Money always ends up being an issue. They are registered at the Bay, but what? Shall I bring some home-made wine? Can I get away with just being there (My cousins wedding). How do I do this without feeling like a heal?
2006-09-01 09:38:48 · 25 answers · asked by Shelli_k18 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Tradition states you have 1 year from the date of the wedding to send a gift.
Take it from me - at least bring a card to the wedding. We had a small wedding(less than 50 people), so when we opened the card box and didn't see cards from my aunt and cousins, we were afraid someone may have taken it. But nope, they just didn't give us any gifts.
If money is an issue, how about going to the book store and finding an inexpensive funny book about newlyweds or something? It shows you thought of them without spending too much.
But yes, you can go without a gift, but please bring a card.
2006-09-02 10:42:33 · answer #1 · answered by Moxie1313 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about giving something that doesn't cost money? You need to give them a card atleast and at least put in a certificate that is for baby sitting services once they get married & have kids...You can bring them a bottle of home made wine, but try to be creative on the label, and personalize to the bride & groom and date it the wedding date - They will love that for a gift.
2006-09-01 11:44:17 · answer #2 · answered by SweetNurse 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just bring some cash if you can. If not then a few bottles of wine will be just fine! I've been to weddings when I didn't have money and didn't give a gift right away. A few months later when I do have the cash I just mailed them some. Some people never gave us anything for our wedding but I would have rather had them there than anything else
2006-09-01 09:41:57 · answer #3 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's actually not proper to bring a present TO the wedding or reception. It should be shipped to the bride's home or the couple's home, before or after the wedding.
Also, wedding gifts are never mandatory. If money is seriously an issue, get a small gift or make something yourself. Homemade wine would be interesting and thoughtful.
2006-09-01 12:51:11 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't feel like a "heel". Give what you can - the wine sounds really, really special - dress it up with tissue or that clear plasticky stuff and put a few bottles in a gift basket, tie with a huge bow, add a card - and Bob's your uncle! Have fun, too! oh, p.s. see if you can make a label on your or someone's computer with their names and the date of their wedding on it - that would be cool.
2006-09-01 15:11:51 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bring a little something, home made wine is fine. Make sure you put a little effort into it. Make/buy a nice card. Its the thought that counts. I had 2 or 3 relatives who showed up at my reception without even a card. It hurt my feelings more than I wanted a gift. They just wanted free food and beer.
2006-09-01 10:12:37 · answer #6 · answered by SavvyGrl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just take a card with some tape on the envelope, when you get to the wedding walk over to the table with all of the gifts on it, stick the tape to one of the bigger wrapped boxes and pull it off the box. You should have a little bit of wrapping paper stuck to the tape, now just kind of throw the card on the table, making it look like the card had fallen off of a wrapped gift. latter when the bride and groom go through the gifts and cards, they'll see the paper stuck to the tape and think you got them something. Write something in the card like, "I'm sure you can really use this, love aunt Merna". NOBODY WILL EVER KNOW! It's perfect!
2006-09-01 09:51:05 · answer #7 · answered by Alan J 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is proper etiquette to not take a gift to the wedding or reception.
You can send a gift through the mail or a delivery service at store.
An invitation is for you to join them on this happy day not to beg for gifts, you can send a very small gift like your home made bottle of wine. Sometimes, we forget that expensive gifts are not a requirement. RSVP is a requirement & notifying of any guest changes - guest can only be included if your invitation allows for one. I love weddings & always send gifts but not because I was invited to wedding.
2006-09-01 10:32:46 · answer #8 · answered by Wolfpacker 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Here are some options:
1) Bring a card with cash. (I don't like to give cash though.)
2) Bring something homemade, like your wine.
3) Are they only registered at the Bay (not that I know what that is or what they have)? Ask around, maybe you can find something out.
Btw, technically, you are allowed, by ettiquite, a year after the wedding to send a gift, but it's nice to bring them something that day.
2006-09-01 09:48:12 · answer #9 · answered by Laura 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Since many people purchase gifts and have them shipped to the happy couple....you will not be the only person not bearing gifts. Also....since the bride will be saddled with the writing of TY cards.....and there will be many....she'll never know you didn't send a gift. However, if you'd still like to gift but are short on funds.....do you have a pic of the couple? My sister gave me an old picture of hubby and I when we married. It was in a inexpensive frame and she wrote on the glass..LOVE FOREVER!...I cried!
2006-09-01 13:06:38 · answer #10 · answered by angiesue1032 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋