My wife and I are hoping to conceive soon. We have been together for 5 years and this will be our first child. I am an only child and this will be my mother's first grandbaby.
She doesn't know we are even thinking about conceiving and I have noticed a few things. She said she is getting rid of her truck so she can get a SUV so she has a safe car for children and it could fit many people.
She doesn't have any friends, a boyfriend or anyone else to ride in the car. It would literally just be my mom, me and my wife and any kids in her car. My mom is planning her buying a vechicle because she assumes she will be a grandma soon!
Should I expect her to go overboard, like buy a crib for her house and rearrange her work schedule so she can care for our child often.
Has anyone's mom done this?
My child will be the first baby in many YEARS for my entire family, I think she is getting super excited.
Is this normal for moms to plan things around future grandbabies?
2006-09-01 08:30:39 · 14 answers · asked by HappyHippo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes it's normal. A lot of parents couldn't afford to give their own children the life that they wished for them, and when there is a baby on the way, and they can financially help out,they gladly do it. My parents were always buying things for all 4 of my children. I didn't even ask them . They just did it out of the kindness of there hearts and I personally thank God for that and for them! Money is tighter and tighter with the more kids you have. My parents struggled with 4 kids of their own and they have seen me struggle,but my family and friends have always helped me to keep my head above water each and every time. God bless them!
2006-09-01 08:42:24 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know if it's normal..... my mom loves me and my brother, but she can't stand being around kids now and avoids them at all costs. So she just keeps on telling me that she hopes she changes by the time I tell her I'm pregnant.
I do think that your mom is maybe going a little bit overboard. I would tell her to slow down. She doesn't need to get a bigger car just because you're hoping to have a baby soon.
2006-09-01 15:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well a first grand baby is exciting, and will it be a bad thing , what do you consider oerboard? shouldn't she have a crib or at least play pen for her house my mom has a playpen. and you will be giving her her only grandkids. maybe help her make some friends so she will ahave someone to share her grandbaby with, they like showing them off. my mother parades my kids around like she is the only person in the world with grandkids. you mom is proud of you for anything you have accomplished in life imagine how proud she wil be of you for being a parent an how proud she will be of the child you raise. it is inevitable that she will spoil yopur child. you just have to be able to discuss with her what over board is, what your limits are ya know only blank # of presents. stuff like that. if you wanna talk more i'm available
2006-09-01 15:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by titfany 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. My mother has 10 grandchildren, soon will have 11, and gets just as excited over every single one of them. She has a crib in her house, she has a box of toys for grandkids when they come over, their video libray has Disney videos as well as my dad's James Bond movies. She hasn't bought a car seat, but if she has to tote a baby around, will just use the baby's seat (which the baby is probably more comfortable in anyway.) She has a high chair, baby swing, etc. Grandmothers can and do get a little nutty over their grandchildren, in a good way.
2006-09-01 15:36:25 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck yes! My Mom did the same thing! Not all Grandparents are like this, but there are few (like ours) that go overboard. Expect her to give your kid(s) anything they want and do NO disciplining as well. It's not always a bad thing, though... you will always have a willing babysitter... and you will NEED IT!!! LOL
2006-09-01 15:35:25 · answer #5 · answered by akamom619 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very normal...relax and enjoy it! Lots of couples don't have the luxury of doting grandparents. Just be careful that she doesn't become too intrusive. You and your wife may want to discuss setting up some boundaries for Grandma, but please let her spoil her grandbaby...that's what grandparents do best!
2006-09-01 16:06:22 · answer #6 · answered by Lynnieb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like pillows and candles--there is no such thing as too much grandma.
I am a first time grandma, and my grand has just turned 7. I help throw her parties, I make clothes for her and matching outfits for her doll and dog. I am teaching her origami and knitting. We go shopping on Saturdays, and we get our toenails done. We go to the zoo, and for walks in the park. We have tea parties and play poker. She is teaching me Spanish. We have a ball, and momma and daddy get to go on dates. Alone!
Let your mother play and enjoy that baby--she deserves it, and a baby needs to have someone who thinks the sun rises and sets in her butt. Life is hard enough-give them that!
2006-09-01 15:45:26 · answer #7 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, it is very normal for a first time grandparent to go overboard like that. So be very prepared and dont keep her out the cirlce, atleast you know that she is there to help if you guys need her.
2006-09-01 15:40:16 · answer #8 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let you mom be a mom and a grandma. I am a grandfather of 5 and I went overboard with all of my grandchildren. If it gives your mom pleasure let her do it. She is not hurting anyone and she is having fun and making herself feel good. don't ruin it for her.
2006-09-02 22:31:40 · answer #9 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. My mother has only one grandchild and she has her own room at my mother's house. My sister and brother-in-law are in Mexico right now and my Mom took vacation from work just to care for my niece. It is perfectly normal.
2006-09-01 15:51:03 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋