I was just wondering how many people get along with their husbands/wifes parents? If your not married but have children do you get a long with your childs grandparents?
Do you think it is harder to be happily married if you don't get along witht the inlaws and if you don't get along does that contribute to getting a divorce? I would like peoples oppioins and others experiences...Man and Women...Thanx
2006-09-01 08:38:05 · 11 answers · asked by ITS_ONLY_ME 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I get along with my in-laws. I have since day one. They have 3 sons so they just added me to make 4. In fact, my wife says her family likes me more than HER! We can go see them whenever and just hang out with them. Her mom actually calls me on the phone more than her, luckily my wife doesn't care! lol
On the other hand, for the first 3 years of our relationship MY mom did not like my wife. She was mean to her and made it known to everyone. That caused A LOT of stress, my wife (then financee) actually was ready to leave me because my mother was out of control.
She agreed to marry me when I had a big talk to my mom and told her to back off or we would cut ties with her. Ever since my mother has respected the boundaries our marriage has been damn near perfect!
I believe 100% that bad in-laws can cause your marriage to fail, if YOU don't set up boundaries.
2006-09-01 08:46:33 · answer #1 · answered by HappyHippo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I get along just fine with my mother and father in-law. I don't get along with my brother-in-law. I can't stand him, but luckily, my husband doesn't like him much either. I only have to put up with him once or twice a year, if that. So it's no hardship to keep my mouth shut and be nice for the sake of a happy family function. Especially since it's usually at a holiday that I have to see him. Who wants to be the person that ruined Christmas?
2006-09-01 08:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother-in-law loved me, so did my husband grandparents and his aunts. I don't think that I'm liked by my brother-in-law and his wife. I feel like an outsider when visiting them at Christmas, but they try to be nice to me for my husband's sake. My father-in-law hated all his daughters-in-law. He lied on us to others and tried to break us up. I tried to keep my distance so he could not get any lies to tell, but he talked about me anyway. It hurt my relationship with my husband. I felt betrayed because he never stood up for me. Money is the main cause for people getting divorce and in-law- problems is the second. We have been married for twenty years and my father-in-law died eight years ago. My husband and I are just now getting along well in our relationship to each other.
2006-09-01 09:14:57 · answer #3 · answered by metamorphosisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get along with my husbands parents just fine, and think they are ok grandparents. They do tend to favor his brother's kids over ours, which hurts my husband and makes me a little angry, but there's not much we can do about that. His sister drives me absolutely buggy, but we just avoid her--it's a good thing she drives my hubby buggy as well.
I do agree that if there are in law difficulties it can be an added stress on a marriage. This is where husbands and wives need to remember who they are married to, and to not be crass, remember who they climb into bed with at night. It's usually NOT the offending family member. My husband actually had to tell his sister to quit trying to cause trouble between he and I this way, he told her that he sleeps with me, not her. But for many people it's very hard to listen to criticism of their family, especially if they are close to their family. Sometimes especially from their spouse.
2006-09-01 08:45:51 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It took me a LONG time to get used to my husband's parents. They were just SO different than what I was used to. I think if your marriage is solid, then they should affect it, though. I did, however, see an episode of Dr. Phil where a couple was getting a divorce because the husband's Mom was the devil, but it was his fault for not being a man and speaking up to her.
2006-09-01 08:42:55 · answer #5 · answered by akamom619 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm a Sagittarius, and that i'm on the cuspy, so i'm a mix of Capricorn and Sagittarius. C'est l. a. vie. i won't be able to have faith what proportion human beings have faith those issues. i'm between the quietest human beings you will ever meet and that i suck at activities so i assume I defy my Sagi sign. yet i'm many times advised I even have an obnoxious chortle, which merely hurts my emotions. in any case horoscopes are purely for exciting and it takes a great style of paintings to get a character. you're no longer born with a character.
2016-09-30 06:08:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't get along with my in-laws. I have no problem with my husbands step dad and his brother (his girl and there baby) but both his biological parents I can't stand. They are back stabbing and manipulative. They betray everyone for their own interests (including there children) I am lucky that my husband also doesn't like his parents and wants nothing to do with them, so it isn't a fight between us. His brother is very close to there mother so sometimes i have to remind my husband to call his brother (he's a man and tends to forget) but he still very much loves his brother sister in law and his nephew. My husband and I have had the converstation about what we are going to do when we have children and the conclusion is that his parents will know when I am pregnant but won't have anything to do with our children (too much stress). I used to get along with her and I think that my husband likes it better now that I don't. It doesnt cause any stress in our marriage that I don't like his mother and father. He knows exactly how I feel. I have told him that if he wants to communicate with her he can i dont care I mean she is his mother, that is up to him to decide. But I sure as hell wont. And his family doesnt like me either from what I have been told, but that doesnt bother me because I know that my husband is happy and loves me despite our problems in the past and that is all that matters to me. if they dont like me it is because they are mad because I got him to move 3000 miles away from them all.
2006-09-01 08:54:39 · answer #7 · answered by Trouble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find my mother-in-law to be a real pain. I try really hard to just be polite every time i'm around her. I keep repeating to myself that I should just be agreeable and nice for as long as with are together. I try to spend my time talking to the sisters & brothers in-law as much as possible to keep from being alone with her. And I try to avoid taking her comments personally when we are alone. I just think of myself as a US diplomat with a hostile foreign government representive. LOL
2006-09-01 08:50:27 · answer #8 · answered by CALI_GURL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ive known my ex-in-laws for 20 years. They have always treated me like I was one of there own and prefer me over my ex....lol...We are still close to this day and still do all the holiday things etc.....My ex sister in law is one of my best friends. But I do agree that if one set of in-laws make it hard then the marriage would have problems.
2006-09-01 08:45:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm not married but i'd say it's harder when you don't get along because if you truly love this woman/man, why wouldn't you make the effort to be nice to their parents no matter how awful they are?
2006-09-05 06:34:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋