my husband's b-day is coming up in nov. the other day his sister came over while i was at work and asked him if i had plans for his b-day.he said i dont know but im sure she does(like he would know,right?)so she goes well i got u A ticket to go to the michigan game (his favorite college team) on your b-day(saturday).we also have 2 children,who knows his bday is coming and is very excited.i told him to go ahead and go bcuz i know he really wants to but that i am going to have a few words with his sister.he says he isnt going but i told him to go. im really pissed though. am i tripping or do i have the right to be mad? no smart a s s comments either
2006-09-01 05:56:17 · 17 answers · asked by Moniluv 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
oh forgot to metion me and her dont care for each other and hell no she is not broke
2006-09-01 06:04:25 · update #1
she bought 2 tickets to the game.a while agofor herself and her man,but they are no longer together so she is giving it to him.And the game is 6hrs away.more than likely they will stay the night
2006-09-01 06:12:59 · update #2
my sister~its his birthday, but you are his wife and he should want to spend it with you above all. If his sister didnt have two tickets (at least for you both) then he should have declined. I would accept his decline and at the same time, tell HIM to tell his own sister, "if you dont have one for my wife, then I cannot accept". To have you talk to his sister is giving the devil a potential ally in her to create some friction in your marriage. He shouldnt say "my wife wont let me go" either...he has to be the Head and speak for himself, protecting you. You are cleaved to each other...not the Wolverines, amen?
2006-09-01 06:04:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your sister-in-law usually a good natured person, or is she always manipulative? Once you establish that, you'll know how to proceed. If she's cool, she just may not have thought about how the ticket would put off any plans you may have made. If he's a good husband, plan a weekend celebration. Friday night, just you and him and when the clock strikes midnight, be the first to say "Happy B-day". On Sunday, do something with him and the kids. He'll love your thought and generosity. If your sister-in-law is trifling- make sure you celebrate WITHOUT her presence and have your husband have a talk with her. This way, if she gets mad at her brother, she'll get over it alot quicker than fighting with you. One incident with in-laws could cause a rift that could last for years. Hope this helps.
2006-09-01 13:08:48 · answer #2 · answered by dct1218 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have more questions than answers. Does he go to the Mich. Games often? Can you get 3 more tickets for you and the kids? Does he watch every game on TV or what? I feel that his sister is trying to give him a present he really wants. I find it hard myself to buy presents for my bros & sis for their lives are so much different than mine. If he loves Mich. and his sister knows it as I'm sure she does. That would be the best gift she could get him!! Have you ever though of a suprise party??? There would be no better time to set one up than while he was at the game. I don't understand why you would be pissed, surly you are not that petty!!!
2006-09-01 13:21:41 · answer #3 · answered by Weatherman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I think it is a wonderful idea. You said that was his favorite team. It is his birthday. I wished that she could have gotten 2 or 4 (so you and him could have went, or you him and the kids could have went) tickets. I guess she did not have the money for all of that.
Could you and the kids plan for the next day or another time?
Yeah, just chill out a little.
2006-09-01 13:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by Dwayne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You trippin'. It's his bday and consider it the sista's gift to him. Make plans for AFTA the game...big plans..or whatever you wanted to do for him AFTA the game. Take him out AFTER the game and have a surprise at a restaurant or somethin'.....Chill out and go with it. It IS HIS birthday....What would you do if you were in HIS shoes? Turn down the gift even though he had plans for you? Probably not. Another FREE gift to him is your letting him go and NOT BEING PISSED, keeping the peace. I think this is a pretty darned awesome gift from his sister.....be happy for him so he CAN have a HAPPY birthday...don't spoil it out of your selfishness, girl. Celebrate the game after with your own party plans.
2006-09-01 13:05:25 · answer #5 · answered by Jan O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are trippin'. Mos Def! You have the whole freakin' day to do stuff with him. His sister got him something really nice that she knew he'd enjoy, and I am sure it wasn't cheap. She put some thought into something he'd like...maybe she just thought you would not enjoy going to the game, having to keep track of the kids, having to get up and down with the kids to take them to the nearest disgusting restroom, having them ask every five seconds if you can buy them whatever the nearest vendor is hocking...
It makes perfect sense to me. You don't have to be wiith him every second of the day for him to now that he's loved. After all, he still keeps coming home to...YOU! :-)
2006-09-01 13:05:47 · answer #6 · answered by hrhtheprincessofeire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you trippin... It's his birthday... The game is Saturday so that means you have all day Friday to celebrate his bday..... you have to learn that his family is his family... maybe that was her gift.. I doubt that she was trying to take him away from his family that day..... If you did not have a surprise plan for him, then you should have told him that you want to spend his birthday with him.... Your communication is off.. so maybe you should try to get that intact before you go off on his sister... I believe she was just being nice
2006-09-01 13:24:19 · answer #7 · answered by Shonda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have a reason to be mad because his sister got him a ticket ..maybe she couldnt afford everyone a ticket and wanted to give him something special for his birthday i dont think she did it to cause problems
2006-09-01 13:00:49 · answer #8 · answered by aquaris01975 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think your sister in law should've checked with u BEFORE she bought the ticket, to make sure ya'll didn't have plans already, but maybe you can celebrate his birthday with the kids the day before or after?
2006-09-01 13:01:31 · answer #9 · answered by Vol_Fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not trying to be a smart *** but it is HIS birthday and it should be all about HIM! The children and you can celebrate a day early or the day after with him....
2006-09-01 12:59:49 · answer #10 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋