Has my mother accepted my wife? She was mean to her for years!?

Question

My wife and I have been together for 5 years and married for 2.

For the first 3 years of our relationship my mom tried to break us up.

I am her only child and she hasn't had a boyfriend in 10 years, so she was very upset I "left her" for my wife.

For our 1st year of marriage my mom was polite, but didn't seem like she really cared about getting to know my wife.

Now, for the past 6 months or so she has been really nice to my wife.

We go to dinner together and she actually seems like she enjoys talking to my wife.

She has been writing in cards that she knows we will be good parents one day.

She has also written that she is happy I have found a wife that I love very much and she knows I am happy.

The big thing I have noticed is sometimes she kisses my wife on the cheek when she hugs her, she always did that to me, but no to my wife.

Do you think she has finally accepted my wife or do you think its an act?

Answer 1

Sounds like your wife finally made the grade! Either that or your mom has a boyfriend, hehe!

Answer 2

As being the only child and a male and not to mention the fact that your mother has been single for 10 years, your mother grew a really strong relationship with you and did not want to take 2nd place to any other female. I can tell you that your mom has just seriously accepted the fact that you have another woman in your life that you love, and you probably never stopped showing your mother the attention that you gave her before you were married. Am I right. So calm down, your mom isn't trying to sabotage your marriage. She has just simply accepted the marriage. Now, all that's left to do is have some kids. That will satisfy her loneliness.

Answer 3

It certainly sounds like it, but only you know your mom well enough to be able to tell if she's putting on an act.

I can tell you, that with you being an only child, it was probably more difficult for your mother to "let go" of you, and she probably worried that your wife wouldn't be as good to you as she (your mom) was. Now that some time has gone by, and your mom has realized that your wife does take care of "her baby," she's probably relaxed a bit, and has accepted your wife as the daughter she never had. Hopefully they will have a good relationship in the future. I know I have a pretty good relationship with my mother in law.

Answer 4

It sounds to me like your mother has finally caved in and has accepted your wife. I think the behavior from her before was because she probably didn't want you to make the same mistake that she made and marry the wrong person. She was more likely trying to see how much the two of you could handle together and now that it has been a few years she thinks you've passed her little test. Sounds to me like the feelings towards your wife a genuine. Don't worry about it.

Answer 5

Hopefully she is coming around, but keep an eye on her because she could have some elaborate scheme in play. You could always talk to your mom and just straight out ask her if she's finally accepted your wife. It obviously wasn't a big secret that she didn't like her in the past.

Answer 6

NOOOOOOOO!!! she did NOT! and she never will..
didn't u know that the "only child " mothers are selfish and mean?? especially when their only child is a boy.
Ur pour wife will never get into her glories.. it's a pitty, I know..
the best u'll have of this (and be thankfull if u have it) is that she cannot cope with the fear of losing her only boy.. she's getting old.. and she started to take other things into consideration.. she realises that by showing hostility she's taking a great risk, and she might end up alone and hurt..so cociliation and compromises are the best u'll have. Good Luck!

Answer 7

Sometimes you have to fake it till you make it. Maybe she is faking, and the result is your wife is being treated better.
Maybe she is for real and the result is your wife is being treated better. Who can tell? Who cares?
Maybe momma finally figured out that your wife is going to have her grands, and if she wants to have access to them, she better straighten up. It can be a strong motivator for pleasant behavior.
Maybe your momma finally figured out she is stuck with your wife and to grin and bear it. Good for her.
I lucked out and have a fabulous d-i-law. I don't have to fake it, but I DO have to keep my mouth shut sometimes. As a result, she and I are best friends, and I know more about my son than I wish I did. I also have unlimited access to the cutest little girl on the planet!
Don't look a gift horse in the mouth--just take it and ride off into the sunset.

Answer 8

Either she has learnt what a lovely human being your wife is and have accepted her. Or she is playing games. Ask your wife if she has had a 'talk' with your mom because they could have solved whatever issue they had. Any which way, this is good news for you dude!

Answer 9

It does not matter if she is doing it because it makes you happy or if she is finally accepting her. As time goes by and she sees you are happy she will come to love her as much as you do. If there are children someday, she will totally embrace you all.
If she is like my mother however and you ever break up, she is going to be the first one to say "I told you so."

Answer 10

Sounds like it, yes.

Sometimes as a parent, we finally get to the point where we realize that our child's happiness is the most important thing.

If she loves you, and knows you're happy, then it's no surprise to me that she has come to her senses. Good for all of you! Enjoy having a warm, loving family!