He is getting sicker by the day and isn't expect to live more than a few months.
2006-09-01 06:53:24 · 17 answers · asked by bb 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
Six year olds are very smart and resiliant, you need to tell her that her Grandfather is very sick and that means that he isn't going to get better but that she should hug him and love him and just be there for him. It's okay to tell her in a unique way that her Grandfather may pass on soon but he'll be a special angel for her when he does.
2006-09-01 06:57:13 · answer #1 · answered by T-Bird 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children are able to understand a lot more then we often give them credit for. You should sit her down and explain that Grandpa is very sick and that he will not live for very much longer. Depending on your view of religion you could explain your beliefs and try to answer all her questions. My son is five and he has lost a grandparent and a great aunt, he will still ask questions and I try to be as open and honest as I possibly can be. Make sure you let the teacher and school counselor know, just in case it interferes with her schoolwork or behavior.
You will be surprised...she may already know something is wrong.
Make sure she knows that no matter what she is still loved and will always have someone around who loves her...don't tell her YOU will never die...gods forbid that anything should happen to you she will think everyone will die around her!
Go to the library...the librarian can help you find books on the subject.
I'm sorry for your situation, Good Luck.
Blessed Be!
2006-09-01 14:01:49 · answer #2 · answered by paganmom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you tell her that you're dying and the reason why. Explain the disease in your own words. Be honest. Even though this is one of the hardest thing to do, you owe her the right to understand and a means to cope. If you love her you will do this act.
Even though a child is innocent, honesty is a treasure unto anyone. We all have to cope with death, it's a way of life. Both of you have to be brave and strong. Live everyday like it's your last one with this child. If you choose to do this her memories with you are going to be the best inheritance from you.
2006-09-01 14:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by mrgoodbar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that Grandpa is sick. At her age, she probably won't understand about cancer, and all that is involved.
Let her know that Grandpa has a disease, and that he might not get better. Make sure that you give her lots of time to spend with him (even while he's sick) to help her understand what's going on.
Her school should have a counselor, and they may be able to recommend a book or video that helps kids cope with loss.
2006-09-01 13:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by sara_busa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry about your father! My father has Stage 3 melanoma and my 7yr old knew something was wrong before I talked to her about it. The school actually called me and said she cried all day about her grandpa and asked the teacher if "her grandpa was gonna die". I wish I would have told her before. I thought I was doing good by waiting for the right time but she knew. I talked to her after that about it and she doesn't talk much about it but you can tell it has affected her alot. I know things have changed with the whole family. She is very concerned with making sure everyone wears sunscreen now. I try to talk to her about it but like I said she doesn't say much. Good luck and I hope all goes well.
2006-09-01 14:40:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why burden her with things she doesn't understand? As the illness progresses she will ask the questions she wants answered so answer them as they come up and at her level. That way she isn't confused, you haven't given too much information and you don't unload something she doesn't understand all at once. I have an idea unloading this on her would be more for your benefit than hers.
2006-09-01 13:59:11 · answer #6 · answered by Tulip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need not tell her anything as the child out of his own inquisitiveness will find out from the grandfather and let it remain like that. You will have to tell him that he is not well and that someday as everyone goes away, he too would be gone, and till such time he is with you all, let your child shower his unfettered love on him.
2006-09-01 14:42:12 · answer #7 · answered by ingos 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im very sorry this is happening, and i pray for you.. i dont think you should tell her he hs cancer, because she wouldnt understand it anyway.. you should just tell her that he is sick and that it's not contagious.. tell her that you have to spend time with him, because he might be going on a long trip soon.. i hope everything works out in the end, and i pray for hius recovery
2006-09-03 06:42:29 · answer #8 · answered by hedZy ♀ The Dancing Banana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He comes last. First comes casual conversations about birth, life and death. Much ground work should be laid before you tackle the ultimate problem.
Vaya con DIOS
2006-09-01 14:02:39 · answer #9 · answered by chrisbrown_222 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know he has lived a good life and is going somewhere much better where he won't ever hurt and she will see him again someday, Sorry for your news, ya'll will be in my prayers
2006-09-01 13:58:45 · answer #10 · answered by sammyw1024 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋