2006-09-01 05:09:51 · 26 answers · asked by sarah L 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
NOT if he is a wrong en, there are a lot of do gudders out there that say you should but anyone can get someone pregnant but not many can be a good father. the decision you are about to make will effect you and your son or daughter for a long time. this is not a decision to be taken lightly. if you have a good man and he is preperd to take this on then you should protect your child, why should you do all the hard work and let his or her natrel father take all the glory. but if the natrel father is a good persion and it just didnt work between you both then dont denie him the chance, BUT if he is a waist of spase and he will do more harm than good then this will effect your futer relationships and your chils (who wants to be told that there father is a waste of space) My advice is dont rush into this and dont listen to the do gudders of this world, DO WHAT YOU KNOW IN YOUR HEART ISTHE RIGHT THING TO DO......Good luck and remember its got nothing to do with anyone else
2006-09-01 05:46:27 · answer #1 · answered by dave 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YES-----How much thought really needs to go into that? If roles could be reversed, wouldn't you want to know you had a child out there? Even if he doesn't want anything to do with the baby, it's important that he knows. You should give that much to your child at least so that when he/she gets older and the subject comes about, you can say, I told your real dad and he just wasn't ready to be a dad (if that's the case.) Or maybe he'll love the idea of a child and take good care of it. Otherwise you could be blamed if the truth comes out and have a very upset child (or teenager).
2006-09-01 05:36:56 · answer #2 · answered by missionhtg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you haven't gone in to the circumstances why you haven't already but as an outsider I would say yes. The baby has a right to know it's dad just as the dad has a right to know his baby. Whatever has happened between you and him has nothing to do with the baby. As the baby gets older he/she will ask questions about dad and what are you going to say? Don't use the baby as a pawn as it really isn't fair on the child and it won't thank you for it when he/she is older.
2006-09-01 05:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the child is already born, then why doesn't he know already? Are YOU even sure that this guy is in fact the child's biological father? There is a lot more to this story that you haven't shared, but either way, the biological father has a right to know. Good luck with that!
2006-09-01 05:28:33 · answer #4 · answered by YouDon'tKnowMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - he should know so he can make up his own mind about his involvement, then farther down the line the child will knkow where he stands with both parents. I think secrets in this situation can only lead to resentment in later life.
Is the father to be named on the birth certificate? The father would be the best person to look after a child if it was needed and any legal situations would be better dealt with.
You don't have to like the father any more, but the child has a right to make up his mind.
2006-09-01 05:19:29 · answer #5 · answered by wee stoater 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes then the bilogical dad can make his choice and when your son asks about his really daddy as no doubt he will then you will be able to tell the truth.
My uncle has just found out he has an 18 year old son from a teen romance when he was 17 now he has a family and 3 kids and his secret son Jake has tracked him down and my uncles under a lot of strain all because Jane his teenage fling did not bother to tell him
2006-09-01 05:23:13 · answer #6 · answered by Purple Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course! You have to know that when your kid gets older that he is going to ask who his dad is. And he might even go on the search for him. And the baby's dad will be far happier to learn now than he will be to learn in 18 years. Just think that the dad could help you with more than money. He can help raise and shape a young life. And it is always important to have both parents, it makes things better for all involved
2006-09-01 05:15:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-09-01 05:15:34 · answer #8 · answered by Elizabeth N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes of corse!!! The child has a right to know who is father is, and likewise with the father. Whether he chooses to be in the baby's life is another matter, but everyone deserves to know the truth.
2006-09-01 05:16:47 · answer #9 · answered by meg515 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute.................. what kind of man is this? Is he a good man that you know will take an active part in your child's life? Does he live a good lifestyle? Is he stable?
I say if he is an upstanding guy then go for it. If he isn't then don't. however I would not create a child with a man that didn't have his act together.
2006-09-01 05:24:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋