I am 19 years old and my friend is getting married, she is also young 18 and her fiancee 20. I am actually friends with the bride and groom. My boyfriend and I were invited and we are not sure how much money to give. They prefer cash instead of gifts because they are both young and want to save for a house. Please help, the wedding is tomorrow!!! Thanks
2006-09-01 05:47:02 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Twenty to Fifty dollars. Anymore it is hard to find a nice present or something for the house for 20.00
2006-09-01 05:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by Keith Perry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. $50.00 is fine from the two of you. Look at most registries. Close family can give more money for the more expensive items they may require.
2. Don't go crazy. They are asking you both to lay out a lot of money to begin with for clothing, hair, etc. for this wedding. If they ask why $50.00, tell them you spent $125.00, or more, for appropriate attire.
3. Remember, you are doing them the favor. They are placing all the invited guests in an awkward position asking for money, just because they couldn't be bothered with registering somewhere.
4. I'd ease off this friendship in the future. Remember, baby showers, birthdays, etc. They'll be milking all their family and friends for money again.
2006-09-03 12:35:04 · answer #2 · answered by mitch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lkystar: If she is your true friend, don't be so stressed and don't go cheap. I don't know what is your financial situation but do a simple exercise. Imagine you are the bride and your friend is in your situation. How much would you expect (assuming she knows both her own's and your financial situation)? Try giving something that shows you made a big effort, but not THAT big that is going to ruin your credit when the end of the month comes and you don't have money to pay off your bills! Good luck.
2006-09-01 06:03:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jorge Alberto G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give what you're comfortable with. Don't empty out your savings account. The money is not a symbol of how friendly you're with them, and the more you give the better friend you are. If they are saving towards a house, then every little helps.
If it helps, find a gift that you might have given them if you weren't going to give money. Price that gift, and then give the equivalent in money.
2006-09-01 05:55:05 · answer #4 · answered by aliantha2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how good of a friend you are - are you very close?
Also what does your budget allow?
I would say $50-100 if you can afford it would be nice.
thats about as much as you might spend if you did get them a gift anyway.
Also think about buying gold or silver, especially if they are saving for a house. Our dollar is falling right now, and precious metals are always good to fight off inflation, and both are increasing in value! You can buy silver for $12 an oz. and gold is more expensive at about $600 an oz.
www.kitco.com
www.ebay.com (look up silver coins or bullion)
good luck!
2006-09-01 05:54:58 · answer #5 · answered by friskygimp 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A good rule of thumb is give what you make in about 4 hours where you work. Thats about it. They wont know who gave what right? And if they do, as long as they know that the money comes from your heart, then it wont matter. Later on if things pick, you might wanna stop by their new house and get them like a house warming gift you know the toaster or microwave that everyone needs.
2006-09-01 05:53:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If its from you and your boyfriend i would say $100 b/c its not like weddings are like birthdays and celebrated every year, weddings are supposed to be a once in a lifetime event and especially if their trying to save for a house then they are going to need more that 25 dollars.
P.S.
Have fun at the wedding
2006-09-01 05:54:49 · answer #7 · answered by buhash06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it all depends on how good of friends they are. I am a fan of personalized gifts. Try the website below if you want to give them a gift. If not, I would think $50 would be a good wedding gift amount.
2006-09-01 06:03:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The exact same thing just happened to me.
I'm 21 and my friends who were also 21 just got married and I am friends with them both. I knew I was going to be giving a gift card since I was attending from out of town but I struggled for awhile with how much to put on it.
$50 felt like it wasnt enough and $100 was too big of a number for my checking account.
I ended up giving them $75 and everyone said it was more than enough so I felt alright about my decision.
My mother also told me that as long as you give enough to pay for your meal you are fine. =D
2006-09-01 06:55:06 · answer #9 · answered by supermonkey081 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give whateve u can afford, its not about money,
if all u can afford is $50 then thats what u give
its ok to give them a homewarming present afterwards
getting married shouldnt be about much money ur guests can afford
please dont feel pressured to give more than u can afford, imsure ur friends dont want that
2006-09-01 05:51:41 · answer #10 · answered by livachic2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋