I am having a problem with the gift. I know it may be petty but I feel like I am jiping them. I dont have the money to give them so I made them a gift for the new house. Do you think that is ok? I did get a nice gift for the shower though, so I guess it balances out....
2006-09-01 08:17:05 · 17 answers · asked by rosebud04 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Handmade gifts are definitely priceless so don't worry about it's monetary value. Especially since you gave a nice shower gift. A gift that I love to give people for weddings, birthdays and showers are scrapbooks. I pre make the pages to where they just have to fill in the pictures and/or journal entries. I have never gotten a complaint. But I am sure what you have done for them will be fine, so as long as you did it with them in mind and it came from your heart.
2006-09-01 08:26:10 · answer #1 · answered by Heavensent 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Gifts come from the heart of the giver. Personally, I think something that is made with a loved ones own 2 hands is much better than something that was bought at the store, or another gift card. You put your time and love into physically making the couple something, remember your time is worth something too. Not knocking gift cards, they're great, but that personal touch is very thoughtful and sweet. Personally, I'm making my brother and his bride to be a quilt for their gift. Don't let anyone tell you you had to bring a gift that would cover the cost of your dinner, that's not true.
2006-09-01 16:20:39 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just got married and while I didnt care about receiving a gift at all, I thought it was nice that they thought of me. I also do not beleive that it is necessary to give a shower gift and a wedding gift, to me they should be one in the same. Unless, that is you were invited to a lingerie shower and gave lingerie. In that case, I think you either give two gifts (lingerie and wedding) or you decide you cannot afford two, and skip the lingerie shower and give a wedding gift. If you are a close friend and feell you shoudl attend the lingerie shower, I'm sure your close friend will understand your financial situation and not expect anything more than what you can affod. To answer your question, I think you went above and beyond by making a second gift. It shows thoughtfullness.
2006-09-01 15:21:59 · answer #3 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got married in June and for me it was definitely the thought that counted. We had many aunts/uncles and friends give us fairly generous amounts of money but the gift that truly is my favorite is from one of his aunts, she took the time/effort to frame/matte our invitation with pressed flowers that matched our colors. It is a priceless gift and it isn't about the money she spent it's more the idea that she thought so nicely of us to do something like that that would last forever. Another idea I have heard of is getting script like paper and printing the words to the couple's wedding song and framing it. Gifts like that are the most special and the most memorable so if I were you I wouldn't feel like you were "jipping" anyone, I'm sure they'll appreciate whatever you decide to do!
2006-09-01 15:40:10 · answer #4 · answered by jessicamarie0572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, go enjoy the wedding, and take your gift. You made it with love and good thoughts. I love getting something made personally. To me it's more thoughtful, because you took a lot of time to do this for me!
For a couple, I think one gift should be all that you should give. I think giving 2 is too much. But, you have done something from the heart and I know I would cherish it always....so, take your gift, dress up and go share their happy day with them....
God bless us all...........
2006-09-01 15:54:47 · answer #5 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wedding gifts ARE NOT MANDATORY. If you attend a shower, you have to bring a shower gift but that is the only circumstance in which you MUST give a gift. And you already did that.
2006-09-01 19:59:38 · answer #6 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats fine, people will understand. Some people did not give us gifts at our wedding and it was not a big deal to us. As long as they were there. We just went to on and did not give anything to them but we really didn't have the money, we had to spend almost 300 onthe hotel room! and they had a cash bar anyways.
2006-09-01 15:25:10 · answer #7 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just give money. the gift you gave at the shower was the shower gift and doesnt cover it. they are paying for you to celebrate with them. dont buy new shoes for the occasion and give them the $$.
2006-09-01 17:32:19 · answer #8 · answered by dtamez99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it should be the thought that counts. If you are afraid your friends might expect more of a present than you can afford, then you might want to re-consider just how good of friends you all are!
That said... if the gift you made is in good taste and is something they will like/use/enjoy, you will be fine. If it's magic-marker-colored macaroni glued to paper, though... (just kidding).
2006-09-01 15:23:44 · answer #9 · answered by dcgirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I think that's just fine hon...a gift from the heart is priceless! Wrap it up and really fuss over the ribbons and bows on it...they will be touched by your gift!
2006-09-01 15:20:59 · answer #10 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋