My brother died 3 years ago on Christmas morning. I hadn't seen him in three years and was suppost to see him that morning. I feel like sometimes I'm forgetting him. His birthday is coming up and I want to do something to honor his memory, What could I do?
2006-09-01 07:29:08 · 37 answers · asked by ME 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sorry didn't mention he died by car accident he was 23. It was very a nasty night with snow and ice his vechile slided of the road into a tree and his neck broke, he died instanly.
2006-09-01 07:46:24 · update #1
You can have Shirts made with your brothers picture and his favorite saying and you an the family can wear them while having a memorial for his birthday. Another thing is going to visit and lay a flower blanket and just talk and express yourself, let it out. Yoo are not forgetting, you are trying to forget the guilt you are carrying. It's not your fault and I am quite sure your bother loved you and the Angels are looking after him and you! I do hope this helps. ;-)
2006-09-01 07:34:38 · answer #1 · answered by DeZigns By Monique 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My sister will be gone two years this october and she was only fifteen when she passed, she was killed by a drunk driver. The closest of her relatives got together last year and ate lunch together then went to the cemetary and brought her balloons and flowers just because she liked the attention so we figured 30 balloons flying around her grave sight would be noticed by people!! Then we went to the crash sight and left flowers on the ground we didn't put up a cross because she always thought they would cause a crash because people would pay attention to the side of the road where crosses were and not keep their eyes on the road. After that we went back to my mom's and told are favorite stories about her and laughed alot even though it was the anniversary of her death we celebrated her life and plan to do that every year just so we never forget her!!!
2006-09-01 07:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by brunette 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I would like to say that I am sorry for your lost. My best friends sister was killed in a car accident 2 years ago (age 18). My friend and his family go to see her every year during christmas, easter, birthday, etc. christmas, they put a small christmas tree next to her grave, easter they would put a bunch of flowers and yard ornaments around her grave, If you would really like to bring back the memory, I would get your family, and his friends to go visit him and sing happy birthday, and possibly put some flowers around his plot, and if it's not windy a candle. It's hard, but you will eventually get through it. I've been trying to help my friend since the incident. Good Luck
2006-09-01 07:38:06 · answer #3 · answered by Frank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We never forget the ones we love...I am sorry for your loss and can say that what makes you smile, what makes you laugh can be a remembrance of him. He is part of you and I am sure he would want you to be happy! I do like the ideas given to you about donating to a charity, volunteer, plant a tree, and tattoo...the love of my life was murdered 2 1/2 years ago and I got a tattoo in memory of him. I visit the grave, every "quarter " of the year I replace flowers on the stone, I have a boy fishing statue in my garden that reminds me, I have his picture in a frame...there are a lot of things you could do..loving him is the best gift you could have ever given him!
2006-09-01 07:40:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Janice Joplin ,the great blues singer, had a great idea. On the one year anniversary, of her death her will financed a great memorial party where she stipulated that no participant grieve But instead, enjoy themselves, remembering the good times past and getting home in one piece after the bash was over.
As usual, Pearl provided for all the refreshments, drink, (Southern Comfort and other "beverages,") were there in plentiful supply and other "good cheer", with great food. I hear that it was a roaring success. And all her invited friends and gate crashers had a wonderful time shared great memories and stories about the great lady.
If you can share your grief, and love for your brother with others it's not a bad idea.
If not, invite your "partner" to a great meal and "over-priced" wine, enjoy yourselves, and toast your brother's memory. I think that he will be pleased watching the moment, and will appreciate the honor.
Best wishes, and keep his memory alive, as you continue to live your life.
Dan.
2006-09-01 08:56:43 · answer #5 · answered by Dan S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my broTher on June 28th of this year and my son 4 years ago Oct. 1st. My heart goes out to you. I don't know how I am going to handle the memories and holidays without my brother but for my son (actually step-son) we always have a family dinner and visit him at the grave and take balloons, flowers and have cake there. I also have a journal that I write little notes in for each of them and every holiday I write a verse or poem and a short thought to them personally. Good luck
2006-09-01 19:15:48 · answer #6 · answered by Gblue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost 2 brothers many years ago and I have a hard time remembering them, maybe not the looks as much as their voices. To honor your brothers memory why don't you do something that you both did together when he was alive. If you guys went bowling, you go out and bowl a game. If you ate at a certain restaurant, go to that one and have diner. On the days of my bro's death I would listen to their favorite album. Does my heart good.
2006-09-02 15:41:41 · answer #7 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that, it must be very painful. I couldn't imagine if I lost mine. Don't worry, the memories of your brother will be with you forever. If he had a favorite place, you can go there and hang out for a few in his memory and have a drink on him.
If you have a fav. picture you can bring it with you.
Remmember all the fun things that you guys did, the jokes that you guys played on ea. other.
2006-09-01 07:34:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry about your lost.. i would probably have a picnic at his grave with the family. he there for him because he will be there for you and wil always be there for you. I like the plant a tree idea or give the charity. Or even a Tattoo.. But do something that you both loved doing together.
2006-09-01 08:08:08 · answer #9 · answered by 1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did he die of a disease or something? You could give money to a group that researches that disease.
Or if he had something that he really liked to do, you could donate money or supplies to a charity. Like if he really liked to play or watch sports on tv, you could give money or basketballs to your local high school basketball team.
You could go take flowers to his grave and spend some time talking with him about what your life is like now and how you miss him.
I hope these give you some ideas.
2006-09-01 07:36:35 · answer #10 · answered by cldb730 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋