This girl and I have known each other for a few years. She is dancing right now, but is going to school and will be quitting soon. We have so much in common, and I really do care for her. These feelings are so strong, I am so confused. I want to be with her, but my friends all think I am nuts. I told her that I support her getting her new career started, but I would love to have her in my life when she finally does quit.
2006-09-01 05:42:26 · 13 answers · asked by Brad 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't feel that all strippers are whores, one of my friends danced to put herself through school,now she's married and has two kids a good husband and she is one of the most respected attorneys in Michigan.Follow your heart,Just because she's a dancer doesn't make her less then a person.She has feelings too.And she can fall in love just like anybody else.
2006-09-01 05:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You haven't said if you knew her before she started stripping or if you met her afterwards. You alos haven't said if the two of you have actually gone on a date outside of her workplace or if you only see her when she is working.
I've worked in strip clubs as a DJ since 1987 and I have seen a lot of guys fall in love with dancers in that time. So, I'll try to give you a bit of insight into the reality of this business.
If you know her from outside of her job, you're on better ground here, since you know her outside the business. You know how she is when she isn't working. Strippers put on a persona when they work and this persona is often different from the person they really are. If you knew her before she started dancing, that would be even better.
But, if you met her while she was working, that's a different story. You were a customer and she was a dancer hoping to get money out of you. I have seena lot of guys "fall in love" with a dancer over the years. Sometimes they start dating and perspectives change. The guy actually finds out that this alluring woman actually has a personality different from the charming seductress he saw in the club. She might be quiet and shy outside of the club, while she was outgoing and gregarious in the club, for example. He may find out things about her he was unaware of and would not be comfortable with (e.g. she may have had a drug problem, past boyfriends, she may be a slob at home, she may handle money with little sense of responsibility, etc) So, your former stripper girlfriend would be less appealing when you discover all these things.
If you only see her at work and don't know her on a personal level, my opinion is for you to forget this whole thing. The things she told you about school and/or quitting the business soon may just be lines she is feeding you in the hopes that you'll become a regular customer of hers and spend money on her.
You may be unaware of her already having a boyfriend, husband or kids in real life.
I'm not sure how well you know her, since you didnt post any of this information in your question, so I did the best I could to answer your query with the limited information you did give.
2006-09-02 11:09:55 · answer #2 · answered by Duane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because she is a stripper now ppl that judge that and say anything upfront arent very trustble in my point of view. Of course there can be a lot of reasons for her to do so and if shes not hurting anyone and not doing "certain" things its a lot easier for you that loves her to change her life and help her in many ways. But also you have to consider her real feelings as well, like if she just "likes" you and you still wanna give it a try thats up to you.
I dont think we should be judgemental if any person, and i truly beleive everyone deserves to love and be loved and a better life, and i believe that ppl like you that actually loves someone not loveble in our society standards can make a diference, specially at her life, either if she stays with u forever or not.
Best wishes.
2006-09-01 05:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by Evangelina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i became a dancer for 2 years... i'm no longer immoral. i'm Atheist (definite, I even have comprehend and morals) I also have a ideal relatives, going to college... i do no longer understand while you're non secular or no longer, yet do what you like and what you experience is right. desire your loved ones respects your decision. I do have suggestion for you. There are some females available that supply dancers a bad call... rather get to comprehend her. that's a decrease throat interest, and alot of ladies folk study the thank you to lie, cheat and scouse borrow very rapid... desire the perfect for ya.
2016-09-30 06:01:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is making good money stripping, and if she enjoys it, then she should quit school. Trouble is, pay goes down as age goes up. Also, it's hard to twirl around the pole as she gets more pregnant.
I assume you love her for more than her body.
Meanwhile, you can support her when she eventually quits and raises the kids, and maybe take night school, or on-line courses to get her degree.
2006-09-01 06:00:07 · answer #5 · answered by Larry B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK well don't date her while she's working. You have that right. But why not when she's out of the buisness? Why hold her past against her? I mean, if she's doing that for money and not the trill or sex, it's not a problem. Unless you have a problem with her past, the relationship might work out. But be careful--you might get your heart broken.
2006-09-01 05:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want her when she quits? Screw that. Use and abuse her now. She's a stripper, that equals whore. Treat her like the whore that she is, get your dikk wet and throw her away like so much garbage. Don't be a fool.
2006-09-01 05:46:08 · answer #7 · answered by beefstrokinoff39 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I speak from experience. She takes her clothes off for money.She can't be trusted. They're all sluts. I'm just trying to save you time.
2006-09-01 05:46:48 · answer #8 · answered by tim b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her for an official date and take her to a nice dinner like at outback or something
2006-09-01 05:45:01 · answer #9 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a whole lot of dollars and she'll give you an awesome lapdance.
2006-09-01 06:04:28 · answer #10 · answered by Chemmers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋