I love God but I hate church sometimes..church people are hypocrites!?

Question

I love to worship the Lord in choir and I read the BIble. I've taught KidsKlub at church, I pray, and am saved, but church people have hurt me so badly I think the scars will last forever. They are gossippers and hypocrites!

Answer 1

Sorry that you have had bad experiences.

Sure there are lots of hypocrites,
Read the book of Jude.
verse 4 says "For certain persons have crept in unnoticed, those who were long beforehand marked out for this condemnation, ungodly persons who turn the grace of our God into licentiousness and deny our only Master and Lord, Jesus Christ."

So this may or may not describe the people you have come across but the the church pews are full of people who are not following the bible. A lot of people don't fully grasp their need for salvation.

For me the thing that has really helped is to get into a bible study. That is the best way to stay close to God and to fellowship with true believers. I have been doing a bible study with the same group of ladies for 10 years. I have changed churches during that time but never strayed from studying His Word. It is what will ground you and keep you on the straight and narrow.

Hope this helps. Hang in there. Pray for wisdom in finding a church that lines up with scripture and offers fellowship and bible study opportunities.

the type of bible study I attend is a Precept bible study. check out their web site for studies near you. Precept.org

Answer 2

Well, I was so put out with the hypocrisy of the church that I turned away from God and even went so far as to become a pagan eventually. (Thankfully, God brought me back to Him after a while). I know it seems like "all Christians are hypocrites" in these situations but really there are a few problems at work. First, they do not understand that even though you are saved by grace and not by works, that your faith also bears fruit of the spirit. If you truly believe you will do what God says. I deal with a few issues that I have trouble changing on, so I know how hard it can be to change. Perhaps some of them are having trouble changing. The pastor should get involved if the situation is this bad. I think the Bible says to approach them yourself with another believer (and/or the pastor). If they won't accept the advice then, it needs to be brought before the whole church. If they still won't stop the sinful behavior, then unfortunately they need to leave the congregation. Does your church practice church discipline?
As far as your own feelings are concerned, please don't allow yourself to think that all other Christians are hypocrites. Remind yourself that we all fall short, and you yourself do so occasionally, and that if you do not forgive them then God won't forgive you either. Also, praying for them helps. The strongest weapon you have as a Christian against Godlessness is prayer. When I start feeling hurt and unforgiving towards someone or a group, I try to remind myself of these things and pray that God will help me to forgive and forget, and that God will help them to see the truth about what they are doing.
Blessings!

Answer 3

Maybe you're in the wrong church. Many churches are legalistic, and they follow the letter of the law, but not the spirit of the Word.
Example: My friend is an Apostolic Penecostal, and she hated it at her old church because of the sneakiness and gossip there. She told me that during praise and worship, she would sing and raise her hands, and move with the music, while nearly everyone else just stood and stared, or talked to the people next to them. What's more, some kids actually made fun of her for the way she worshipped. Her mom asked the pastor if they could leave his church (why she bothered to do this, I do not know, since it isn't the pastor's decisioin either way) and he said, "No." I asked my friend why they didn't just pack up and leave the chruch; and she said that if they did, the other families would gossip about them because they respect the pastor's opinion. And here I'm thinking, "They respect the opinion of a pastor that won't permit people to leave his church??" Basically, it was just really messed up.
But on the other hand, we've had an Apostolic Penecostal guest speaker and he was very passionate about the Lord and we enjoyed his sermon.
Even in spiritually "alive" churches, people can still make mistakes. In fact, I like it at my church; the praise and worship is alive and uninhibited, and my preacher is an excellent teacher and scholar who really knows his Bible stuff. BUT.... my preacher and his wife aren't people persons, and they made several mistakes in administration about 10 years back, especially when Pastor switched to a new doctrine regarding the End Times. This led to a church split in which 2/3rds of the congregation left. Needless to say, we lost a lot of our income and the church has not grown in several years. But it is getting better; we're getting more visitors and have already gotten a few new members.
There is no perfect church. There are no perfect Christians. As my father told me: there was only one perfect Man, and they nailed Him to a cross. Pastors, Christians, good men and women WILL make mistakes. And I think that in a way... pretty much EVERYONE is a hypocrite in one way or another. That's because we're human.
Unfortunately, some people sink to gossip and blatant hypocrisy and defame the name of Christ. I would definitely avoid a church where gossip and hypocrisy are prevalent; if this happens in your church a lot, and you don't like it there, it may be best to try a new church.
And above all, try to be forgiving. I know it's hard. Some wounds just don't let go. Pastor's wife and my mom got into some conflict about 7 years ago when she was teaching 5th-8th grade in the school (my church also had a K-12 school) and I don't think she has completely gotten over it. I'm not sure she WANTS to. A little selfish part of us wants to hold on to the pain that other people caused us, and be mad at them forever and ever, but God wants us to let it go and forgive them. Not just forgive them, but forget it also. The longer you hold on to a grudge, the harder it will be to let go.

Answer 4

I can totally relate. I grew up in church and eventually, as an adult on my own, the hypocisy became unbearable. I realized that the people that I encountered at church every sunday were just like the religious establishment that had Jesus murdered. I tried to make others (my self-righteous parents) understand why I refused to go to church for over a year and a half, but they wouldn't (or couldn't) listen or understand me and thought that I was being influenced by unbelievers.

Truth be told, since I took my break, I've developed a much healthier outlook on spirituality, I now have clarity, when before the hypocrisy and bad motives of others interfered with my worship experience. I understand now that it's imperative to find a place where you can fit in and grow without feeling anger every time you leave. The process of finding a new place of worship takes a long time and can be very frustrating, but when it happens, it's very much worth the toil!

Answer 5

my friend you will find gossippers and hypocrites at any church.just because you go to a church doesn't mean EVERYONE is a christian.and still there are believers that still gossip,this is the age old battle of the spirit and the flesh.you still have a sin nature and so do i.read romans 8 -9 paul battles the flesh(sin nature)next time you are in a gossip group walk away.if they say were you going say i would rather not listen to this gossip.you set your boundries.if they say its not gossip then tell them ;ok then lets bring the person your talking about into the group right now and you repeat exactly what you just said about them.this will convicted them.if you do this BE CAREFUL !!! because there are ears that will be listening and eyes that will watching for YOU my friend to fall into the same old trap that is your question you asked.my father who died in 2003 gave me some wisdom and i'll give it to you.
BE CAREFUL WHO YOU POINT YOUR FINGER AT BECAUSE WHEN YOU DO POINT YOUR FINGER AT SOME ONE YOU HAVE THREE MORE FINGERS POINTING BACK AT YOU. in christ

Answer 6

you sound like my brother, its easy for you to follow man and not GOD, you are there to worship GOD and not what church people say even if they are gossippers and hypocrytes, God will deal with them when the time comes, I've been hurt by church people too but I still went to church. and besides alot of churches are not like the ones you just described there are some pretty descent churches out there and you just have to find it. i could tell you stories on what alot of church people have done to me but i don't have all day, but that didn't stop me from going. you say that you love GOD but yet you hate his house, if you hate his house then you must not think too highly of HIM. besides you have to worry about your own spiritual walk and not what the others think.

Answer 7

Religion is one thing and the institutionalization of religion can be quite another. You sound like a very sincere and honest individual. Hang on to that and don't let gossips and hypocrites get you down. In the history of Christianity, there have been many attempts to restore religion to its primitive (early) simplicity, deriving from the belief that later times have complicated and corrupted it. I am sure you have heard of church leaders involved in financial corruption. Religious hypocrisy has a long history: Moliere's play "Tartuffe" exposed it cleverly and comically. Keep up your direct relationship to God and your fervent religious feeling.

Answer 8

Well good thing you are not going to church for the hypocrites and gossipers.

Its a good thing that your going to church for the Lord.
Its that's your purpose, stick to it.
And leave the hypocrites and gossipers be, they evidently did not come to church for the same reason as you.

Answer 9

the only unforgivable sin is blasphemy of the Holy Spirit, that's asserting that Jesus did His miracles by ability of the flexibility of the devil. the only unpardonable sin right now is that of persisted unbelief. there is not any pardon for a individual who dies in unbelief. John 3:sixteen tells us, "For God so enjoyed the international that he gave his purely begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him shouldn't perish yet have eternal existence." the only circumstance the place somebody might have no forgiveness is that if he/she isn't between the "whoever believes in Him." The verse asserting that they gained't inherit the dominion became written by ability of Paul, who became very opinionated and reported some issues approximately women individuals that weren't so flattering. Paul reported that girls individuals might desire to no longer worship in a temple with out overlaying their heads and final quiet, etc. (a million Tim 2:9-15). there is numerous cultural background interior the Bible, which seems to be hateful yet its the way issues have been on the time. the important element is that Jesus had no longer something to declare approximately people who're gay, Jesus preached approximately each little thing that became needed mutually as he became right here on earth.

Answer 10

You are number one hypocrite.The one who say he loves God should not say that he hates. Hatred is the habit of those who hate the gospel and God, so to say that you love God but hate the church people is contradictory. The Bible say love one another as I have loved you.These are even the words of th Lord Jesus Christ. My friend, do you really love God?The Lord Jesus went to the cross for you and me and when He was to be crucified He said Father forgive them for they do not know what they are doing. He was talking about those who were beating and spitting on Him.Does that mean anything to you my friend?Look at the story of Joseph in the Bible, he was beaten and soul by his brothers but finally he became the prime minister in Egypt. Read the end of that story and see what happened. Please ask God to give you a heart that forgives.