2006-09-01 09:08:40 · 129 answers · asked by hello 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's A LOT of guys. Have you been tested?
2006-09-01 09:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 11⤊ 0⤋
Himmm, let me think on this for a second ok? :D
If a guy bagged 41 women by the age of 26, he'd be a hero.
If a woman bag's 41 guys by the age of 26, she's a slut.
Himmm, sounds like a double standard to me.
Perhaps the real quesiton is- you're now aware of the spiritual damage you have done to yourself, and now you're starting to realize the difference between an animal and human.
Do you now realize that sex is the ONLY sin where a person hurts themselfs? Other sin hurts other people.
I suggest that you speak with a Christian Counselor and get a deeper understanding- and make sure its NOT at a church you would consider attending. People talk, why make yourself a target?
2006-09-01 09:14:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does that include boys too, or is that a separate count? For our discussion, we'll assume it includes both.
41 is a lot.
However, if you break it down, it's not quite as bad as it sounds.
At 41, that's only about 1 every 3 months for the last 10 years. And everyone knows, that's enough time for 3-5 romances depending on if it was the right guy or not!
In fact, it might be even less often than one every three months if say, you notched multiples at the same time, or if somewhere along the way, you did a lot of "binge" fooling around.
And if you happen to have started earlier than 16, well, then it's even less often than once every three months. So, although more than most people, it's not soooo bad.
However, if I apply the rule of 3, then I have a lot tougher time defending you.
At 123 guys. that's now saying you had a different guy every month for the last 10 years. And that's assuming you only were with the guy once. If you were with any, more often, or longer than that, then the turnover's even higher. So I'm afraid you might be in the "enjoys variety" category. And unfortunately, mainstream folks probably consider that waaaay too many for such a young lady, even one so interested in doing "research"
Hope you're at least enjoying it. If not, definitely cut down. If you are, I bet you'll enjoy it more once you find someone you bond with emotionally as well. It's amazing what ONE person can do for you once you find someone you connect with.
Hope that helps!
2006-09-01 09:26:04 · answer #3 · answered by Whattup Doc? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm 26 and have only been with 2, so for me yes it's a lot, but do you really regret it? If so just know that you can't go back and change it, you can only change the future number. Also look into why you have been with that many guys, is there something you feel missing and are trying to fill it by being with different guys, or do you just like sex?
If you were a guy you'd be "the man", but I would think a guy that slept with that many people has issues too.
2006-09-01 09:13:51 · answer #4 · answered by starlet_80 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes if you are only 26 years old, then it's a lot of men. (but it's a big number if you were 30 or 40 yrs old too.) However I do not want to pass judgment on you; I'm a firm believer in To Each his/her Own. I just hope and pray that you are staying safe, using the proper precautions, and are disease-free. If you are without STDs, AIDS, or other diseases - you're very lucky, so count your blessings. And Ease up a little Bit. In your mind, you know you are doing wrong, even though you are having fun, that's why you feel guilty and slutty. My best advice is to pull back, ease up, and just be with one man. Please above all else, please play safe and be safe. Good luck. Stay well.
2006-09-01 09:22:58 · answer #5 · answered by CuriousGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a great question. Many people often worry about this issue but are often afraid to ask anyone. Assuming that you started at 18, that means you slept with on average about 1 man every 10 weeks if my math is correct. To be honest with you, I don't consider that slutty, but then again I'm using a slightly different frame of reference then most people who have answered this question. I think we need to stop worrying about what labels are being placed upon us and just focus on living our own life. If having sex with many partners is what makes you happy then you should just look at the possible consequences and take precautions and make whatever decision you feel is best. We all have our own life to live and what one person would consider wrong, another person considers normal. As long as you are not breaking laws, abusing others, etc. I think you're OK. Just be honest with your partners about your sexuality especially if you want to go beyond just sex.
2006-09-03 23:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by Roger S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look on the bright side hon. When your 36, you will have approximately slept with 82 men at your current rate, then you will be slutty. Right now, your just experienced! Would you feel less slutty if you slept with 1 man 41 times. Try that!
2006-09-01 09:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by michael m 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Who really defines slutty anyway. Do what you want to do, not what other people think. If you like sex, go for it. You shouldn't be worried that much about other people's opinions anyway. Besides, who else really knows you've slept with 41 men besides you and us? If you don't want people to judge you, don't tell them you've slept with however many men. Their views will change dramatically of you. And then we don't even know who you are. However, as many other people have pointed out, You may want to make regular trips to the doctor to be tested. The odds are against you with not catching something soon. Also, it would be wrong to sleep with men when you have something, THEN it's a problem.
2006-09-01 09:22:05 · answer #8 · answered by icomeanons 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good Lord! Did you every say no? Wow; that's a ton.
Yes that is very slutty and I would never be with someone who had so many sexual partners. No way. Sex doesn't mean much to you but just an act of pleasure. It's more than that.
The man that ends up with you will be exposed to 41 different people and all of THEIR partners. That's in the hundreds. that's pretty crazy.
2006-09-01 09:12:27 · answer #9 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the quality of the luvin i guess. If you have only had sex 41 times, 41 one night stands is pretty lonely and i would say your desperate. Ive had 4. only been with 1 once, married the last one and married for almost 9 years now and have long lost count of how many thousands of times now.
2006-09-02 04:51:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't disgraceful how one simple question, not too controversial or philosophical, has gotten so many answers? Seriously, most of you are just sayign the same thign and I agree with some of you, but still, I feel sorry for her, you know you get an e-mail everytime you recieve an answer to your question, sorry to give you one more e-mail ot delete, but hopfully it will make people stop and think about this, why did you click on this question, becuase it was about a girl who feels slutty and you want to reassure her that it's okay or something? Get a life and leave her alone, she's gotten enough answers for one day.
2006-09-01 09:23:00 · answer #11 · answered by locomonohijo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋