma #2".
BTW, it's not all or nothing when it comes to bringing a child into the world. Sadly, this thinking is probably what caused you to make the wrong decision twice.
My advice is.... wait until you find someone who you love, who wants to marry you & bear your children, marry her, and then make babies. Better yet, at this point, your just better off raising the ones you helped create, keeping a healthy relationship with your baby's mommas, and keep it in your pants or at least a condom!
2006-09-01 10:37:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time keep your pants zipped up. You're just as much responsible for this situation as her, and yes, you do have to pay child support. Why would you want to sue someone you would otherwise want to marry? Ok, I know this is a hard situation for a guy to be in, and it must suck and maybe hurt a lot too, if you really did want to marry her. However, it will be your child too, and you have to take the responsibility one way or the other.
2006-09-01 10:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You share responsibility for the pregnancy. You don't own her or her decisions. Just the way it is. Your shared responsibility for the pregnancy has nothing to do with any relationship you may or may not have with her afterwards. You can't sue.
What to do?
Start using contraceptives properly with women you know, trust, and respect. Stop thinking of women as objects to be used, manipulated and controlled. Don't try to make important decisions based on the way you feel. Feelings are great, but pregnancy and marriage are grown up issues that relate to the way TWO people feel and adult responsibilities, not just the way YOU feel. I hope she is more mature than you are, and that you get nowhere near that child.
P.S. Do i get a Best Answer?! LOL
P.P.S. 'Punished because of her?' She can chose to have the child and you will get to help pay for it. That isn't punishment. That's her choice, and you being responsible for that which you helped create. What we aren't 'getting' is your dellusion. Try to 'get' what we're saying.
2006-09-01 10:15:03 · answer #5 · answered by moment_in_passing 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You will pay for 18 years. You are very, very stupid for not wearing a condom and your punishment will far outweigh your crime so I feel sorry for you.
All I can say is smarten up, suck it up, and pay your 18 YEARS of child support like all the other poor suckers who knock girls up because they thought they knew better than everyone who tells you to USE BIRTH CONTROL!
2006-09-01 10:17:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can you listen - She told you what she wants.
Is many people not marry but living together like merry people and raising children, taking responsibility.
Don't look for religion - look for spirituality of life and goods for your family like that.
Is no reason for anger and distraction any way later maybe she wants get marry and you say no - and what.
Keep how it is and enjoy family life.
2006-09-01 10:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your in a tough dilemma.
But you can't put yourself first anymore. If she doesn't want to marry you, so be it. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want you in that way if you do? Just do your level best for the baby, good luck.
2006-09-01 10:26:45 · answer #8 · answered by melisker 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
nicely he's an lawyer so i ought to say he ought to manage the equipment and no matter if that is a smaller city he ought to have a good type of connections with legal professionals and judges....You more effective employ your own lawyer, a ruthless one.
2016-12-06 03:01:57 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to break it to you, but if you father a child, you have to pay for it, regardless of whether you want to or not. Keep your zipper up and you won't have this problem.
2006-09-01 10:16:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋