My parents went on a trip and for a month were out. I did what I regret, joined bad crowds, was about t get in seriuos trouble (I didn't). Mom came 2 weeks ago and got to know what I did. I know I messed up, but though mom is treating me with love, she's going a bit overboard w/ my punishment. I only go out with her. Cell phone, internet and friends are controlled. although I can swim on wednesdays, fun only on weekends and with some restrictions. Shes controlling my clothes, only nice shirts over a bra (this will be forever) At night I stay home and spend quality time w/ mom, when we talk about life, right and wrong. This is not that bad, I know I was sidetracked, but such restrictions suck. And since mom wants me full of activities, I'm taking a culinary course. I complained, but mom was inflexible. I hate this course. Tthere are "homeworks", so I spend good part of my free time including saturday mornings in the course or in the kitchen wearing a cute apron, oh!. Till october
2006-09-01 08:18:21 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Mom said she wants to trust me again, can forgive me, but I gotta be patient and accept my punisshment without any rebellion. I won't rebel. I regret what I did, But that culinary course, it's too much, isn't it?
2006-09-01 08:20:15 · update #1
I hope my parents still love me
2006-09-01 08:20:42 · update #2
you are lucky to have a mom
mine died when i was 8 yrs old
enjoy her while you can
good luck and love 'em while you have 'em
2006-09-01 08:27:31 · answer #1 · answered by exert-7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You suck it up and deal with it. You screwed up, you know you screwed up, you betrayed your mother's trust in you, and now you've got to earn it back, and that's going to take a little while. The culinary course may not be your cup of tea (no pun intended) but think of it as learning a very important life skill that you can use for the rest of your life. You will be able to fix great tasting, nutritious food for your family and friends, this is a skill worth having, trust me. Maybe when the course is over, you can find another activity that you would rather do instead, and talk to your mom about allowing you to participate in that.
And if you were my daughter, I would have done the exact same thing as your mother has done. Your mom is doing what I'm doing with my 16 year old daughter, we're trying to raise girls who have morals and values in a world where those things have been tossed right out the window. A world in which girls are even more than ever being told by the media that they should be valued for their bodies than their minds. And a world in which promiscuous sex is accepted and sometimes even encouraged. We do these "horrible" things to our daughters because we love you very, very much, and know you're capable of so much more.
2006-09-01 08:28:34 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it might seem a little extreme at this point, but your mother is doing what she feels is best for you. She is trying to prevent you from making some bad decisions that you might regret in the long run. I would recommend that you deal with the punishment right now, and show her that you can be trusted and accept responsibility by doing what you are told to do. There is so much trouble for young people to get into, and sometimes that trouble can follow you the rest of your life. You must also remember that mom was once young and she knows what the consequences can be for making bad decisions. I would also advise you to be careful who you hang out with, and try to pick positive people. I can guarantee you that you will thank mom in the long run. Thank GOD you have a mother that cares enough to get involved, there are some kids who parents don't care at all. I would also like for you to think about things that could happen hanging with bad crowds for example: using drugs, teen pregnancy, imprisonment,and dropping out of school. Your mother loves you and want what's best for you.
2006-09-01 08:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by venita.bryant0149@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course your parents still love you. If they didn't, they would have let you keep going in the wrong direction. As far as the culinary course, I personally think that is an excellent idea. It is something that you can take into your home economics classes at school and you will use it into your adult life. I wish I would have thought of that when my children were little.
It seems that you are a very mature person who realized they did the wrong thing and can admit to it - Good for you.:)
Now you just have to continue being mature and take your punishments but know that they are being handed to you with love.
I would much rather see you in a cute little apron versus the clothing that is furnished in a juvenile center or in jail.
Good luck to you.
2006-09-01 08:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by kimmer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course your parents still love you. I'm a parent and I know that nothing my kids could do could make me stop loving them. The same is true for all parents. Your mother is doing the things she's doing to make sure that you don't end up going down the path you were headed on. It will take her a while to trust your judgement again. In the meantime, it would help a lot for you to take your punishment without whining and complaining about it. You chose the actions and these are your consequences. Just be glad that these are your consequences and not a pregnancy, ending up in juvenile hall, etc. As for the culinary course, trust me, years later, you'll end up being glad you took it.
2006-09-01 08:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by cldb730 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The old saying you reap what you sew, listen your punishment be lucky you have it. Iam 23 and I barely know who my mother is anymore. It seems like it sucks but I mean your ten years away from my age, trust me you dont want to have your mother not around and not able to trust you. Alot of things in life suck and what your mother is doing is simply trying to teach you responsibility and shes trying to involve you in a lucrative trade. Talk to her if you dont like culinary but be ready with an alternative option on what you want to take and a plan. You see the worst part is you did stuff that was wrong or were going too even though you knew it was wrong, thats why mom is so protective. My mom threw me out on the streets at 14. respect everything your getting because you know what in some places people dont have it as good as you.
2006-09-01 08:28:16 · answer #6 · answered by bibby6914 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well part of growing up and being an adult is learning how to deal with the consequences of your actions. I know that you feel sorry, and that you regret what you did, but for you to get away with things just because you're sorry is unfair.
For example, a burglar stole something very valuable in your house and then said sorry to you and didn't want to pay for his mistakes by not going to jail, it would be totally wrong for you to let him get away with it, right? Because the easier you let him off the hook, the more he won't be able to realize that what he did was wrong, and he'll be bound to do it again.
The same principle applies to you. You did something wrong, and now your punishment is to straighten up by following rules and taking this culinary course. You don't need to enjoy punishment, because if you did, then what's the point of giving you one?
Your parents do indeed love you, they care so much for you that they are guiding you into the right path and want you to make better choices in your life.
2006-09-01 10:32:34 · answer #7 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really sounds like you don't have it that bad. If you're only problem with your punishment is the culinary course maybe you should try sitting down with your Mom again. Explain to her what you don't like about the course and offer her ideas about other courses you'd be interested in taking. Don't complain about the course just let her know that you'd rather do something you have more interest in. Be mature when you talk to her. Remember you are very lucky to have a Mother that will spend time with you.
2006-09-01 08:32:28 · answer #8 · answered by LJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents definitely still love you! If you don't like the culinary course, come up with an activity you would enjoy, and ask to switch. Since you're only doing it since your mom wants you full of activities, she will probably agree to let you choose which activities you do. As for all the restrictions, well, just do the best you can.
2006-09-01 08:55:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course they still love you! But gosh you must have done something REALLY bad. A culinary course sounds like fun to me. You get to learn how to cook for yourself. That's cool. You know, your punishment could be a lot worse. You should just grin and bear it and maybe your parents will lift the punishment when they see you can be responsible. You should probably talk to your mom in a mature way and promise her you won't do it again and prove your responsibility in some way. Good luck!
2006-09-01 08:27:20 · answer #10 · answered by songbird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents will always love you no matter what. take your punishment like an adult even though you aren't one. if you don't like culinary presnt other options to her in an adult matter. think of what you would like to do, maybe dancing or volunteer at a library, reading to adults or children. something you may enjoy but will also be a service to someone else. your punishment is very light seeing as you still have privledges. show that you can be mature aboutit. and be mature an responsible in other areas of your life. as well as your home life. open up more, it sounds corny but when your an adult you'll relize how important you time with your mother is right now, this instant. and in the years to come till you have a family of your own. love your mother for punishing you. it's all she can do to show you she cares enough to stop you from bad judgements and push you towards good ones, and activities that will involve you in healthy desicions
2006-09-01 08:37:32 · answer #11 · answered by titfany 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋