now understand the kid is 16years of age
2006-09-01 09:06:39 · 17 answers · asked by green17stone 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
you would not be wrong to do that. if she wants to act like she's grown, then treat her like she's grown. if she can not abide by your rules under your roof, then she can find another roof. some kids are so hard headed. if fear i'm gonna experience the same from my daughter although i pray not. she's stubborn just like her father. what you are attempting to do is called tuff love and sometimes, unfortunately, it's necessary.
God Bless.
2006-09-01 10:06:09 · answer #1 · answered by HazelEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all the kid has been in control, which is the parents fault. And second, no I wouldn't kick them out right away. I would give them a few choices. One would be either they have their little @#@$$ ready for school that morning and if I found out that they didn't go that day, I would get the locks changed in front of them and then call the police and have them escort them out. Covering yourself is a major factor in these day and times. When your kids start getting out of control don't be afraid to let them know who is paying their way. Otherwise you will be a prime candidate for the Jerry Springers show. Knock them down or out one time and when they come too, they will have mad respect for you or at this time or tough luck. Stay strong as a parent and don't bend to those Growing Pains. Your parents didn't.
2006-09-01 09:42:52 · answer #2 · answered by D's Baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kicking my child out of my house would have to be my LAST option after I'd tried every other thing I can think of. Try a teen boot camp or some youth programs to get her on the ball. We as parents must put all our efforts into raising our children with good morals and values. What does it say if any time our children decide not to listen or do what they are supposed to that we kick him/her out of the house. I, particularly would have to be in the worst situation to have the heart to do that to my own child. What are you doing as a parent to make the situation better. Why is your child thinking that his/her ways are OK????
2006-09-01 09:15:24 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ ღAngelicaღ♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I wouldn't kick them out because as a parent of a minor, I am still technically responsible for her until she was to turn 18 or so. I'd give her another chance. Maybe something is wrong and you as the parent have the responsibility to help her out.
2006-09-01 09:13:20 · answer #4 · answered by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first try to NOT give him anything that he is use to.... Food, he would have to work for it and earn a plate in my house. Phone, out of use and cannot use same., cell phone if you got him one., take it as you payed for him. Clothing, NEVER, he has to earn it ... Try to see if you could convince to AT LEAST take GED exam and see if he passes it if he knows that he is not going to try to do it at school and help him with that... Something is better than nothing and at least he has the option that if he passes the GED he could attend a college and continue his education, but in the meantime he will have to work... As long as he is not disrespecting you in your home, not using any drugs and/or alcohol, getting home at all times with no disregard to the house rules.... Attempt speaking to him and see if you could try to communicate as a "friend" and not as a mother... The bottom line is that you need to set your rules in your house and that he cannot get things for free just because he feels that you as a mother needs to provide for him. Having a roof over your head, food, clothing, and television, games, etc., that is a luxury that we as parents provide to our children, but these things need to be earned because when you just provide these things to your child, they will not learn the value of having a mother. We as mothers need to teach our children that they are the lucky ones for having us not the other way around as there are so many children which are being abused, neglected, etc., by their own parents... good luck...
2006-09-01 09:17:54 · answer #5 · answered by Snowwhite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell my kid if she didn't get a job or start going to school in the next three weeks, she would be kicked out or charged rent. : P
2006-09-01 09:14:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be firm with her, but yet open communication. Is there a reason why she isn't in school? Have you tried talking to the school to see if there is something going on that she isn't telling you? Find out asap and then go from there.
2006-09-01 09:44:00 · answer #7 · answered by barney3076 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Resorting to violence would only make the situation worse.
No form of violence would make children do things they don't want to do.
Plus, if you kick her or slap her or beat her she can go to Social Service and she can get emancipated even coz you'd be classified as an unfit mother who was causing harm to her child.
I'd advise therapy and talking to her without judging.
2006-09-01 09:17:14 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mine is 19 and has refused schooling. I am just watching him do what he wants,and I have told him that if I hear him in prison I will never step my foot there, and I meant it.I have done what I could as a father but that is nothing to him.
2006-09-01 09:14:56 · answer #9 · answered by patrick w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I probably would give them a six week head start at getting a job or going back to school. But if they did not do that after six weeks they would no longer be welcome in my house. You think you are too adult to go to school, get out there and prove how adult you are. I am not a meal ticket.
2006-09-01 09:10:03 · answer #10 · answered by sexyheater 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋