This is in the news now. Separate out all of the stuff about forced marriage and abandoned boys, etc., that are obvious heinous aspects of the current event. I can intellectually understand certain sexual reasons for wanting multiple spouses, or even practical reasons (division of labor, etc.). Having children I even understand the possibility of loving more than one person equally. My problem is that a marriage relationship is not the same to me. I've been married for 10 years, and with all of our ups and downs I cannot find any space in my "emotional container" (call it heart or whatever) for another woman. Is there something I'm missing?
2006-09-01 09:06:11 · 9 answers · asked by neil s 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Yes you are missing an oversized ego.
2006-09-01 09:07:59 · answer #1 · answered by Esther 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what I read about the FLDS (Warren Jeff's cult/religion) the women don't really get a choice. Most of the marriages are arranged. As far as I know not many 16 yr old girls are attracted to 50 yr old men. So as a woman you wouldn't have to worry about whether you had room in your heart for another wife because you wouldn't have a choice. I know there are families who do this on their own free will though, and I can't imagine how. Could you imagine your husband going to the "other" wife's bed at night? Or her sharing a bed with you? I guess if you are bi-sexual it could work, but I am with you. That wouldn't be the life for me.
2006-09-01 09:16:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Polygamy has been around for a long time. It probably depends mainly on the culture you were raised in. As in many marriages sometimes it works and sometimes it just doesn't. It's probably more like an extended family thing. If you are use to a large family you might be able deal with it better.
2006-09-01 09:11:49 · answer #3 · answered by Attacus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are raised knowing the restrictions and what to expect, then your sense of perception changes. My mormon friend told me once, "Its alot like having a family pet. Everyone loves the dog, and the dog loves everyone on a different way. Its natural." It took me a while to understand what she was saying, but I get the main idea of their belief now.
I think that polygamy -the otyher way- might make more sense. Think about it- one woman, four or five men... The dishes might get done, the yard might get mowed, I might be taken shopping, help with kids, and cooking... all in a single Saterday. Sounds like heaven to me.
2006-09-01 09:16:08 · answer #4 · answered by sawtooth_honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If God asked you to take another wife would you?
I guess thats, all it really comes down to.
And on that same note, Does God still tell people to take multiple wives as he did Solomon and Abraham?
2006-09-01 09:12:07 · answer #5 · answered by jiggliemon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may find that you would change your mind ( and heart ) if you somehow found yourself married to a second wife...
2006-09-01 09:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no there is nothing wrong with being commited to one woman and not wanting another
2006-09-01 09:12:34 · answer #7 · answered by eleshiak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are smart
2006-09-01 09:12:07 · answer #8 · answered by allison_smith0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes.
2006-09-01 09:08:18 · answer #9 · answered by snoogans 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋