Usually when someone shows some interest in me I usually push them away. True enough I do want a boyfriend but I don't want it to be a waste of time. It's like I have 2 walls around me: 1)Just grabbing my attention period ie me accepting you calls and you knowing Lakeshia 2) Getting to know Keisha. Many don't make it past knowing Lakeshia! I feel like it is a privlege for anyone to know me and have a place in my life because I am special. I also don't want to be hurt again. Last year my ex BF had got another female pregnant while we was dating. The baby was born 2 weeks b4 my bday. That really hurted me and I think thats part of my problem. I not a bad looking female...what do yall think...
2006-09-01 06:45:29 · 16 answers · asked by i ♥ my cat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It hard for me to let him go because I have known since i was 13 and now im 19 about to be 20
2006-09-01 06:57:39 · update #1
It's hard for me to let him go completely. I am doing better than I was before. I just have a fear of being hurt again. I broken heart isnt a good feeling. ya know!
2006-09-01 07:01:22 · update #2
You could spend some time alone to see what you really want. Ask yourself why you are pushing the men away? More likely you are attracting the same type of men, and becoming discouraged.
Learn to like Lakeshia and begin to really enjoy life. Once you are confident with yourself, the negative people will begin to dissolve out of your life. Believe me, I have been through the same thing.
Now I only attract positive situations in my life. Tell yourself constantly that you deserve nice people in your life. Really believe that you are a good person. If you are angry, oppositional, mean, or negative, change those traits to more positive traits. You have the chocie to bring goodness into your life.
Let go of the old bf because his memory is not worth it. You cannot control another's actions or change the past.
You said you are special, and please don't forget that or let others try to make you feel differently.
2006-09-01 06:54:23 · answer #1 · answered by Laughing Libra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I totally agree with you. It has become a fashion with youth of today to get a boy friend today go out with him for some time aimlessly till you one gets bored show him the door and look for another. I appreciate your thought. You want have a purpose behind the whole exercise. If it results in a long time relationship it is even more desirable.
2006-09-01 13:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by openpsychy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not in a position to get married right now then dating will not be a waste of time. Don't think of it that way - think of it as finding out what makes people tick. That is why people date - to see what they are like, so they can learn what they do and don't like. As for your ex, if you stop dating due to that reason - you let him win. All men are not like that. I promise.
2006-09-01 13:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by just curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know i cant definitly feel you on not wanting to be hurt but its like this being hurt is like waking up for everyone, please realize everyone has been hurt in some way or another, girl and guy. the guy you meet and you like him but your making him climb the highest mountain and touch the highest cloud just for a conversation, and then not to mention the two friends that probably been hurt just like you and when a good man comes along and souds alike cause we all do sorry, if hey my name is jermaine i would like to get to know you is like a overused phrase but just you hearing that is like a blocker for you, i think you should start giving men the benifit of the doubt not saying let anyone in, but start trusting yourself, not every guy you meet your friends will like its on you sweetheart, they are not dating him you are, stop holding your heart in a stone castle, but dont put it in a green house either, let that door have a key only you will give it out.
2006-09-01 13:57:18 · answer #4 · answered by The LuvDoctor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking for a boyfriend and concentrate on making yourself happy and content, then a year or few from now start worrying if nothing has happened
2006-09-01 13:47:55 · answer #5 · answered by Michael N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to get over that LOSER because it's apparent that he got over you and moved on. so make yourself happy and stop making him make you feel like s.h.i.t. get out and start mingling and stop pushing everyone away, because not all men are like your X there are good ones out there but when you continue to push them off you'll never find any. that's option 1. you're 2nd option would to be to continue thinking about him and feeling sorry for yourself and when you're ready get out there and meet new people. if you ask me i like option 1, you say ur good looking well go for it chic.
2006-09-01 13:52:48 · answer #6 · answered by MariLin♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a lot of recentment. You'll never find a bf or be able to keep a relationship like this. Find yourself first, then find a man.
2006-09-01 13:47:56 · answer #7 · answered by Private Account 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you sound like a pain in the azz to be around and can't be real for an extended period of time.
I wouldn't bother.
It's quite likely that you are fat and/or ugly
2006-09-01 13:47:43 · answer #8 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe you have your guards up because of your ex, or maybe you're not as ready as you may think you are to settling down.
2006-09-01 13:48:05 · answer #9 · answered by Kimmie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh please boo hoo! I mean get over yourself I think your ex boyfriend got off easy . You need to move on and meet someone that can put up with your silly ***!
2006-09-01 13:48:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋