if you give good advise and its not taken then what?

Question

when i give out good advise to fly members and they do the the wrong thing i really have a hard time not to say "i told u so" what do you do ?

Answer 1

point at them laugh and say when are you ever going to listen to me

Answer 2

Advice is cheap and lots of time people will continue asking others their opinions until they hear the answer that they want to hear. Imagine that you had a problem and felt that you had a solution even if your insides were telling you it wasn't the best. So you go around and ask 100 people what they think. 99 tell you that your thinking is a bit screwy, but 1 person agrees with what you are saying. Although 99 people can't be wrong and 1 right, we still often the follow the advice of that 1 as that is what we really want. So don't get angry if your advice is not taken, but instead be careful of whom you give advice to.

Answer 3

When people ask for your advice the best you can do is offer what you feel is the best response and let them make their own way in its resolution. You shouldn't hold it against the recipient for choosing not to follow your advice. When they make the wrong choices the best thing that you can do is be there to help them and not tell them "I told you so". They will come to appreciate you all the more because they probably already figured out your advice was sound and not only were you there to help when things went wrong when they didn't take your advice but also that you didn't rub it in their face that they messed up when you had the chance. Take the high road ~ you'll be glad you did.

Answer 4

My dad told me once that when you give advise, you should then just emotionally walk away. It's not your choice if the person you gave advise to takes it or not. You know the saying, you can lead a horse to water, but you cannot make him drink it. Same thing.

Answer 5

First, accept that "good" is your opinion, even if it is tried and true for YOU.
Second, recognise and accept that Each person is entitled to live his/her life as he/she chooses. The decision to accept or reject advice belongs with the receiver.
And Third, let go of expectations regarding other people's lives - even, perhaps Especially people you love. Then just kick back and enjoy the show! :)
We all know that not everyone asking for advice really wants anything more than agreement with a choice/stand they've already made./

Answer 6

Let go. You gave good advise as a friend and it's up to people to take it or not. If you try to push your ideas on people you're running into the co-dependent area.
It's up to ea. individual to make their own choices. As you give great advise, they'll realize of that fact and maybe they'll start listening to your advise.

Answer 7

u dont' do anything.. if there ur girls then just be their for them.. that's ur opinion if ur advice is good but people have to learn on their own, they have to make mistakes on their own.. u shouldn't give advice on the strength that people r suppose to take it cause they don't.. that's why it's really called an opinion...

and noone likes a know it all either... if ur my friend i'd have to drop u if u ever say i told u so...

Answer 8

You can only give advice/or your opinion at the end of the day it's the person/s involved that have the last say.

Answer 9

Here's the thing, when u give advice to someone, don't expect that they will follow it... they have their own minds to decide and if they make the wrong decision, then they will own up to it. You dont have to tell them 'I told u so'...they already know.

Answer 10

If you know you are telling them to do the right thing, there's no need for you to use the line "I told you so". You know that you were right, that's the only thing that should matter.
And yes, I know that sometimes it's good and almost necessary to hear someone telling us "you were right", but, eventually, that will come

Answer 11

Nobody likes to hear "I told you so." The best thing if people do not listen to good advice, is to let them live and learn.