How do you get a woman to think of you as more than a friend? She says I am cute, funny, and a great guy. What am I doing wrong?
2006-09-01 07:48:36 · 23 answers · asked by Big Daddy M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ihavn't read all the answers yet, but a comon one I have read is ask her. I have, and she doesn't sem to want to take it any further.
2006-09-01 08:27:01 · update #1
It sounds like she's just not into you man, sorry.
But if you like, ask her straight out.
No pain, no gain.
This way, you can move on.
2006-09-01 07:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Serious answer..not from a kid....I'm not sure why you see being cute, funny and great as wrong things. There really isn't enough information here to make a determination but the long and short of it is that the chemistry is either there or it isn't. I had a guy best friend, I love him to death and love spending time with him and I think he's gorgeous and most days was more content to be with him than the guys that asked me out...however, our destiny was just to be friends, if I had a female friend that I really respected I would recommend she date him in a heartbeat, it just wasn't in the cards for us. Its not a bad thing though, that relationship had more value than many of them ones each of us tried to create by dating people. You have to be careful though, her body language will tell you what you need to know but crossing that line if she doesn't want to cross it could very well make it impossible for her to continue being friends with you.
2006-09-01 14:53:53 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you're doing nothing wrong. It's just chemistry and has to click between both...not something you really have any control over. I've met guys I've been friends with - and no matter how much I liked them I knew they were only going to be friends, cause just didn't have that....?....spark? click? Whatever it is.
Now I hate to have said, "Only" friends...as friends very often last longer than lovers..lol.
So much for the "click" huh? lol
If you asked her (and you say you did) and she doesn't want to take it any further...then there is nothing you can do to convince her otherwise - sorry but that's the way it goes.
2006-09-01 14:54:17 · answer #3 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After you've been "friends" for a while the possibility of dating becomes less and less. The relationship just gets to confusing when you try and take it in another direction.It also sounds like you've got nice guy syndrome.Nice guys make great friends,but they are also doormats.No woman will respect you if she can walk all over you,and if you don't have a backbone. Kissing her a.s.s. will mean if you sleep over it's on the couch.
2006-09-01 14:57:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, I've been there. Does she know that you want more than to be just friends? If not, don't tell her. If anything, talk to one of her girlfriends to see if you can get some more feedback on what she's looking for in a man and find out more about her that way. Sometimes you lose them completely when they find out you want more than friendship. But if you want a relationship or nothing, then go for it. Let her know that you want more.
Otherwise, just let things play out and if it's meant to be, then it will happen,
2006-09-01 14:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by Slim Dave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you aren't doing anything wrong. Ask her out it sounds like you already have a foot in the door. But the truth is no matter what a wonderful person you are, attraction is an iffy thing and you can't make someone attracted to you, they either are or aren't. Good luck.
2006-09-01 14:52:30 · answer #6 · answered by sweet smile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient and be the best friend she can have. Hold her hand through heartaches and someday she will realize what she is looking for has been right beside her all along. Girls always look for the bad boys, and one day we snap out of it and see what we really want, which is a nice guy who is there for us. Good luck!! :)
2006-09-01 14:52:16 · answer #7 · answered by BVZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to discourage you in any way, but those words she has chosen sound like she is trying to let you down easy . I doubt if she returns those more intense feelings . It's ok you sound like a very nice person and I'm sure you will find the girl of your dreams .
2006-09-01 14:56:24 · answer #8 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smile at her
Grab her breasts
Slap her lightly on the azz
then ask her out
but remember...
1. Bang her
2. Leave her
3. Move on to the next chick
4. Get in her panties
5. Repeat steps 1 - 4
2006-09-01 14:50:59 · answer #9 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Have you told her you would like to explore making the relationship more than a simple friendship? You can't make anyone like you.... but if you want more, don't ask for it, and then don't get it....don't complain.
2006-09-01 14:52:04 · answer #10 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r beeing a NICE GUY! girls dont like nice guys...
this is what i follow when i try to get a girl (im good w/ ladies and im only an 8 out of 10.)
.COCKY AND FUNNY!
(thats the #1 thing girls like... but you have to be both cocky + funny cuz by themselves they suck)
2. do not be submissive
as in let that girl push you around and tell you what to do all the time and actually do it.
3. Body Language
this is very important.. the way you walk and talk is an unconcious player in this game... guys who get girls dont walk around all slouched w/ their heads down.. they walk with their heads up chest out.
4. Mixed messages
this will keep a girl on her feet and make you more mysterious.. and girls LOVE guys who are unpredicatble and mysterious
5. be MYSERIOUS and UNPREDICATBLE
lol... predicatble guys arnt interesting to women
6. BE DIFFERENT
girls r hit on every day all the time... so you have to set yourself apart from the other guys... i dont mean like be different by dying your hair and taking up some kind of strange hobbit! i mean be different as in your approach and the way you talk to them.
7. Treat them like brats
i dont mean to be mean to them.. i just mean treat them like your little sister.. look around... all the guys who have girls treat them like little bratty kids... girls like that.
8. Dont be a wussy
dont tell them how u feel... and dont call them everyday... as a matter of fact dont call them. act like you rnt interested... be INDIFFERENT
invite the girl u like to go shopping w/ u... but do it like this
"hey... im going shopping you wanna help me out in selecting a new outfit?" it should work for most women because they LOVE to go shopping especially for men.
for more specific details you can IM me my username is ryacosta89 (thats my username for both AIM and Yahoo IM)
2006-09-01 14:55:56 · answer #11 · answered by ryanisalifestyle 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋