My girl doest sit in one place a very active girl and as i m all alone to look after her it makes situation out of control and then it ends up in a slap or push. After i realize that i have done wrong i take her in my arms and showers hugs and kisses on her. And she forgets(i think so). I am afraid that i am doing someting terribaly wrong with her mental development. And she is 9.2 kg for last 4 months. What to do. Help!!!!
2006-09-01 07:53:34 · 17 answers · asked by eternal 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I understand that you get to your rope's end, but please dont slap her. It will only encourage her to have a violent behavior and slap other kids. Visit http://www.mothering.com/discussions/forumdisplay.php?f=36 for some advice on other ways to handle this. If she's overactive, maybe consider cutting down on her sugar intake (juice, soda, candy, ice-cream, etc...) It will help.
2006-09-01 08:00:52 · answer #1 · answered by Delphine F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you feel the situation building up pressure, you should separate the two of you by going outside or into another room. if she cries, just let her cry until you've had a chance to cool down or let someone else help out. Crying is not gonna kill her and she will learn to comfort and pacify herself. As long as you know she's not wet or hungry or sick, then she will be just fine. I had to do this when my child was younger and still do sometimes and she's almost 10. When I feel like I'm about to haul off and smack the crap out of her, I walk away. I do not have patience for children and that is why I only have one. My nerves could not take more than that. Anyway, striking her is not good. That will scar her emotionally and traumatize her. You should never do that while she is too young to understand what's going on. I do think that if your child sasses you or back talks you or speaks disrespectfully to you when she gets a little older, then a pop in the mouth will benifit her, just don't try to knock her teeth out. Don't hurt your baby. You love her and care for her and if the stress gets to be too much don't be afraid to ask for help. If you injure her, not only will you hate yourself, but you will go to jail and she will be taken away from you. She would end up without a mother and people will dispise you. No one likes mothers who don't take care of their own children.
And don't have anymore children until you know for sure that you are emotionally able to raise them ok. Seek some professional help to see if you have postpardom depression because that could be very dangerous for your child.
By the way your question is worded, I think I can assume this is a hoax. But a child will eat when they get ready. You don't have to force her to eat or drink.
2006-09-01 08:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by HazelEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 21month child Never sits still. You need to get a hold of the situation and yourself before you slap. Hitting a child teaches them nothing except that hitting is ok. Hitting demonstrates your lack of control at your frustration level. Choose your battles and you will be less frustrated. It might help to take some parenting classes. Baby's weight gain slows as they get older. As long as your doctor doesn't show concern and you know she is eating well, don't worry.
2006-09-01 08:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The point of parenting is to stay IN control. Never hit out of anger. Don't make eating a battle. If she's hungry, she'll eat. You need to speak to her pediatrician if her weight concerns you and you should probably get some help keeping your emotions in check (try a mental health clinic or ask your pediatrician for a recommendation). Your daughter will thank you for it. Good luck !
2006-09-01 08:04:31 · answer #4 · answered by wrennightwind 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son became into like this he might continuously stare at me eating and cry, i eventually gave him solids at 4 and a a million/2 months, he had good head administration so I sat him in his comfortable chair and fed him 2 spoonfuls of toddler porridge.. He didnt push the spoon out so I knew he became into waiting and proceeded to offer him the food and he devour all of it (I waited an entire 24 hours earlier attempting him lower back) and he steadily had further and extra He became into additionally breastfed and that i comprehend he became into waiting for solids as quickly as I gave him some.. he's now 6 months and eats porridge of a morning mashed with puréed banana, has puréed fruit of a dinner and a few puréed veg of a night and he's an exceedingly content textile and satisfied toddler and see on in his weight! Mums comprehend perfect, as long as toddler has good head administration and would devour off a spoon no longer interior the bottle like rusk (do no longer try this!) it is superb! good success x
2016-12-11 19:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TALK TO HER DOCTOR AND GET SOME HELP!!
The fact that you are so overwhelmed that you are slapping her and doing it enough that you are feeling guilty indicates a SERIOUS problem. You may not think things will get out of control, but they can spiral so quickly and then you will have seriously hurt your daughter or worse and you will never be able to take it back.
Doctors can help refer you to programs that can help you get control of yourself and of you daughter.
It is normal for a 21 month old to be active and not sit still. It is NOT normal for you to be slapping or pushing her.
I know its hard to be a Mom and to work and to pay the bills and clean the house and everything else. But, I'm sure you love your daughter above all else. And, you are running the risk of hurting her... actually, you ARE hurting her. Seek a support group IMMEDIATELY. PLEASE!!!
2006-09-02 05:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by Amalthea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're brave for admitting that you slap your child... That's the first step in GETTING HELP. There is no reason to hit someone that young and you are doing permanent damage and basically if you keep on this track, you will ruin her life. Slapping & then trading it for love and affection? You might be truly warped.
Being alone is no excuse. Control yourself and get help.
A good guide to discipline is Dr. William Sears, and the La Leche League's guidance on gentle discipline. Go to a freakin' library, get a book.
2006-09-01 08:21:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please tell all of us you are joking. You need to be slapped!! How dare you hit a baby. She is just now learning how to get her feelings out. She gets frustrated at not being able to do this. You should leave her in her bed till you calm down. Then think twice before hitting her. OMG, my heart goes out to this child and to you. I am a retired nurse. I have seen kids that have died in front of me due to parents not keeping their temper under control. She did not ask to be here, you made the commitment to care and protect her. If you can't deal with motherhood there are many people WHO would do open adoption. I have done this wit my son. His birth mother sees him and things are great. I would do it again in a heart beat. Good luck to you and may God bless you!!!
2006-09-01 08:06:42 · answer #8 · answered by sweethometexas2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not hit your kid for not eating. When they get hungry, they will eat. She is two, and her not eating and wanting to play, is to be expected. I understand that being a single parent can be difficult, but sounds like you are taking that out on her, in some way. You will get through it. And besides, she is two, her appetite will pick up soon. If you can not handle that, then I suggest getting some help mentally, emotional, etc... If I slapped my kids for not eating, they would be bruised. Like I said, she will eat when she gets hungry. Good luck, and please don't take it out on her.
2006-09-01 08:07:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get help to control your anger. Sounds like you're in a tough situation, but this is abuse and needs to stop.
Check with her pediatrician on how much she should weigh, and ways to get her there. 9.2 kg sounds pretty light for 21 months, but would depend on things like bone structure.
2006-09-01 08:03:39 · answer #10 · answered by Judy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋