HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm in desperate need of guidance. Since having unprotected sex with my cousin I'm worried I might be pregnant. He has a wife and four children that he lives with and another child that he has refused to see for 14 years. What do i do???
2006-09-01 09:49:17 · 67 answers · asked by PlAy_GuRl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would call, in this order:
Jerry Springer
Maury Polvich
Montel Williams
Sally Jesse Raphael
2006-09-01 09:51:46 · answer #1 · answered by Allen G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I don't know what led to you having sex with your cousin (I pray he's a distant cousin or a cousin my marriage) and I am trying to approach this with an open mind... If you are under the age of 18 and you find out that you are pregnant that's statchatory rape and he can be penalized and held responsible for his part in all of this...so what if you were a willing participant...he's the adult and he should know better and if his wife gets mad at you then tough- she should know what her man is about...you were wrong child, but you need to take responsibility for your actions and face the music. Appologize to everyone that can be hurt by this and seek some councelling thru your church.
2006-09-06 06:14:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not only is having sex w/ your cousin wrong, but he also has a family and you caused him to be a cheater- do you want to start a trend like that for yourself? I hope you have learned a lesson from all of this- now, you need to wait- if you are in fact pregnant- you could always get an abortion and make sure no one knows- but your cousin is going to have to help pay for it- or you could keep it and tell no one who's child it is- that's really for you to look inside your heart and evaluate whats right- you knew the consequences before playing the game- and if you didn't then your to young to have sex anyways
2006-09-06 02:31:15 · answer #3 · answered by shannon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly,,take a test,,if you are you need to work out when you tell him and the family as they will want to know who the father is. it will be tough but more-so for him as he should know better,he is married,has children,he could lose it all but that isnt your concern.you will need to sort child support if you intend to go through with the pregnancy and for that you need to state who the father is,dont take all this alone,tell him and make sure you only take the portion of blame that is rightly yours,he had a choice too so it isnt all you,is it.dont be bullied into anything and tell your parents if they can help you deal with this,whether or not it was wrong what both of you did there may be a baby on the way and it takes a tough cookie to ignore a baby despite who is the father.there will be trouble with this problem but make it clear to yourself that you did not do this alone.
2006-09-06 01:20:32 · answer #4 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Lord Girl, what were you thinking? If my cousin were the last man on earth, then to procreate ok, but just to have sex, you both have a BIG problem. Although , it is accepted in many latin countries to marry cousins it is not the norm here, unless you are from arkansas. If you are pregnant abort it. Good possibility of birth defects becasue of an all to similar gene pool. If you can not do that your stupid actions will cause family turmoil for years to come.
2006-09-05 16:04:03 · answer #5 · answered by vivib 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you live in the sticks of Arkansas?
You and your cousin have now distroyed your own lives
and his wife and his kids too.
Your a real winner, NOT!
As far as being pregnant, you should have asked us if
it was the right to sleep with your cousin and we would have
told you about how sick you were BEFORE this happened!
2006-09-07 00:17:00 · answer #6 · answered by together420yrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you do depends on several things(minor tell parents or trusted older relative and see a Dr.)How long ago did this happen See DR. If you can not see your family Dr. go to a walk-in clinic They will respect your privacy and can give you the name of an agency that can help you. Be honest with them. Most important STAY AWAY FROM THIS COUSIN Please do not just sit and worry do something proactive Good luck. Ann
2006-09-01 10:04:15 · answer #7 · answered by al 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first, find out for sure if you're pregnant or not. second, be truthful with your cousin and inform him of this dilemma, as he did play a vital role in all of this. after it's brought to his attention, sit down and talk to him about what you two are going to do. weigh the pros and cons of every suggestion, for example, going ahead with the pregnancy and raising the child as a single mother (but since you are cousins the baby could indeed be born with birth defects, complications, etc.), aborting the pregnancy, and on and on. Whatever decision is made, make sure that the both of you agree with, adhere to, and support each other during the actions that are to be carried out. And last but not least, pray and seek direction from God because he is the only one who truly has the answer that's going to provide you with the peace you need during this time.
2006-09-01 10:00:07 · answer #8 · answered by swilkes8305 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
that is not for us to decide. you know what you need to do. you knew you were wrong when you made the conscious decision to sleep with your married cousin. you knew the consequences of your actions. as far as him refusing to see this child for 14yrs should tell you what kind of person he is. go get a pregnancy to find out if you are in fact pregnant and then decide what you should do then
2006-09-05 16:08:44 · answer #9 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must wait until it is time for you monthly cycle. If you cycle is late, then you must consider buying a pregnancy test. Having unprotected sex with anyone is taking a big chance of becoming pregant or getting a STD. One wonders why the both of you took this chance.
2006-09-01 09:58:43 · answer #10 · answered by david42 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋