2006-09-01 09:59:41 · 30 answers · asked by toy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Engagements, marriage & then babies. It gives more security to children- child support is guaranteed & as quickly as the acceptance of unwed pregancies came, the
unacceptance can arrive. Society has always been fickled when accepting children born out of marriage.
2006-09-01 10:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfpacker 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes of course. It is really important to at least think about or plan the important things before making a commitment to someone that you love.
Hopefully you will spend the rest of your life with the person that you marry and dealing with big issues such as children now will allow you both to make sure that you have similar ideas and are coming from the same place.
It might also be an idea to thoroughly discuss other issues regarding parenthood too such as discipline, education, childcare and family involvement as well as the physical preparation such as timing, fitness, smoking, drinking and diet.
Best wishes and good luck.
2006-09-02 08:44:47 · answer #2 · answered by honeybunchkaminski 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's a personal choice, but I think it's a good idea to enjoy your marriage before bringing a baby into the picture. Get to spend time with your spouse, travel, get to know what it's like to be one with them. Then, once you've experienced your partner with no interruptions, have a child.
2006-09-01 20:37:26 · answer #3 · answered by chocolate-drop 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not okay. You should be married - that's ridiculous!!!
Are you not planning to stay together? Then why wouldn't get married before having a child. If you can't comit to that man, then what kind of a position are you in to comit to caring for a child.
2006-09-05 16:52:20 · answer #4 · answered by Vicki B 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah is okay. i have two kids while i was engage and we still love each other even thou we are every far from each other. i think is for u too know how u can take of ur kids not every man likes when the cries u know what am saying, when they are still little by the time they grow up like 2-3yrs and you deside to leave together it will be a great fun b'cos your kid that time will be like a sister to u.
2006-09-04 09:16:14 · answer #5 · answered by tomapepe 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Absolutely NOT. Don't go by these immature girls you might read about or hear about. That is definitely not okay. A baby deserves a two parent happy home.
2006-09-01 22:09:49 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
no, thats wrong to have a child when you are not commited to the person that you are with. I could see if you were single, older, not in a serious relationship and could afford to do so on your own. But otherwise why get the cart before the horse?
2006-09-01 18:11:59 · answer #7 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yep recently my friends daughter had her Wedding Celebration Party, that was after she returned from her honeymoon, where they got married abroad, with them came their children and grandchildren! All about face! But then they are all happy.= and I guess that's what counts. Most the folks I know there days don't bother to get married at all, so I am glad I am doing the family tree now, and not in about 5O years time!
2006-09-01 17:04:41 · answer #8 · answered by SUPER-GLITCH 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
in my first marriage, we married 1st, then had a child & divorced.
I then met someone else, lived together, knew we could stand each other ! Then had a baby, and are getting married next year.
I think its better this way, we knew we could stand the pressure before having a child.
2006-09-02 08:03:43 · answer #9 · answered by justine m 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
As long as you're with a serious partner you should have a baby when the time is right for you.
2006-09-02 04:49:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋