Question on breastmilk/pregnancy?

Question

About 4 years ago, I became pregnant, and had to terminate the pregnancy due to serious medical circumstances. Now before you all judge me based on this, I really did not have a choice according to doctors. I think abortion is a terrible, horrid murderous thing, and I feel SO incredibly guilty. So please, please no hurtful remarks, I feel bad enough as it is. I know what I did was wrong, and if given the chance again, I would have let the baby lived and died myself. I was 18 alone, and scared and was being told that if I continued the pregnancy, the baby would be born without being able to walk,talk,or live a normal life. So I did what I THOUGHT was right. Anyway, I am still producing breast milk, how long does your body usually produce milk after pregnancy? Once again, helpful answers only,please. Thank you and God bless.

It's not a lot of milk..just a few drops here and there, but still enough to be concerned about, I suppose.

I never asked about it, because I was so ashamed of what I had done, and didn't want to ask the doctor and bring up bad memories.

Answer 1

(((HUGS ))) to you. I know how hard it is to lose a much loved and wanted child.

It was not your fault your baby had an illness incompatible with life! He or she is now in heaven and unspeakably happy, with no suffering. I know your child does not blame you for doing what you had to do, please don't blame yourself sweetie.

Usually milk will dry up after a few months at the longest. Sometimes a thyroid or pituitary gland malfunction can cause fluid to leak from the breasts. I advise you to talk with your doctor about this so you can have your glandular function checked.

Again, I am so sorry for your loss. I know how much that hurts, and it's something that never fully goes away. How could it? That was your baby. I hope someday you will be blessed with a healthy living child to bring joy to your life.

Answer 2

Interesting that you say your body is still producing milk after 4 years. That seems like a very very long time. Now I'm a guy, but I do have 3 kids all of whom have been breastfed so I know a few things about boobs (besides that they're sexy) and one of them is that if they don't get used, they should stop producing, and it shouldn't take that long. I would say a few weeks or a couple of months at most if you're not breastfeeding, they should go back to normal. But to me it seems like your problem might be hormonal, I think you probably should see a doctor.
And even though I'm very much against abortion, I wouldn't judge you. I think you should forgive yourself because if you acknowledge that it was wrong then God has already forgiven you, and it's between you God, so if He forgave you, then you should forgive yourself and let things heal. Don't let anybody else stop you from living a joyful life. And find someone to give you a hug. You need one.

Answer 3

4 years and you are still producing milk? Now are we talking enough to fill a bottle, or just little drops from time to time? I had my daughter 2 years ago, and on occasion I find that my breasts have still leaked a little. My friend who has had 4 children has had the same thing, though I'm not sure to what extent. My GUESS on it would be that small amounts are normal. Though if it is alot, I would suggest talking to your doctor about it just to make sure nothing is wrong. Your body could for some reason still be producing the hormones that create breastmilk.

Back in the middle ages, some women would work for rich families being milk maids, they would breastfeed the rich parent's child. In between jobs, they would find ways to keep their milk supply from drying up. So, in a sense humans are similar to cows. (yes this is weird) If you keep removing the milk, the body keeps producing it

Answer 4

First of all, you did what was right for you honey, I don't agree with abortion as a method of birth control, BUT the decision you made was in NO WAY selfish....if you ask me it was an act of mercy. I'd hug you if I could, it makes me sad that you carry guilt that is not fitting! On the producing breast milk question....my milk dried up a week or two after I stopped breastfeeding my son which I only did for 5 weeks. I wish I had a better answer, perhaps a trip to the local health-food store might help. The one in my neighborhood helps me with everything from digestion, to common colds...there seems to be an herbal/natural remedy for everything....hope that helps. My best wishes to you!

Answer 5

First of all, I am sorry for your loss. You went through a horribly traumatic experience at a young age--one that no one should have to go through at any age.

As for the milk, my daughter is two and I can still produce small amounts, though I haven't breastfed her since she was 4 months old. But since actual breastmilk (not colostrum) usually comes in after the baby is born, not during pregnancy, I'd suggest going to the doctor. I don't know what it could be, but you definitely should find out rather than continue waiting it out. Good luck to you.

Answer 6

There are a lot of points that should be considered regarding your abortion issues. First of all, how do you define "medical circumstances"? From your statement, It sounds like there were medical RISKS involved. Considering that, Is it you, as the bearer of the fetus at risk or the fetus? Either of those redeems you from feeling guilty since as you mentioned medical advice. It only gives justice to do what is necessary. About your other problem, breast milk production continuous from 2-6 months. If your breast is engorged, i advice you to use a pump whenever necessary.

Answer 7

My girlfriend had a kid a year and a half ago and I met her after she had the kid for a year, she is 21 now, was 19 when pregnant, but anyway she is not producing any milk, 4 years seems a long time.

Answer 8

First you should seek help and you experienced something traumatic that is still affecting you. You did what you thoguth was best for all parties at the time. You need to speak to someone about how you feel and find a better way to deal with your emotions.

You also need to see a doctor regarding the breast milk and they can prescribe medication for your problem.

Answer 9

I once asked at my gyno's why do i leak milk. They ask me if my partner played with my breast a lot. I replied with a yes.
The nurse said that its cuz the guy is playin with the breast and the ducts are being moved around, so they once in a while leak like the color of breast milk.

If I were you, I would still ask a doctor.

Answer 10

You did the right thing, I am almost an expert about lactation, but not how to dry up, I know if a baby is nursing only enough is produced for the babies needs, you might try to ween a breast pump just do a little less every day, good luck with that!