ive tried really hard to love him hell stay in my lap but burries his head.. he hides under the bed he also bit me .. i want him to know we love him so i keep picking him up keep patting him and he stays but as soon as i let him go hes under the bed.. so is it good to do this or just leave him alone? i want him to know im not going to hurt him and he is loved
2006-09-01 06:56:31 · 14 answers · asked by ergirl31 1 in Pets ➔ Cats
sounds like your kitten needs to be socialized..... your kitten is scared and does not understand what is going on around him....wait awhile before you try to pick him up...when he hides under the bed sit down by the bed and talk softly to him, calling him a kind name, this wil reasure him[or her] and if yu do this on a regular basis the kitten will come to you, hold your finger or hand out ,calmly and dont move, the kitten will come to smell you and might rub up against you and then you can sctrach behind his ears and pet him, if kitten moves away let him and continue doing this you and the kitten needs to bond and let it happen naturally, and soon the kitten will bond and come to you hope this helps
2006-09-01 11:41:45 · answer #1 · answered by walterknowsall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's OK to pick him up occasionally as you want him to get used to it. Just lie down on the floor for a few minutes several times a day, maybe when you take him food and talk to him softly. Tell him how sweet he is and you want him to let you love him soon. He will respond to the tone of your voice and be reassured.
I am assuming that he is eating something, eliminating and all that stuff. He should be confined to a small room in the house. This will help him feel safer.
You can get a bottle of Rescue Remedy from a health foods store. You just shake the bottle well and put three or four drops on the kitten's fur between his ears. Treat him as often as you can for about a week. It cannot harm him in any way and it really will help him deal with his fears which may be due to past traumas which you know nothing about. It will absolutely erase these early negative impressions of life and he will be a better-adjusted cat in the end.
2006-09-01 14:09:21 · answer #2 · answered by old cat lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the little guy time. Continue to talk to talk him, offer him treats to tempt him from under the bed - but don't pick him up. Let him initiate the contact. He will learn this way that you aren't going to hurt him if the choice to come to you is his.
Plan on devoting an hour or so to just sit in the room with him, no distractions like reading or watching tv or listening to music. Talk to him in a soft voice and just sit still. Have some treats place on the floor near you and everyday move the treats closer and closer. Your kittens confidence in his new surroundings will improve daily with this exercise and he will begin to become more familiar with you until he feels comfortable being out in the open in your home.
I've worked this method before and have tamed a lot of feral cats. It takes a lot of patience, but the reward is huge - your cats trust!
2006-09-01 14:04:34 · answer #3 · answered by zombie_togo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him time and space. Eventually, he'll come out (curiosity always gets the better of them, and they don't really like being alone under a bed). Our male did the same thing. The most I did was lay next to the bed and talk to him, occasionally reaching under to pet his head. I bribed him out a couple of times with catnip or a treat, but for the most part, let him do his own thing. Don't pull your kitten out from under the bed, this just causes more stress and insecurity. Don't worry, he'll be a loving, secure kitty in no time:)
2006-09-01 14:38:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him be for now. He'll stay under the bed for a few days- it's a safe area for him. In a few days, he;ll start coming out and roaming the house, just let him be. He's meowing because he's unsure of the place and scared. If you want, place a confy blanket under the bed or a old t-shirt of yours so he'll get used to your smell. Before you know it, he'll never leave your side!
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2006-09-01 14:02:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just kinda get on the floor,on his level, and talk to him,then get up and leave. Continue this several times a day. That will make him trust you being around. And trusting you is all it's gonna take,then he will start to come to you! Good luck, I'm a huge cat lover, it's so sweet that you are trying so hard to do the right thing! I know you will win him over!!! Let us know in a few days how it's going!
2006-09-01 14:19:18 · answer #6 · answered by taborfamily67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the little guy some time! I got a kitten from my aunt and when I took him home he did nothing but meow and hide. I took him back to my aunts and come to find out that he had a twin sister and once they were back together everything was fine! If h e had any litter mates he might just be lonely or scared! good luck!
2006-09-01 14:02:08 · answer #7 · answered by Mallory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cats are just that way, especially when they are in a new environment. Just let him get comfortable on his terms and he'll show up wanting to be petted sooner or later. Just don't force anything with him or it will get worse. If it continues for more than a few weeks, you might need to have a vet look at him to make sure he's not sick, but just give it time.
2006-09-01 14:00:31 · answer #8 · answered by cali.jeff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would back off. Maybe offer the little guy a treat now and then, always welcome him with open arms and praise if he jumps on your lap, etc. Let him come to you. Oh, and keep the sandbox clean, the water and food bowls full. Offer him some toys, too.
2006-09-01 14:02:38 · answer #9 · answered by Jessiekatsopolous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could put something to block the underneth part of the bed
if you dont want him under there try geting him a bed and some toys and scratch post
2006-09-01 14:01:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋