I was seeing this man and he beat me unconcious, I couldn't eat for 2 days and my face was very swollen. Lately I have been thinking about him and wanted to get back with him but start out a friends am i crazy.
2006-09-01 08:16:24 · 35 answers · asked by dark rockchick 4 in Health ➔ Other - Health
also he asked to marry me several times and he said the reason why he did it was because he was jealous of my body and didn't want me to work or even leave the house.
2006-09-01 08:29:21 · update #1
Its not as easy as everyone thinks to leave an abusive partner, believe me I know. I used to be the kinda girl that said if a guy even raises a hand to me that I would leave.. Then I met "mike". Everything was great at the beginning, or so I thought. I realized leter that it was never great with us. He used the power he had over me to take away any self esteem I had. Then he slowly started taking control. Got me hooked on cocaine, started calling names, a little push and little shove...next thing I knew I was admitted to the hospital with a fatured skull because of him. I was discharged from the hospital had a sheriff meet me at our house and i packed up what I could in a hour and left. I wish I could say that I never looked back but there were many times I thought about him and how great I thought things were in the beginning. He would email me and tell me that he loved me and would never hurt me again... With the help of family and friends I held my ground and didnt go back. I realized I was feeling that way cuz I was lonely and had no self esteem cuz he took that and all my self respect away from me. Thats waht your ex did to you too. Seek help from a counselor or psycologist.. I did because I realized every aspect opf my life was different. The way I handled different situations and people. I needed help to put everything back where it belonged. Its ok to seek help and only you and the doctor need to know. Dont go back with him cuz the same will happen again and now he knows he has even more power over you. Be strong, surround yourself with friends and family so you dont feel lonely... Its not easy but when you completely heal from that experience it will be well worth it. Good Luck and Take care.
Note: his reason for wanting to marry you is insane. shows just how possesive and controlly he is. Chances are you'll end up the hospital or dead if you go back to him.
2006-09-01 08:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your last sentence was your answer. If you take this psycopath back you can look forward to more beatings. Just think if you were married. There is not anyway possible that you and him could start out as friends. These type people is like a "pedofile" child molester. There is no cure for a "pedofile", and they is no cure for your friend. You can expect more beatings if you continue to see him. How can anyone human beat up a normally defenseless lady. Next time phone 911 and off to Jail he will go, no questions asked. In most states, including Alabama during a domestic dispute, married, or single one party, if not both will be going to jail. Here in this county for at least twelve hours. That is the cooling off period. DUI charge, until you are sober, generally four hours according to the Sheriff's dept. Rody
2006-09-01 08:37:30 · answer #2 · answered by virginiamayoaunt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you should change your name under ur picture. God didn't make you that way. But He also didn't create you to be beaten, bruised and battered. I've read a lot of the responses, but we have to understand that you're not the only one that goes through this. You need all the love and support from your friends and family. You also need to look at YOU!! You're a special individual and you have a life in front of you. Don't let no one cut that off. You are not crazy, you may need to seek some counseling. You want a companion to love and respect you for you. I pray that all goes well with you. Have a pleasant day
2006-09-01 08:50:38 · answer #3 · answered by Tama C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls that stick with abusive guys are just one thing:
DUMB B*TCHES.
There is no reason, no matter how much he apologizes, says his temper went out of control, promises to change, you cannot and should not stick with a guy like that. My sister is with a guy who verbally abuses her all the time, and though she'd never admit to it I know he's hit her too. She sticks with him, for some horrible reason, most likely her low self-esteem. When he messes with her, she somehow makes it to be her fault. That is f*cked up.
You need to remove this guy from your life for good. There is a whole higher level of love and respect in a relationship you are completely missing out on, and once you see that in the future you will realize what an idiot you were for staying with this guy.
Honey, he attacked you. He beat you unconscious. He had the ability to kill you. You do not associate with people who do that to you. You especially do not have intimate relationships with somebody who does that to you. This man does not respect you or your body. And honestly, if you are even having thoughts about going back to him, you must not have much respect for yourself either.
Get out of there, it can get better and you can find a guy that will treat you how you are supposed to be treated. You will see this, and you will love that feeling and will regret even wasting your time on this a**hole that beat the crap out of you.
2006-09-01 08:35:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't EVER get back together with him, even if he apologizes and says he'll never do it again. It's a lie. He's NOT sorry he did it (or else he wouldn't have done it in the first place) and he WILL do it again if you get back together with him. What you should do is call the police and report it, even if it happened several months ago -- the statute of limitations on assault is usually two years. DO NOT LET THIS GUY BACK INTO YOUR LIFE AT ALL. You'll regret it if you do.
2006-09-01 08:21:45 · answer #5 · answered by sarge927 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to get away and stay away from him!
this is what is called an ABUSIVE relationship.
if he LOVED you, he would never HURT you!
you deserve a man who DOES NOT hurt you.
enlist in the support of family and friends. let them know what's going on. go stay with a friend or family member until you can get back on your feet.
get a court order against this guy. if he tries to come near you, harass you, or hurt you again- you can bet when you call them, the cops will show up and arrest him.
whenever you feel like going back to him, tell someone. listen to them when they tell you that that is the worst thing you could possibly do in your entire life.
2006-09-01 08:29:10 · answer #6 · answered by miss advice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite common for battered women to stay with their abusive partners. I work in law enforcement and see it frequently. Usually it is because the male belittles her and makes her feel like she cant possibly survive without him.
You do need to get some psychological help to get over him but no you are not crazy. It is part of the cycle of abuse. Just remember the next time he beats you may be the last time because next time he may kill you.
Shelle
2006-09-01 08:25:50 · answer #7 · answered by shelle007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you want to be beaten to a pulp or even killed, you'd go back to him. He may have some great quailties that you see however violence should NEVER happen. My mother was beaten often by my father. She has a blown eardrum and can't see very well out of one eye, due to the blows.
There are so many men out there that have respect for women and would never strike out! Find someone else!
Do it for yourself.
2006-09-01 08:20:11 · answer #8 · answered by kablaow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to let someone go who you love and have a history with, I know, I've been there. It is, however, the best decision you can make to stay as far away from him as possible. It is a lot easier if you don't have to see or talk to him at all...I know you will want to but girl, you are stonger than any man...we are the stronger sex! You can do it if you put your heart into it, Good Luck and please make the right choice for yourself and your future!
2006-09-01 08:21:50 · answer #9 · answered by Country Girl for Life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt take a man who hit just once back because I know next time he might not stop after juat one hit you are lucky to be alive even though you have thoughts of going back to your ex you shouldnt Im not going to scold you over it your an adult but I'll tell you this he might kill you next time be safe
2006-09-01 08:23:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋