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I SEEK HELP FROM ANYBODY.....Please tell me how can the death of my grand-mother (She is now at the last stage of CANCER) be less painful or even painless.( It may sound odd, but I still hope someone has the answer……)

Grand-mother is priceless to me. All along her life she kept on thinking about us (her sons, daughter& grand-children) and took care of us. She never looked at her own health. She is now 65.

A few days ago, she fainted in the kitchen as her body was terribly weak and thin. We admitted her to nearby hospital with wound at the back of head.
After medical supervision & diagnosis it was reported that she has obstructive jaundice caused by the tumor in her pancreas. The doctor suspected something wrong….after a few more tests it was revealed that the tumor has turned into CANCER.

NOW HER DEATH IS A MATTER OF TIME.

I would be highly obliged to the person who can tell me………how the rest few days of HER life would be least painful to her……………..and us.

2006-09-01 05:01:19 · 26 answers · asked by rony 1 in Health Diseases & Conditions Cancer

26 answers

You need to talk to the oncology team. Her pain can be very well controlled with medication. There is no reason anymore for people dying with cancer to suffer terribly.

2006-09-01 05:05:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4 0

Giving bad information is certainly not handy, and no matter how typically one has to to do it, it under no circumstances turns into 'movements'. More commonly, the sufferer is already mindful that things should not going well. My approach is always to reply truthfully. Quite often a sufferer will say, "i'm no longer getting any better, am I?" rather of a bald "No" I counter with, "Why do you suppose that?" The person will then mostly go on to highlight the matters about their lack of development that they have noticed. It is not a excellent inspiration to pat them on the top - either literally or verbally - and say "don't talk like that. Of direction you'll be able to get better!" If anyone has summoned up the courage to verbalise a worry to be able to without doubt were going round in their head for days, then an honest response is handiest reasonable. In the event that they trust you ample to ask the question, it's a betrayal of that believe to brush it apart. If that any individual is that in poor health, be prepared and reassure them that, at the same time there is no extra medication so one can be powerful, there may be a lot to be completed in regards to symptoms - pain, nausea etc. Provide them the opportunity to specific their fears with love and remedy. I do hope this helps.

2016-08-09 13:15:55 · answer #2 · answered by biram 2 · 0 0

you can keep her on oxygen and help her with the breathing and ask the doctor to give her some medicine to help with the pain but also the best thing you can do now is just be with her and at least she will know you really care for her to the end.
I did not get the chance to tell my grandmother goodbye while she was in the hospital dying of cancer too. At the time my mother was been very selfish and kept all of her grandkids away for her own mom. I am glad that she has you now. and God bless I know it is hard to go through. make her as comfort as you can and God will do the rest my dear

2006-09-01 05:13:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0 0

Giving dangerous information is by no means handy, and regardless of how customarily one has to to do it, it by no means turns into 'movements'. In such a lot circumstances, the sufferer is already mindful that matters don't seem to be going good. My process is continually to reply actually. Often a sufferer will say, "I'm now not getting any larger, am I?" Instead of a bald "No" I counter with, "Why do you suppose that?" The individual will then frequently cross directly to spotlight the matters approximately their loss of development that they've spotted. It is not a well notion to pat them at the head - both actually or verbally - and say "Don't speak like that. Of path you'll be able to get larger!" If anyone has summoned up the braveness to verbalise a worry for you to without doubt had been going round of their head for days, then an sincere reaction is simplest reasonable. If they believe you ample to invite the query, it is a betrayal of that believe to comb it apart. If you realize that anyone is that in poor health, be ready and reassure them that, at the same time there's no additional therapy for you to be mighty, there's a lot to be performed in regards to signs - agony, nausea and so on. Give them the possibility to precise their fears with love and relief. I do desire this is helping.

2016-08-21 07:07:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Our entire family was with my grandfather in his last weeks of bone cancer. Cancer patients can suffer excruciating pain. However, there are numerous methods of pain control available. Ask the hospital or doctor or nurses about having Hospice help for your family and your grandma. Our Hospice nurse was invaluable to us. She helped control my grandfather's pain, answered our questions, and comforted us in our grief. She also explained the dying process and came within the hour after my grandfather had passed away. I believe most pain control methods will probably put your grandma into a coma-type state so she will not be able to communicate with you. Our Hospice nurse said to touch and talk to my grandfather as it would comfort him and comfort us. It is a difficult thing to watch a loved one suffer. There are compassionate people who will help you through this, but sometimes you have to ask for the help from several people before getting what you need.

2006-09-01 05:15:57 · answer #5 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0 0

My mother died from pancreatic cancer when she was 59. I am sure she was in pain, but she remained proud and strong to the very end. She took us out to lunch at Taco Bell, even though she knew she would just lose her lunch right after we returned from the restaurant. She ate ice cream, even though she knew she wouldn't be able to keep that down, either. She never complained, became bitter, or depressed. All we could do for her in her last weeks with us here on this Earth was be sure her morphine drip was functioning, give her whatever she asked for (except morphine ahead of schedule), and be with her in her room. The entire family was with her when she "moved on".

All you can do for your grandmother is comfort her, be there with her as much as possible, talk to her, and listen to her. Also, don't forget to tell her how proud you are to be her grandchild...

2006-09-01 05:13:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jazz In 10-Forward 4 · 0 0

under most states laws it is considered inhumane to put a person out of misery, the only thing the hospitals can do is make her comfortable with sufficent pain medications. I wish the laws were different. We live in a society of freedoms, but this is one we do not have the freedom to die when we want.

Check with the american cancer associations for hospice and home health care help

2006-09-01 05:09:13 · answer #7 · answered by thebulktiny 3 · 0 0

Sorry to hear about grandma. If she is in the hospital and she will for sure not make it--ask that she be sedated and have morphine. My husband recently died of infections stemming from chemotherapy to treat liver cancer, which started 6 years ago as pancreatic cancer. He lived in a lot of pain from various treatments but he was a tough son of a gun. Sweet as could be but that man took a lot of abuse. In the end, when the doctors said that terrible sentence (It's time to make him comfortable), I simply asked that his morphine be increased, the medicines that kept his blood pressure up be stopped and we let him go. This allowed him to go peacefuly, though he was awake despite the large doses of morphine!! It was very difficult to do this but there was no hope for him and we didn't want to see him suffer any more. Good luck with grandma, and make sure you tell her what's going on, no lies, no sugar coated stories.

2006-09-01 05:08:44 · answer #8 · answered by blr8t2 2 · 1 0

With my sister pain killers was all that would keep her compfortable. They put dauliad in her IV bag with the drip which of corse kept her knock out..but it was better that hurting as far as I am concerned;, and it would be what I would what also. They tried morphine, but it did her no good.Normally they don't put pain killers mixed in the same bag with a plain iv drip but her doctor learned then it was the best way to constantly control her pain.
I never want to see another person die with cancer it is a horrible diease. If I had it when I started hurting, bring on the drug. and if I am hurting bad enought just keep me in a drug indused coma.
may god bless you

2006-09-01 06:03:01 · answer #9 · answered by Chris G 1 · 0 0

Giving undesirable information is in no way basic, and no count how frequently one has to to do it, it in no way will become 'habitual'. in maximum situations, the affected person is already conscious that issues are unlikely nicely. My physique of recommendations is often to respond to certainly. frequently a affected person will say, "i'm not getting from now on suited, am I?" rather of a bald "No" I counter with, "Why do you sense that?" the guy will then frequently bypass directly to concentration on the flaws approximately their loss of progression that they have got observed. it fairly is not a stable thought to pat them on the pinnacle - the two actually or verbally - and say "do not communicate like that. of direction you will get extra suited!" If somebody has summoned up the braveness to verbalise a terror which will positively have been going around of their head for days, then an truthful reaction is barely truthful. in the event that they have faith you sufficient to ask the question, it rather is a betrayal of that have faith to comb it aside. in case you realize that somebody is that sick, be arranged and reassure them that, on a similar time as there is not any extra therapy which would be useful, there is plenty to be performed with connection with indications - discomfort, nausea etc. supply them the prospect to particular their fears with love and convenience. I do wish this helps.

2016-11-23 17:35:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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