i love him, i do, but i dont know if im in love. he also is very bad at communicating, i ask him something deep or i want to talk about something important, or I'll have a problem with something, and he gets mad and he wont talk about it. he really doestn talk much at all.
he also thinks im cheating on him, he is very paranoid any g/f he had would cheat on him. he has very low self esteem (even though he has no reason to.)
what do you think???
2006-09-01 09:00:04 · 17 answers · asked by california gurlie poo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump him. He's needy and you want to save him. Save yourself.
2006-09-09 08:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. Be careful tho, because those people with low self-esteem tend to threat loved ones like saying I'll die without you or something. Just leave him. He might want to get attention by threatening you, so don't fall for that. You have the right to live the way you want, not be forced on a relationship you think might go nowhere.
2006-09-01 16:04:02 · answer #2 · answered by desigal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first advice is to talk things over in a civil manner, like two adults. Ask him why he is uncomfortable to discuss with you a problem and the reason why he is bottled up and not reacting as you would want him to. It could be that he has something on his mind but he is unable to tell you openly , so encourage him to talk more. The best way is to go out on a date with him like a park or a secluded beach where it is condusive for both of you to have a heart-to heart talk. Allow him to explain, however once you notice that he does not make any effort to comfort you or to talk with you then it's time you think twice about whether or not he is the right guy for you to be steady with.
2006-09-01 16:08:43 · answer #3 · answered by scentsationalgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, (and I know I don't really know all that's going on in your relationship), if you're in love, you'll KNOW it. And if the two of you don't even communicate, then I wouldn't keep wasting my time. A relationship revolves around communication or otherwise it's like the both of you are together but not really "together." (yes, i know that doesn't make sense, but....). And it doesn't sound like he trusts you at all either. I say dump him and find a guy who'll trust you and will focus all his attention on you and who'll show that he loves to be around you.
2006-09-01 16:05:59 · answer #4 · answered by Victoria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be with him if he is like that? Imagine this: You are a well adjusted and caring person = you are a full cup. He is an insecure, not well adjusted person who needs improvement = he is only half a cup. If you stay with him, you will be constantly pouring yourself into him, leaving you less than full all the time. Find yourself someone who is also a full cup!
2006-09-01 16:05:00 · answer #5 · answered by joandi_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i was that way when your paranoid you r in love so he does love you and it will take a few weeks to get him to trust u and when u dump him he will be sure there is another guy and make out with him although if youu r going to do any thing sexual dont brake up with him that will hurt more
2006-09-01 16:09:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds magical.
If the guy isn't putting anything into it then you should probably move on.
Please don't use that catch phrase (wasn't it from a Friends episode) "I love him but I dont' know if I'm in love with him". Very lame.
2006-09-01 16:07:26 · answer #7 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world would you want a relationship with someone like him? Love, you say? Hardly!
2006-09-01 16:06:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are we suppose to like vote on this? You have to decide what is best for you. Sounds to me though like it ainn't gonna get any better--and most likely it's gonna get worse. Might be a good time to bail.
2006-09-01 16:07:15 · answer #9 · answered by EMAILSKIP 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt very much if you love him or even if you're in love with him. If you were you wouldn't be asking these questions.
2006-09-09 07:04:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought school has already started again - can't wait for the Migration Of The Idiot Teenagers!
2006-09-01 16:05:37 · answer #11 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋