I have an only child who is going to be 10 next month and I often feel the same way. I just try to allow her to have company as often as possible and I take lots of pictures of her with her friends and put them all over the place to remind her that she's not alone. I do have to remind her from time to time to share and not be so bossy. Being the only child in the house, she's used to having her way the majority of the time. One good thing about being an only child is that she has learned to entertain herself. She is very independent and not as immature as other children her age. I spend a lot of time with her.
I had a brother growing up, and yes it was fun, but I honestly believe that our little ones will do just fine without a sibling as long as we raise them right and provide for them.
2006-09-01 07:15:03
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answered by HazelEyes 5
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My best friend is an "only" and, as an adult, she's finding out the negative part of that. Her parents are sick and she's feeling as though she'll have no family left if something happens to them. Other than that, she adored being an only. She didn't have to share attention, toys, endure the endless squabbles... but now, she doesn't have brothers and sisters to share the burden and worries.
I'm the oldest of 4 girls and I think being the oldest is as difficult as being an only, so is being the youngest and being in the middle. Every situation has huge advantages and disadvantages and I can promise that having another child so your daughter won't be an only will just drop a whole new set of problems in your lap :-)
2006-09-01 08:34:18
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answered by Canadian_mom 4
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I'm an only child, and childhood wasn't that bad, really. I had a lot of friends, but I was always really outgoing. I have only two complaints. The first was that when I broke something, my parents KNEW that it was me because there was no one else to blame it on. Secondly (and this was probably because my parents weren't supposed to be able to have children and were married 15 years before I came along), I was VERY spoiled. I got everything I wanted until about high school and was in for a shock when it was time for me to grow up, but I pulled it off.
If you don't want another child, that's fine. She will make friends. I never had anyone judge me because I didn't have siblings...heck, most kids thought it was pretty cool. Just try not to spoil your daughter too much...I really think it hurts them as they grow up. :-)
2006-09-01 07:07:20
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answered by GeauxLSU 2
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I think I can help.
I'm 14 and I'm an only child. I've loved, being an only child...the only thing I hate is when my parents are too busy or tired to play games with me. I've always been pampered and spoiled, though. So as long as your daughter isn't unhappy that she an "only child", then don't be upset.
I've always felt like I had a closer relationship with my parents because I was their only little girl...and I was their favorite.
I did get kinda jealous a couple of years ago...when my parents thought about adopting ...because my dad only spent time with the other kid. (a family friend adopted the kid) As long as you spend time with your daughter, she will be happy.
Sometimes however, I wish I had an older brother or younger sister...to hang out with.
As long as you love your daughter, she will be happy.
If you do decide to have another baby (good for you) make sure both kids get lots of attention and love.
2006-09-01 14:13:22
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answered by Sandi 3
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I am an only child. So, tell me, is having brothers or sisters hard?
Why would you assume that something less common would be either better or worse?
50% percent of the time I heard this from others as I grew up, others who had brothers and sisters: “You’re an only child? I am so sorry, you have no idea what you missed out on.”
…and the other 50% of the time? “You’re an only child? Your so lucky, you have no idea the crap you avoid.”
The one common thread is “You have no idea.” This alone is true. As to whether it is good or a bad, it’s neither, it’s just a thing. Sometimes its good, sometimes its bad, but mostly it is and should remain a non-issue.
2006-09-01 17:16:39
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answered by John M 2
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I was an only child, but my parents always gave me lots of love and attention. I had tons of friends that were allowed to stay over at my house and I would go to theirs. Not once did I ever long for a sibling. I was very wellounded compassionate and creative. Sometimes true creativity comes out when children play on their own. Have you thought about getting her a dog or a cat? She could also play big sister to a fosterchild.
2006-09-02 19:50:15
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answered by Anonymous
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my son was 5 when we had our 2nd child and he hated it he did not know how to share attention he kept saying I was a only child till I was 5 years old so I think in having siblings it helps them socialize because before the 2nd baby he had a hard time with other kids.
My kids are 9, 3, and 6 months and the 9 year old hates the 3 year old but really enjoys the baby.
2006-09-01 17:50:09
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answered by ♥ to ...... 5
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being the only child is boring. your childhood as the only child would be hard. there's no one to fight with at home. no one to share with your problems. 8 or 9 years difference is not a big deal. i'm sure your daughter would be glad to have a little brother or sister or more.
2006-09-04 23:12:29
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answered by immortal1983 3
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I'm not an only child, but my daughter is.
Do some research and you will find that there are many "only children" who went on to gain prominence and became distinguished.
For example: kareem-abdul jabbar, pres.f.d.roosevelt, rudy giuliani, alan greenspan, frank sinatra, cole porter plus too many more too mention.
In all her years of school she might have only met 1 or 2 other only children.
Having an only child, we were able to spend a lot of time with her, nurture her, and prepare her for greatness.
2006-09-01 07:08:25
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answered by avenger 3
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well being an only child somethimes is hard not just for u but the parents your probly wondering how well because lets say you have an older sibbling if they make a mistake with the older sibbling then know not to do on u again ;-)
2006-09-01 07:00:57
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answered by Anonymous
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