gotta wear bras I don't like, how to live with this?

Question

I'm 13, my mom worries a lot about my breasts and don't want boys staring at me.I'm a C cup, so, she makes me wear bras that give much support and no see-through. I agree, but she goes overboard. The bras she makes me wear are at http://www.anita.com/de/en/0,1,104,1478,39236__products-detail.htm They have 4 rows of hooks in the back. Though I agree they are good quality bras, I don't like them, they are confining and hot. Not the bra a 13 yo would enjoy, don't u agree? But I have no way out. I did EVERYTHING I could for her to let me wear other bras, but she didn't back off and no one else succeeded either. She says it's for my best and is out of love. I know, but, don't like those bras. She's nice, we have a wonderful relationship and I'm afraid if I rebel or disobey our relationship can be damaged. Is it worth fighting over this bra thing? Since she wont really change her mind, how can I live with those bras? When it's hot they make me sweat!

Except for this bra thing, my mom is great. Few teens have a so good relationship with their moms. But I'm sure if I don rebel many girls will call me a wuss, a mommy's girl, etc

Answer 1

just say mom... i really dont like this bra, it is uncomfortable and it makes me feel self consious about myself.. can we please try a different bra that i would feel comfortable in? And that i would enjoy wearing?

Answer 2

I have to agree with Emma. Try to find bras that are acceptable to both you and your mother. There must be something there that is more comfortable and feminine that gives you the same quality and support. I had the opposite problem when I was your age. Wore a C cup as well, but my mother didn't think I needed a bra yet. It was embarrassing having unsupported breasts in school. I ended up buying a bra just for wear in school, putting it on in the restroom before school and taking it off before I went home. I don't advise that tactic with your mom, somehow I don't think she would take it well. You may be stuck with wearing those bras until you are on your own. If so, you'll survive.

Answer 3

Those are old lady bras!!!! Tell her that you would rather not wear one than wear that. It is to uncomfortable. When you are around her pull on it and adjust it all the time. Maybe she will realize you are right when she gets irritated that you keep on doing that. Thats one sneaky way of making her feel bad that you are wearing something that doesn't feel good. Otherwise the only thing you can do is save your money and buy your own. Don't ask if its ok, just do it and let her find out later. DId you tell her flat out that it is uncomfortable (not just hot)??? I am 25 yrs old and my mom would never have bought me bras that look like that. I am sure that she is afraid you are going to be getting a boyfriend or something. But even at your age boy or no boy, you should feel good about your body, and the clothes that you wear underneath what eveyone sees is apart of that. Wearing something ugly deminishes your self confidence even if people do not see it. You are right, you need to find a way to convice your mom. Try what I suggested in the begining.

Answer 4

I think the bras are quite nice. I see what you mean though..they do have alot of material. At 13, you don't need to be ENJOYING your bras. Bras are made to support. The bigger you are, the bigger the bra. Listen to your mom, she knows what she is doing. Maybe when you are 16 or 18 you can change the bra.

Answer 5

I agree with Reid C. You should really just try to be happy that you can wear a C cup in the first place. Lots of 13 year olds are sad because they are small lol.

Answer 6

Have you told her that they are hot and uncomfortable? Chances are good that if she hasn't listened to these objections, then you are stuck with wearing the bras that she pays for until you get a job and start paying for them on your own. My mom did the same thing to me and I just had to suffer until I paid my own way.

Answer 7

I know EXACTLY how you feel. At 13 I was a D, and I had to wear bras that were that same style. I called them "granny bras" and I hated them. They felt like I was wearing some kind of modern day corset. They are very uncomfortable, they are hot, they aren't pretty, and they are embarrassing in gym class to be seen in. Nothing worked with my mom, until I found minimizer bras. They run about the same price as a normal bra, they aren't as ugly, they have fewer hooks, and it made my mom happy that I looked smaller in my clothing.

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Answer 8

Sweetie, it seems you'll have to put up with those bras until you are 18. After that you can get rid of them. I hate bras, I think they are all confining. Good luck

Answer 9

I would suggest trying to comprimise with your mom. Tell her why you don't like them, and try to find an alternative that is both comfortable, but not too revealing. Show her the alternatives you have, and see if she'll go for it. Make sure you voice that though she is your mother, and wishes the best for you, that you should have a say in your own body.

Answer 10

that bra looked weird