My best friend's fiance wants to be able to check her email & voice mail whenever he wants to. She's never cheated on him & doesn't have anything to hide, but i'm not sure if i would let him have them if i was her. What do u think?
2006-09-01 09:20:08 · 16 answers · asked by JeenaBlahBlahBlah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would be telling my best friend that should be thinking pretty hard about whether she wants to marry this guy. While she may have nothing to hide, someone demanding to have access to another person's e-mail and voice mail sounds as though they are very demanding, insecure, and potentially very controlling and dominating.
It sounds as though he has issues with being able to trust -- and love -- another person. With guys like this, it starts off with checking the e-mails, then with check her cell phone log, then wondering who she speaks to onto the street, then demanding that she cannot have any friends (especially male friends). Often it spirals down to a very demanding controlling situation where she is afraid to have her own life and he can even begin physical abuse ad violence towards her.
Your friend should ask the fiancee why he needs to be able to check her e-mail and voice mail. Will he do likewise for her? If not, she should think long and hard about the relationship she is in.
2006-09-01 09:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by LewAR26502 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Entitled to? No. If they want to share that information with each other, that's fine. If someone wants it because they don't trust the other person, or are just downright nosy (or controlling) then the relationship needs some serious evaluation.
I wouldn't give that info to a boyfriend unless there was need for him to get into an account for me for some reason...otherwise, that's my business and his business is his...one's right to privacy doesn't automatically mean you are hiding something.
2006-09-01 09:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt give my boyfriend any of my email or messenger account passwords because even though i havent nothing to hide i still have the right to have my privacy and he shouldnt worry about me cheating on him because if he does worry about that he's prolly the one who is cheating and is just paranoid about getting caught so he may wanna have your passwords just to screw you over in some sort of way.
2006-09-01 09:26:19 · answer #3 · answered by la_reina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she doesnt' have anything to hide and if she were married then it would be that she should give them to him but its her boyfriend and he really isn't entitled to have that information unless he wants to check up on her and if he trust her then why would he do that?
2006-09-01 09:31:47 · answer #4 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope...we all need some privacy and there has to be trust in a relationship regarding those private things or the relationship will never survive.
2006-09-01 09:25:40 · answer #5 · answered by rkrell 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No! My husband and I have separate accounts, and we keep them private. Sometimes a friend wants to unload on me and doesn't want anybody else to see what she has said; by letting someone else, even my beloved, read her confidential communications, I would be betraying her trust in me.
2006-09-01 09:33:55 · answer #6 · answered by Maple 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if there is nothing to hide then why not let him check it. if he fully trusts her then he won't ever check it anyways and if she trusts him then she wouldn't mind him having it. does that make sense? oh well. i think if you are going to marry someone then you should love each other enough to not hide things. i would give my lover my passwords and he'd do the same for me.
2006-09-01 09:25:39 · answer #7 · answered by cramner25 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no way ! my husband doesnt even check mine if he want to see something or i want to share then i go open the email ect ect thats my business he would never ask although he wrote his down for me cause he want me to check email for him if hes out of town and he calls and i read it to him but i never go there unless he asks it not good manners
2006-09-01 09:28:29 · answer #8 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no! And it sounds like she's in for a control freak life. She should get out while she can.
2006-09-01 09:43:12 · answer #9 · answered by OU812 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im with the rest of your answers ,, its none of his bussiness .
and if he feels that he has something to worry about he needs to talk to her about it .
2006-09-01 09:38:28 · answer #10 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋