39 yr old male with bi-polar stopped from a shopping spree of outrageous truck purchase. My husband is now in tantrum stage and I'm not giving in. How do I ease the tension? or do i just ignore the situation and let him come around?
2006-09-01 06:38:47 · 6 answers · asked by mscarlybobarlysmom 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Well the bi-polar stage will dissipate but you have a greater issue at hand, in my estimation. Despite this being a medical condition and he may well be able to distinguish the difference, I doubt he is willing to do this in the present case. His ego has taken a big hit and you, unfortunately, loom large as the person responsible. This is unfortunate, but more than likely true.
My suggestion would be for you both to do something together, perhaps a weekend away alone where the two of you could be alone. You plan it and set it up. It doesn't have to be elaborate, but it should re-establish that you are his friend.
if you think that you are being put on the spot here, in having to apologize for something good that you have done, I will be the first to agree. However, seeing that sometimes our decisions aren't always that good, it would be nice to just offer him reassurance.
2006-09-01 07:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by Bentley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to ever deal with a bipolar is before the situation ever happens. When he is in a "normal" state, you need to talk to each other and decide a course of action BEFORE the problem occurs. He should be able to tell you the best way to talk to him when he is in a manic or hypo manic mood or when he is severely depressed. Do you know the signs when he is going to have a problem? Does he? Write down the signs together, make a plan and you will have a little bit easier going the next time this comes around.
Now for this time. Don't give in, you are doing this for both of you! Sometimes a spree is precipitated by a person not taking his medication. Make sure he is taking his medications each and every dose and on time. Call his doctor if you haven't already or if things do not get better.
This is extremely hard on you, too. Take care of yourself! He is blessed to have you love him and help him through these hard times.
2006-09-01 14:13:57 · answer #2 · answered by Paula P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously in the manic phase of his cycle. As you probably know, there isn't much you can do until he levels out. And then he will thank you for sticking to your guns.
Paula P. is absolutely right. You need to make an agreement when he is between cycles and thinking clearly. It is very difficult to make responsible decisions while in a manic phase or a depressive phase of a cycle. Having a plan makes it easier on you. You won't ever have to feel guilty or like the heavy because the decision is actually his, you are just helping him carry it out. Also, you should talk to his doctor about adjusting his meds.
But for now, while in the middle of the episode, keep an eye on him. Manics are pretty difficult to convince that something won't work out the way they want it to. And most importantly, keep reminding him that you love him and that you can talk about the issue at a better time.
Stay strong and be assured that when in a reasonable mind your husband will love you even more for having his back.
I'll be praying for you.
2006-09-01 17:01:31 · answer #3 · answered by breal4all2c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the gym and work it off.
2006-09-01 13:42:35 · answer #4 · answered by Poison Ivy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oral sex usually takes my mind off of things.
2006-09-01 13:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by Larry B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go have a stiff drink, moron.
2006-09-01 13:41:58 · answer #6 · answered by Jessiekatsopolous 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋