Me and my mother have serious issues. We have not been close for years. We always argue and can't agree on anything. I feel very bitter towards her because I feel that she did not show me enough affection when I was younger. At the moment we barely speak that much to each other.
I just wanted to know what the females thought about having a relationship with a guy that does not get along with his mother.
does it put you off? I have heared many women say that if a guy does not get along with his mum, then he is not for them.
What are your thoughts? Guys as well as girls please feel free to answer
2006-09-01 07:08:01 · 29 answers · asked by Playboy Grove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As long as you treat your girl with love and respect, she won't care about your relationship with your mom. Besides that, just because you can give birth, doesn't make you a good mom.
2006-09-01 07:10:46 · answer #1 · answered by robynsleo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two sons. One I get on with and one I don't. My eldest has been a drug addict, became a father while a teenager, was rebellious and made my life hell. And his wife's life hell. They've been on the point of divorce, been put into hostels for their own safety etc etc.
My second has made my life easy. I've never had a rude word from him. He's polite and caring. His girlfriend of four years adores him, his employers think the world of him. So of the two, my younger son is the better option. He cares about me and I adore him.
But ... I don't get on my with mother at all. I think she's mad and abusive. And cruel. That is her personality. And nothing to do with the daughter/mother relationship.
I think if you wanted a secure and happy relationship with a woman, I'd try to work out the issues with your mother. Simply because it would show you that you are capable of a mature relationship. She might be responding to the way she was treated as a child. I can tell you that most mothers love their babies. In fact, I've never come across a woman who didn't love their child. My own included.
2006-09-01 14:25:10 · answer #2 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the very least, a major danger signal would go off when a man doesn't get along with his mom. Like it or not, many people evaluate how their relationships with someone will go based on their treatment and/or reaction of their parent of the opposite sex.
A woman who knows a guy doesn't get along with his mother, particularly a marriage-minded woman (which anyone you'd care enough to date should be potential marriage material anyhow), gets a good indicator of how the guy will treat HER when she's not wearing a halo anymore. This works both ways; a woman who treats her father disdainfully is probably not a good candidate for one's wife, either.
2006-09-01 14:18:50 · answer #3 · answered by ensign183 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's sad that you guys aren't close and have such a tense relationship, but I wouldn't be put off. Mainly because I have similar issues with my dad, so it would be hypocritical if I was.
Girls do tend to look at a mother-son relationship to try and see if they'll have similar problems, but if they're really serious I think they would work through possible issues than just simply leave.
2006-09-01 14:14:18 · answer #4 · answered by theonlymonsterdog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever is going on for you and your mum I hope it works it's self out. As for it being a put off as long as you don't want your other half taking sides or getting involved then there shouldn't be a problem. The issue is with your mother right? Not with your fucture girlfriend/partner is it?
2006-09-05 12:59:07 · answer #5 · answered by charlotte e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on if the girl comes from a family oreinted family or not... if a girl loves to spend time with family it isn't a good thing that the son and mother don't get along.. NOT AT ALL....
and it can cause lots of problems between the two of you however if she don't have much family and don't care about family too much it won't really matter, but then the holidays will be lonely????
is there anyway to work things out with your mom???? you only have one of those remember?
2006-09-01 14:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a line of thought that how you treat your mother will mirror how you will treat most women.
After all, if you can;t treat the woman who birthed you and cares for you more than anyone else in the world, how the hell could you have a healthy relationship with any other woman over a long period of time.
2006-09-01 14:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry that you don't get on so well with your mum.It must've hurt u alot over the years.But in answer to your question;personally i think its bloody brilliant!Mother-in-laws can be the bain of a gf/bf's life with interfering and don't tend to be much help for anything!(i know not all are like this but too many are!)I'm sure you'll find a nice girl who loves you for you and not for your relationship with your mum.Take care and best wishes
2006-09-01 18:37:49 · answer #8 · answered by twinkle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Off the top I would say If man can't respect his own mom, what kind of respect wouldhe have for me. But not getting along and being respectful are 2 different things. If yall don't get along you should still respect her. So if you have Eminem's mom its okay not to get-along, your girl should undrstand, and you should explain the situation to her. But u should always be respectful with any interactions with your mom.
2006-09-01 14:17:09 · answer #9 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of times the way the man treats his mother is the way he will treat his girl, so they are worried that if you can't get along with your mother you can't get along with them.
Of course, sometimes there are exceptional situations. But, if I was you, for your own sake and because she did give birth to you I would do my best to build a good relationship with her.
2006-09-01 14:12:05 · answer #10 · answered by sweet smile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋