If yes, how did you manage without him/her?
2006-09-01 09:37:00 · 8 answers · asked by maggie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes...at least in a way....I've been in love with a man for 5 yrs. now and we dated for 3 1/2...he then dumped me for another woman but called me back up after THEY broke up....we have hung around eachother ever since....sex only occasionaly....although we are still very attracted to eachother...but we are Best Friends...we do EVERYTHING together, talk, email and see eachother every day....it's been like this for a year and 1/2 now....he says he's not "in love" with me but that he loves me dearly....I don't get it...we obviously get along great, we are best friends, we are attracted to eachother ( neither one of us are bad looking by anyone else's opinion at least ) and yet he falls for married women or women who are emotionally unavailable, or who have 2-3 kids by different guys, just bad news right off the bat....why won't he just admit to himself that what WE have is a good thing and that he shouldn't always be looking at the "green grass on the other side" especially when he ends up unhappy anyway?? He gets jealous when he knows that guys are checking me out or are interested....so I still struggle with what to do....I love him deeply, but I know that it's only a matter of time before he most probably finds someone new and then I won't get to obviously spend as much time with him...it breaks my heart and I'm still on antidepressants and anxiety meds from our breakfup 3 yrs. ago....I suffered horribly from that, couldn't get out of bed, etc.....and then BOOM 2 yrs. later, he's back in my life....but just as a friend....I still trust him with my life though, I would do just about anything for him because he's truly THE only man that's ever been in my life that has treated me with any amount of respect....it's still heartbreaking though...knowing that this may not last forever...although, I know that we will always have our friendship.....but I just think that that will be something very difficult for me to adjust to when he starts seeing someone else.... so to some degree, if you are going through unrequited love...I understand the painful emotions that it brings about....I honestly don't think that there is ANY easy way out of these feelings...you just have to take it day by day......a lot of people I know can just go right back out there and get back to dating or going to bed with someone else but I have never been like that....especially when we're talking about a man that I would lay my life down for, I can't just brush myself off and get back on the bandwagon that easily....right now, I'm in a position where I'm very afraid that I will NEVER meet anyone else that I can truly say I love in the same way...I just don't think it's possible...I'm 36 yrs. old and I've changed a lot these last few years...I'm more of a "deep" person and I've come to realize that life is VERY short and you never know when you will be taken....so you better let the special people that you hold dear to you know how very much they mean to you and TELL THEM....that way you can never say "what if"
Be strong and my thoughts are with you....try to do volunteer work to get your mind off of things, that's what I've done in the past and it works to a certain degree.....if there is ANY chance that you can be reunited with him.....try your damndest to make it work....now is all you have!!! Chin Up!!!!!
2006-09-01 09:59:41 · answer #1 · answered by Blue_Girl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure!
That darn Jared Leto won't return any of my phone calls!
Sigh...... he just doesn't know what he's missing!
You manage. Mostly that kind of love is about the not being able to have it. You kind of put it on a pedestal, and watch it walk on water, and let it live perfectly in your head. If you ever really did get to go there with that person, you'd probably find out that you can't freaking stand them, they are so darn annoying!
2006-09-01 09:41:53 · answer #2 · answered by niffer's mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes - you just manage as you have to.
2006-09-01 09:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
story of my life...
every girl i have ever liked, has never felt the same way!
it dosent work like in the movies or tv.
everyone tells you to act on your feelings, but they arnt the ones that have their heart stamped on!
i tend to swallow it, bottle it up inside, take cold showers...
but thats posibly why im such a twisted depresing individual.
if you do find a healthy way to deal with it... please let me know!
2006-09-01 23:09:26 · answer #4 · answered by jimmystraightjacket 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just have to bottom line it and move on. There are just so many men and so little time why waste it on someone who doesn't deserve you?
2006-09-01 09:40:37 · answer #5 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have someone who i would give my heart and soul to if requested but i know they'll never ask. how do i manage? poorly
2006-09-01 10:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by ebayphonehome 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ebayphonehome
Ditto.....
Do you carry on seeing them, just to get your fix, or do you stop seeing them and go cold turkey & feeling crap, and hope you will eventually get over them.
I dont know, DO YOU ???
Male.
2006-09-01 10:37:46 · answer #7 · answered by The Man 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, and shock thearpy for your second question.
2006-09-01 09:39:27 · answer #8 · answered by Job 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋