why do people have to have sex with 10 different people before finding the perfect match? isn't this kind of behaviour simply promiscuous?? aren't platonic relationships a better parameter for fining the true love...atleast it does not merely conentrate on the sexual aspect of a relationship.
2006-09-01 08:53:25 · 23 answers · asked by skepty 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree with you on that. I'd much rather find a steady partner than going out and having randome sex with ppl before I have a serious relationship. With me I'm all about finding the serious relationship all the time. I'm still a virgin at the moment, but I'd hold off on the sex til I trully new the relationship was going somewhere. I'm not about being another one night stand for someone in the least. And for the record, intercourse isn't necessary before finding or even having a serious relationship. If someone tells you it is then they are just fooling themselves and probably scared of actually being with just one person.
2006-09-01 09:04:11 · answer #1 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not necessary. But most of the messages we receive from our peers and society tells us there is something "wrong" with us if we don't sleep with people we find even mildly attractive. I think such casual sex like this tends to poison the relationship and make it not possible to get emotionally closer. Sex is supposed to come *after* love, seriousness, commitment (dare I say marriage?), as the ultimate physical act that brings two people who are already emotionally committed even closer together. Without the mental/emotional closeness, the sex act is just that, an act.
Well, that's my opinion based on my own personal experience anyway. Sure you'll get lots of different answers here. Bottom line, though, is when it comes to sex, do it or don't do it depending on what YOU feel is right for YOU. Listen to your inner voice; it always knows best. :-)
2006-09-01 09:00:33 · answer #2 · answered by I ♥ AUG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'ts not necessary...but every person is different. Just because someone sleeps with 10 different people doesn't mean they are promiscuous...let em be. I think it's important to have that sexual connection, cause if you don't, that's what makes people cheat. I personally think sexual chemistry is a big part of a relationship, but i don't base everything on that. If i'm gonna spend a long time with someone then we better have good sex =o)
2006-09-01 09:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one says that one must have sex with their partner before committing to a serious relationship. However, since sexual compatibility is a large aspect of a relationship and being compatible in a relationship is important, many people think it is important to "test the waters" so to speak before taking the leap.
If a person dates several different people before choosing a "perfect match" to see if various characteristics (personality, intelligence, style, looks, commitment, compassion -- whatever) are to the person's liking, why not sex and intimacy? If you are looking for the "perfect match" , you'd want someone who is perfect (or as close to your idea of "perfect") in each category that is important to you.
2006-09-01 09:01:12 · answer #4 · answered by LewAR26502 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know where you have been but that usually is not how it works. Most people I know are at about half of that number and mostly because they thought they found the right person only to find out to late (usually through ugly divorce) that that person was not who they thought they were. Don't forget the sexual aspect that you are referring to is 50% if not more of a successfully relationship. Besides IMO there is no such thing as perfect.
2006-09-01 08:58:34 · answer #5 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex isnt' everything in a relationship...but it plays a major part! You can be friends with someone for years and be attracted to eachother, and if they hook up, and eventually have sex, they both have to enjoy eachother's styles, otherwise there's going to be an uneasy topic in the relationship.
You may love your partner, but are turned off by his/her style in the bed room or maybe they're are just not into sex as much as you, or vice versa. That can be a problem in a relationship, b/c who ever is lacking that desire... the other will eventually go out and have their desire met. ANd that's when infidelity begins.... DrAmA!!
2006-09-01 08:57:12 · answer #6 · answered by qtiebabie06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people got married,and did not need to have sex before got married.This is almost people who are in some religion;or simple believe that is not necessary.Others do and say:they need be sure if the couple will sexually satisfy 100 %(almost).Because they say is better be sure,than have a big disappointment and get divorce after being married.
2006-09-01 09:07:21 · answer #7 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right. When so many people are irresponsibly having unprotected sex, it's ridiculous.
Look at the millions of unplanned pregnancies where one women has several different fathers and at times she's screwed so many people she doesn't even know who the father is.
STD's are another thing. It's out of control. People forget that when you sleep with someone, your exposing yourself to every partner they've ever had, and along with their partners.
Sleaziness is in. I'm lucky I'm engaged to a girl that we dated very young and we never had a lot of partners. I'm lucky but I'd have to be a teen in today's sleazy world.
2006-09-01 09:04:35 · answer #8 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is and should NOT be a criteria. It's much better to wait and have a sexual relationship inside the blessing of marriage.
2006-09-01 08:55:54 · answer #9 · answered by 247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you buy a car without test driving it first? Relationships and sex are basically the same way.
2006-09-01 09:03:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋