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my 5 yr old is having trouble-or im having trouble getting him off to school.
he refuses to go leaving me to drag him kicking and screaming into the building. they tell me he is fine after 20 minutes.he is very attach to me. i have no idea were to start in helping him with this.i think it could be separation anxiety his doctor said it was normal.what can i do -ive tried to offer a great reward but nothing ..he wont even get on the bus in the morning -but he rides it home......

2006-09-01 05:17:42 · 10 answers · asked by michelle e 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting Toddler & Preschooler

10 answers

Your son is acting very normal at this age for this huge transition. My guess is he was never in a social setting before now? He probably is fine after 20 minutes of you leaving him. Reassure him everyday that you will come back for him so he knows that. If the teachers are good, they will work with him and then they will find his favorite activities to do and encourage that with him! He will adjust. Some books that are MUST HAVES for you to read to him: "The Kissing Hand" and anything about real kids going to kindergarten. "The Kissing Hand" WILL help!! Good luck!

2006-09-01 05:33:36 · answer #1 · answered by Tory M 1 · 0 0

Try buying him an awesome new watch or something special he can only use at school that you can put on him or give him at the door (something not too distracting) Or maybe make walking into school time a time for funny jokes/rhymes or discuss what his favourite activity/toy in school is... something he enjoys discussing that can only start when you begin your walk into the school. (or to bus stop) I gave my daughter a sticker or stamp on her hand so she could press it during the day when she missed me. When I picked her up, I'd ask 'Did you press the button around lunchtime" or whenever.. she got a kick out of thinking we were 'together' when we were apart. This is a normal stage of childhood and it will pass lol. Until then, good luck. :)

2006-09-01 05:29:52 · answer #2 · answered by Pati :) 2 · 0 0

I have a problem with my 4 year old sometimes, getting her up in the morning. She says she does not want to go because she wants to play with her toys. She takes forever to get ready. Dressing her is like a game of chase and I am tired before I leave the house lol.. This is sometimes, sometimes she is fine. But what I found works for her is to tell her how she is a big girl. How grown she is, and that all her friends are waiting for her to get there. I tell her that her teachers cant wait to see her homework(which is coloring) and how happy they will be with it. Maybe if you make him feel big and independent, he will want to go to school. I also ask her if she is going to make me a nice picture, and tell her that I cant wait until she gets home so I could see it. If he thinks what he is doing is important then maybe it will work..One more thing. Have him pick out his own clothes the night before. So this way he feels like he has choices. good luck.

2006-09-01 05:26:40 · answer #3 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0 0

I am so sorry. I don't have an answer for you.
My 5 yr old twin Boys are starting K on Sept. 11
They do not want to go either. I PRAY that I don't go through what you are.

I also think that its normal. I have heard MANY people tell me that it takes a good month for kiddos to get used to it.

I would listen to the teacher. This is what they do for a living and I'm sure that it is normal.

I hope that your ok though. I would think that it is really taking its toll on you.

Good Luck!

2006-09-01 05:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 5 · 0 0

At some point in time you somehow rewarded this behavior. Now, he's testing how far he can take it...if you will relent to him. Keep a stern face, try not to get visably upset in front of him. He's at an age where they test the parents...finding any weakness and exploiting it. I know it sounds like a 'conspiracy theory'. But really, all kids go thru phases of seeing where the limits of. Don't worry. All of us with kids have gone thru this.

2006-09-01 05:21:46 · answer #5 · answered by yozombiesmama 5 · 0 0

Maybe Grandma could come over and put him on the bus for a couple days, he senses you being up tight about him going to school

2006-09-01 05:23:30 · answer #6 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0 0

this too shall pass. give him some time. he will adjust. you are the one that is most upset, not him. he is acting that way because he knows how to push your buttons. my son did the same thing. he would wet his pants every day at school & then say "i wet my pants because i don't like it here & i want to go home". it worked pretty well untill we just let him be wet. (this was in preschool) he is now in first grade & doing fine.

2006-09-01 05:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by Emily M 2 · 0 0

Try putting him on the bus, physically, tell him you love him and walk off. He will get used to it and learn that your the boss.

2006-09-01 06:01:14 · answer #8 · answered by green eyed lady 3 · 0 0

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2016-09-30 06:01:04 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Stop babying him.

2006-09-01 05:20:30 · answer #10 · answered by 98ta 3 · 0 2

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