im not ugly, but im not a hottie to.. what can i do.. i dont want to grow up and miss those beutful moments.. please help..
2006-09-01 07:14:35 · 14 answers · asked by she 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Chances are if you are fourteen, a lot of guys your age aren't interested in girls yet (or date popular girls in order to look cool but probably are dating someone new every few weeks). It also sounds like you might be shy. A more outgoing guy might be more compatible with someone more extroverted, and a guy more like you might think you are not interested because you don't talk to him.
I suggest putting yourself in situations where you can interact with guys but not as a date. Maybe you and some girlfriends can arrange to go bowling and then you could approach a few guys about coming along. If that still feels uncomfortable, you could ask the guys together. Once you feel at home with guys as friends, you will probably meet a few who are interested in dating you.
I wasn't allowed to date until I was 16, and by that time most of the guys thought I was a prude, because I always acted uninterested so they wouldn't ask me out and I wouldn't have to say no or look stupid for being the only girl who couldn't have a boyfriend. It was also a small high school so if you talked to a particular guy people just assumed you were interested in him, which was an unneeded pressure. College was different. I went to a huge state university so we didn't have any "popular" crowd and aside from your friends and a handful of people you went to class with, most people didn't even know each other so it was a lot less pressure. I dated lots of guys.
Just because other girls your age have had more boyfriends does not mean they are better girlfriends than you. You might even decide you do not want a boyfriend. I've only had two guys that were really boyfriends. Most of the time I date nonexclusively, although any more than three guys gets hard to handle if you have a busy schedule. Think of guys like clothes. Some people can wear just about anything in the store and are compatible with lots of guys. Others prefer certain brands or fits that might be a little more unusual and harder to find (i.e. blond athletic types who write romantic poetry and share your love of accordion music). Don't worry about checking out until you find something you'll wear more than once.
Which brings up another point. Try not to make lists of traits for the perfect boyfriend. I have a handful of qualities that are absolute dealbreakers in a committed relationship, but if you aren't in a serious relationship yet, it doesn't matter as much. I couldn't handle a party boy in a long-term relationship, for example. I'd prefer a guy who is a littler quieter and likes to do things one on one or with a small group of family and friends. That said, if party boy wanted to go out on an occasional Saturday night date, I'm probably up for it.
2006-09-01 08:04:35 · answer #1 · answered by curiousme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Psh now a days that's, that's loopy there is like thirteen 3 hundred and sixty 5 days olds going out with 18 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous adult males. yet thankfully there is sensible human beings like me and you who understand to stay centred then have some exciting :) have faith me they might look as though they're having exciting yet they have numerous drama of their existence too, I see my acquaintances manage it continuously. in basic terms wait till you meet an wonderful guy who thinks you're impressive, and you'd be happy you probably did no longer waste you're time with in basic terms all individuals. Goodluck :)
2016-11-06 05:47:22 · answer #2 · answered by sikorski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Highschool relationships can be a fun thing, but high school students tend to have relationships not because they truly care about the other person but because they want to do some "self exploring". High school students rather explore than to love, which tends to wreak a lot of drama in high school.
I'd suggest you should wait until you find someone suitable and caring -- the best relationships form from friendship and can last a life time. Also remember that most (about 99%) of high school relationships don't last.
2006-09-01 07:19:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to focus on your books and other things rather than boys. Get a hobby and stop obsessing over boys. Although, I know it is hard because of peer pressure and it seems that you "should" have a boyfriend. Especially when you see all those young celebrity girls dating all the time.
Beautiful moments are all around you, just open your eyes. Plus, you will have plenty of time to date and love. That is unless you have a disease which cuts your lifespan short.
Personally, I wouldn't allow my teenage daughter to date.
2006-09-01 07:31:38 · answer #4 · answered by Laughing Libra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont' need to worry about boys at 14.. it is okay to focus on the fun girl things and then the boys when you get a bit older.. right now is an awkward stage anyway with boys..
guys will notice you when they are ready and you have your confidence built up enough you don't have to worry aobut which boys you want and don't want to notice you..
it is all in the way you carry yourself.. just believe in yourself..
sit back and watch the amazing work you do when you don't even know you are doing it
2006-09-01 07:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, you are still very young and blooming. Two years make a big difference (physically) don't rush into impressing anyone. As you grow, you'll find out that boys will start levitating towards you.
2006-09-01 07:18:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i get your problem here is my advice
1. if your looking for fun then there are many ways . You choose a guy and give some gestures. or like trying to be sexy kind and giving lot of hits. start with casual talks. invite him home and make sexy moves ( dont toch him or fall on him) example: Invite him home while ur in sexy cloths etc.. plenty of ideas
2. I you are looking for a long term relation then just wait .. it wil lhappen on its own
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2006-09-01 07:34:13 · answer #7 · answered by rockiee80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...and maybe flirt a little with some of those shy guys who are not ugly, but not hotties, either.
2006-09-01 07:20:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you from russia?...y u russin'??!!! (I had to use that line......) Anyhow, on a deeper level, you wont be missin out on those sweet moments......because there is plenty of time.....gosh, you're just 14!!!!! Life hasnt even started yet for you as we speak. Just relax, put you life on coast and enjoy!
2006-09-01 07:20:02 · answer #9 · answered by Death By Snoo Snoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pressure yo self they will come gurl it will all take time u might not know u can get a singer that rch but love him 4 who he is .so take time
2006-09-01 07:24:17 · answer #10 · answered by s3xii9url 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋