My boyfriend and I are Sophomores in highschool, we are each others best friends, and more. We have had some problems, mostly on communication, about other girls. He is the sweetest guy, but hes a flirt, so am i.its not like i tell him he can't flirt. However, before we went out, he dated my best friend, who dumped him. later i went out with him for 6 months, a mutal friend and x of his wound up lying to us both and breaking us up(bad communication on our part) we have been going out problem free for another 4 months(about a year in total now). However, i've been worrying. I can't be balmed for worrying, but is it because im paranoid or is it my gut? he told me he was going in early to tutor his x, and my best friend. Lastly, she is on the phone with him a lot, she talks to him all the time, and is all over him. Shes like this with a lot of guys, but never with my boyfriend. I dont want to accuse my boyfriend of anything, should i ask him about my suspisions? and how should i ask him?
2006-09-01 08:27:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
too much reading, but i will say to follow your heart.
2006-09-01 08:29:38 · answer #1 · answered by imnotbtami 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I must say, you do know the problem,, it's the lack of communication.
Yes, you should talk to him about how your feeling, but don't say it like your upset or anything,, you will just put him on the defense and then nothing will be accomplished. You must communicate your feelings to each other so that you both know where you stand with one another.
Word of advice, don't get yourself into an emotional rollercoaster at your age. You have allot of living to do yet and allot of people to get to know, so don't bog yourself down into a relationship that your not totally secure with.
2006-09-01 08:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by chunkydunk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question when you said that you needed to improve the communication in the relationship. Just ask him in a nice way if you can talk about it. If he's as nice a person as you're saying than he probably won't have a problem with working out the issue.
2006-09-01 08:34:12 · answer #3 · answered by snl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not sound like this guy is the one for you at all. If he truely loved you he would not treat you this way. The thing I learned with relationship is that we deserve the upmost respect and if someone is not willing to give it to us then we are just wasting our time. You will only get this if you take a stand for yourself. This really is abusive behavior on his part towards you. It also doesn't sound like your bestfriend is not really being a bestfriend.
2006-09-01 08:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by Leighbucks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with him, dating in high school doesn't really lead to anything. you should both just date other people. long relationships in high school are a waste of time. you're young, i doubt you're really in love, maybe you are...so no offense. but when you're 25 and looking back on this it probably won't matter. it's not worth the heartache of being cheated on. definitly talk to him about it. if he is sweet like you say he is, he won't get mad at you and he'll be honest and help you not to worry. good luck
2006-09-01 08:33:59 · answer #5 · answered by cramner25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes ask him. Just tell him how you feel and you really want to put your mind at ease. So don't get mad at me i just need a little peace of mind.
Naturally he will say nothing. May be telling the truth. Then ask him not to do some of the things with her that bothers you. If he doesn't want to then there is more to it. If you are doing the same thing then you need to stop that to. give him a peace of mind.
2006-09-01 08:32:51 · answer #6 · answered by xeson1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey...I have a couple of questions that need clarifying. First of all, what has communications have to do with his being unfaithful? Second...with best friends like this why would you need enemies.
Seems to me you both have a lot of issues.
My advice: Shave your head and enter a convent.
As for your boyfriend....just be careful of sexually transmitted diseases. Remember...only nuns get VD from toilet seats
2006-09-01 08:32:08 · answer #7 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way i see it you have 2 ideas with 2 outcomes each and each option A: YOU tell HER and apolgize. in basic terms tell her what happend effect a(maximum straightforward): she gets mad stop being acquaintances with you yet in time she might come to forgive you and grow to be acquaintances back at a later factor effect B: (least straightforward) she blames her boyfriend thinking he took benefit of you and forestalls dateing him imediatly option B; You tell her no longer something effect A:(ninety 9% risk of occurring) she will locate out and by no ability decide to be acquaintances with you back. this might take place while she breaks up with him and he will say yeah properly your buddy kissed me so yeah effect B:(a million% risk of happeing) they finally end up spending something of there lifes at the same time and you key's risk-free actual i might choose option A. i understand one hundred human beings 89 have had relationships. 11 have had this occasion take place. 9 chosen option B one in all them ended with effect B(to date). My suggestion do no longer choose option A
2016-11-06 05:51:51 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the whole situation stinks whether or not something is going on - I will say if you guys break up they WILL hook up if they have not already - he should be a friend and a hook-up, but not a bf - find someone else to keep your head straight. good luck.
2006-09-01 08:38:47 · answer #9 · answered by Qmarc Q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 points.
2006-09-01 08:29:48 · answer #10 · answered by slaphappy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way i think to approach him on that is to be real and up front about what you think. if he out right gets mad at you he is guilty if he aint doing nothing sweetheart he will just come out and say it. so thats what i think you should do
2006-09-01 08:32:36 · answer #11 · answered by The LuvDoctor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋