all i do is shout at my 3 year old i feel down all the time why is this?

Answer 1

You are probably experiencing Depression, most people have had that occurrence, at least once in their lifetime. Make a Doctor's appointment, and don't be embarrassed, this is really quite normal. Most importantly you have to stop ASAP from yelling at your child. You need to focus on "Patience", your 3 year old is learning from you, through everything you do.

Life passes swiftly, and these are golden moments in time, you should be enjoying. By not doing so, you miss the opportunities to laugh, love, feel, to live life to the fullest. These are the memories we take into old age, they are what will keep you warm.
Enjoy your little one, for he/she will be grown and gone, in the twinkle of your eye.

Answer 2

Before you turn around twice, your 3 year old will be 13 and screaming right back at you, that's if you are lucky. May be you need some help, some Mum time, and perhaps join some clubs for toddlers or playschool, children push boundaries, all the time, that is what they do, that is how they learn, its down to you to hold the boundaries just where you want them, and don't give not ONCE, cos once you do, goodbye boundary. Watch Super Nanny, she seems to have it about right. Its not easy, but what ever you put in you do get back! No screaming and shouting, hugs and listening and time, I would love for my kids to be that age again! Take a deep breath and love them to death, you never know just how long you have them for. Good luck!

Answer 3

You may have depression. Have you seen your Doctor? Don't be embarrassed. If you are depressed you need to take action as soon as possible.

You don't say where you live but you may find there is a centre near you where you can get a referral and go to learn new things with or without your child. Do you go the "mother and Toddler" or "TumbleTots" or anything else? You will meet lots of other parents and will probably make friends with some of them.

Have you got someone who can take your child for an hour or two whilst you have some "me time"? (Another reason for going to groups).

Don't shout at your child when (s)he is misbehaving. I found talking quieter and quieter worked better. I didn't lose my temper then or get cross with myself for not being in control.

Good luck, you are doing the most difficult and under valued job in the world.

Answer 4

I don't know why you are down all the time, but you need to quit shouting at your child. That is emotional abuse and is as bad as physical and mental abuse! Come on, get some help if you are not able to be a good mom. Your son deserves a happy mom and a life without yelling!

Answer 5

sit back and relax. If this is your first child, that is a bit normal. If you are a younger mom, this is what you are going to be in for, unfortunately. Try to remember when you were a kid... did you get in trouble? For what? Remember that you can't yell about everything, or set boundaries on everything, that stresses you out as well as your child. Take a step back, think about what is important for you to explode about, and what is not. Pick and choose your battles, because everything does not have to be a battle. Kids are people with minds and ideas, they are not an extension of you. They are going to be curious about things, whether you want them to or not. Good luck, and smile at your 3 year old sometimes. It helps.

Answer 6

oh bless don't keep shouting at your three year old ,when he or she does something wrong tell them by taking too them they will listen better by talking and not shouting learn too have fun times with your child ,go and see your local GP tell them how your feeling and he may have an answer to you feeling down all the time i wish you luck....

Answer 7

Well, without knowing specifics it sounds like you could be depressed. I don't know if you're a stay at home mother, but if so, that could explain it. It's very hard work to take care of a toddler/preschooler. Make sure you're taking time out every day to take care of yourself. I was told when my children were little by my therapist that I was a bank account, and my husband and children were writing checks against that account, but that it was my responsiblity to put deposits in the account so that the checks didn't bounce. Take care of yourself so you can take care of your family. If you need to see a psychologist or psychiatrist, do so, and it certainly sounds like you could benefit from one. If you feel that going on medication might help you, then make sure you see a psychiatrist, since they can prescribe medication.

Answer 8

Because all you do is shout at your 3 year old. How often do you have quiet time? Time just for yourself and to relax? How often do you spend time doing just what you want to do? How often do you take a break from the kid?


I'd guess never, or not too often......

Answer 9

Go get help, you`re not helping your 3 year old by shouting, he/she will remember all this shouting when he/she gets older, It will come back to haunt you.

Answer 10

i would start by not listening to these treehuggers that say, thats child abuse, its bad for your child, they go to work everyday and leave their kids with a nursery or a child minder, they just as well be shot. they are the useless parents, trust me. do what your doing if anything you are coping, which is more than i can say for " the modern parent with a career" everytime you shout at the kid it knows it has done something wrong, it also knows that you cared it done something wrong. dont worry it gets better. ( dad of 5)