My godchild is living with me and my boyfriend because his mother left him and his brother in May for a man she meet off the internet ! I am getting help for the oldest he is talking to someone about whats going on. Do you think my godchild is to young to talk to someone or should it be ok. He is 4 years old!
2006-09-01 09:48:13 · 23 answers · asked by Amy L 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Wow. Thank God you are there for him. How horrible of a situation. You could talk to his doctor to see what would be appropriate for a child his age. I think you should tell him as much as you can that you love him and you are glad he is with you so he feels secure and wanted. Good job to you!
2006-09-01 09:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kudos to you for being so caring and trying the best for these kids. They may be going through something no child should have to, but they are truly blessed to have someone like you who cares.
There are child psychiatry specialists for all ages I believe. Seek help from the kids' pediatrician (or any pediatrician if you don't know who it is) for recommendations.
Also, you probably want to check in with the pediatrician anyway for when the kids need to go in for any check ups or shots. Make sure you get the mothers insurance info or look into a program that provides free or low cost health insurance for kids. Those appointments can be pricey if your not covered.
Good luck to you!
One more thing. Kids that age will love their Mom no matter what and will wonder if they did anything bad to make them leave. If he asks, try to re-assure him that he didn't do anything wrong. And, all kids, big and small, but especially small need to be told and re-assured that no matter what the situation, they will be taken care of. When one person leaves... especially someone they love and depend on as much as Mom, its a logical process for them to worry that everyone else may up and leave without warning too.
2006-09-02 05:14:14 · answer #2 · answered by Amalthea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so sad that mother will go that far for what she think is love. When in fact, children have so much love because hate is learned. A child will love you when no one else will and will forgive because their hearts are so pure. However, as for the 4 year old, just love him as much as you can. And when he ask about his mommy just say that mommy is busy right now and I will make sure that your taken care of. Most of the time a child thinks that a parent leaves because of them. In doing so they get a feeling of rejection in life.
2006-09-01 09:56:12 · answer #3 · answered by roach killer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to a child psychologist. They can work wonders with young children. I had a child in foster care who was 4. The psychologist conducted play therapy, which was very helpful because he was able to play and express himself at the same time in ways that he normally wouldn't.
I wish you the best of luck.
2006-09-01 09:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by proud mom of 2 girls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's a bad idea. It will be better then being twenty and still having the issues he has now. Even if he can't tell it's benefiting him now, he may feel it benefited him when we gets a older. Good job stepping up to the plate and helping out!
2006-09-01 09:52:10 · answer #5 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can let him talk to some one but who knows what he says is gonna hurt or help u you should talk to him or let him talk to you. You are a very wonderful person miss Amy. I've had to take in other children several times and the best thing is to keep things normal and let them have fun. you don't want their heads messed with unnecessarily.
2006-09-01 09:51:45 · answer #6 · answered by someones sister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him ,he may not be old enough to be able to wrap around the situation coming from a stranger could make even a bigger deal out of it
2006-09-01 13:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by stacie_collins2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids have a way of dealing with things on their own. If you notice something bad, or he asks a lot of question, just answer as truthfuly as you can. If you don't think you have what it takes to help him get past this, have a therapist help him.
2006-09-01 09:51:21 · answer #8 · answered by Private Account 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child psychologists successfully deal with kids who have trauma as young as 2 years old. Go for it.
2006-09-01 09:49:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
be very honest with him if he asks questions but do not be blunt or say things against his mother as he grows up he will form his own opinion. as long as you are straight with him he should be emotionaly fine, and en courage his sibling to be open with him as well and that will help the sibling.....i know it may seem that he is to young for such realities but being open and honest has no age limits
2006-09-01 09:57:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋