im 33 weeks peragant and my partner is so lazy i hav to work 12 hour shifts every week do you think i can do better on my own or stick with him 4 the baby.
2006-09-01 07:16:21 · 22 answers · asked by blondie_147 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When the baby comes, You will need all your strength for you and the baby, Not to look after him, so get shut of him
If he wont help now when your carrying his baby he wont change when the baby is born he may even get jealous of the time you have to spend with the baby and become a bigger liability than he is now.
2006-09-01 07:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by angelcake 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can do bad by yourself, my dear. I say dump the zero. At 33 weeks pregnant you should not be doing much work, especially 12 hr. shifts. That probably means standing on your feet, right? There is no reason for you to stick with him for the sake of the baby. If he is too lazy to get a job, then he what makes you think having him around for the baby will be any different. I admit that I am one who believes that a child should be raised by both parents if possible. But that's only if it is a positive relationship. Why expose the child to a shiftless father who is too inconsiderate of his pregnant partner to get off of his sorry butt and get a job or help out around the house. Or at least take some of the pressure off of you so that you do not have to work so hard in your delicate condition. Good luck in deciding what you're gonna do. Pray for the right answer.
2006-09-01 07:24:32 · answer #2 · answered by pampam50 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! you've got to be joking? Doesn't sound like you or the baby will be suffering any worse if you don't stay. 33 weeks and working 12 hrs at a time. I'd put my foot so fare up his ***, it would wrap his *** around his collar bone and make his nose bleed. Do you really like and want to live like that. You're a better woman than I would be.
2006-09-01 07:37:11 · answer #3 · answered by MrsPTB4Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much you love him and how likely he is to change. Tell him that you need more help, if he really cares then he will do his best to help you and the baby. Its never a good idea to stick with someone just for the sake of children though, not only can it cause alot of resentment, but kids are really good at picking up on stuff like that. Do what feels right and good luck
2006-09-01 07:22:52 · answer #4 · answered by purpleandroid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The questions is: Do you love him?
I personally think you would do good on your own. This is the time the man shows the best out of him by being attentive and work hard for your future. But if being lazy is what he does best, can u imagin 2 years from now?
2006-09-01 07:19:46 · answer #5 · answered by Kathy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell him it is either he helps out with getting a job or he is gone. The more you allow him to not work the more he will continue not to work. He needs to help out with the bills. You are going to want to take time off so you can spend it with your new bundle of joy. If he doesn't look for work then you might as well be doing it all by yourself anyhow. Good Luck
2006-09-01 07:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll probably be easier on your own. I'm dealing with the same thing, I feel like I'm a single parent. I think that makes it worse, cuz i'm not. I have someone (the dad) I"m suppose to be able to depend upon. And he's so lazy, I just do everything myself. I'd say that you need to tell him to **** or get off the pot.
2006-09-01 07:21:58 · answer #7 · answered by Lady blah blah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can truly answer this one,you cannot give us the whole story and it would not be fair to comment without hearing both sides,but you know in your heart what you should do your just looking for someone to say what your thinking of doing to give you reassurance that everything will be alright.
2006-09-01 07:29:40 · answer #8 · answered by lilmissmummy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like you pick a bad choice to father your child. If he isn't doing anything to support you, then it might be better to go to court and get a subpeona for child support form him.
But you should talk to him first, tell him that he needs to chip in if he's gonna be a part of this family.
2006-09-01 07:30:16 · answer #9 · answered by thsiung 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello and congrats on your up coming baby,,, why would you want a man that does not help you ,, when you are working so hard all day long,,, you can do better on your own, you do not need a man to help you raise your baby,,, you can be happy with out him just be strong and understand that it will take time,, a little bit of faith goes a long way ...... dump his sorry butt!!!!!
2006-09-01 07:23:01 · answer #10 · answered by sunshine girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋