and I confessed to her, she hit me, ran out and broke up with me.
Then I saw her on campus yesterday all hugged up on some nerd. I was furious.
I'm just a vulnerable guy. Why am I always being punished by my girlfriends for following my instincts? This is so unfair!!!
I have feelings too, but women only care about themselves. They never consider my needs and get so upset just because sometimes in moments of vulnerability I have cheated on my girlfriend's by accident.
This is like the 6th time a girl broke up with me because of this.
What if someone punished women every time they cry during a movie? Wouldn't that be unfair?
Women do things and men do things. It's all natural and should be accepted. It's not fair to single out men and punish us for things that we are vulnerable about.
2006-09-01 04:46:27 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
You don't sleep with someone on "accident"...its a mutual decision.
I give you props for being truthful with her about it, that was the right thing to do...but if you are just wanting to "go with your instincts" maybe you should go solo for a while.
2006-09-01 04:52:15 · answer #1 · answered by HoodRat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm just wondering how a guy 'accidently' cheats....I mean is there just some woman bending over, the guy trips and ooops! pop goes the weasel?
You are sitting here talking about her considering your needs...women only care about themselves, how can you compare infidelity to crying at a freaking movie?
I am really hopeing this is like some kind of tongue in cheek thing.
If you are screwing up royally, thats not singling out, even more so when you accidently screw someone else 6 times.
It's not an accident, so grow up, admit that you are more interested in going around screwing who ever you feel like.
She did the right thing. Maybe someday you will grow up and knock it off and realize the value of being with one person.
2006-09-01 04:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by saintlyinnocents 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, think about it---if this has happened SIX times, then maybe you're the one doing something wrong. You can't stereotype all women because we're all different, just like all men are different. Your example of crying during a movie is a completely different situation.
And "following your instincts" isn't always the best thing to do. Apply some common sense to your instincts...look before you leap. And always consider your girlfriend's feelings when you "follow your instincts". Honestly, how would you feel? Men aren't neccesarily "vulnerable" to these things...not if you have self-control.
Good luck with your relationships in the future =)
2006-09-01 04:51:29 · answer #3 · answered by kaffinat3d 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You have openly admitted through your question that you have ACCIDENTALLY CHEATED on your girlfriend.
You have just combined the two dangerous words tantamount to a certified lie that does not even deserve a second chance. To think that this is the 6th time you ended up in the same situation means you are not learning your lesson.
And you have feelings too? Dude what you got is simply carnal desires with women - no more no less.
It is your moral obligation to be faithful and honest with your woman as she is with you. If you want everything to be fair, then you have no right to be furious when you saw her hugging another guy in retaliation to what you did to her.
Did you have any idea of the guy she was hugging with? Did you have at least the faintest idea as to what they were doing aside from hugging each other? Males can also be good friends to females, particularly to those who were treated dastardly by another guy.
I hate to say this, but being a male, you make the rest of us good guys appear to be shitty with other women whose brain is right underneath your feet.
I have just celebrated two years with my girlfriend last month, and mind you, we are miles away from each other but constant communication between us ensure that our relationship is stable and that we don't fall out of love with each other.
If there's anyone here that needs to be punished it's you and no one else.
Do you even understand the word KARMA and what it means? That is exactly where you are now hotshot.
2006-09-01 05:53:17 · answer #4 · answered by Mike_Cruiser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have feelings too but "women only care about themselves" coming from a dufus who cheated on his lady "by accident" more than once "6x"? And you want to discuss fairness?
In all reality, if your lady took you back after cheating 6x then she is as much an idiot as you are. You clearly have no respect for her, yourself or those other women that you sought out to cheat with. I do not feel sorry for you at all.
Quit feeling sorry for yourself. Crying at a movie is an emotional response whereas cheating is a conscious choice. You are vulnerable to cheating? Then you are a weak and dishonorable man.
If you are trying to get sympathy for cheating on your lady for the 6th time and mad that she dumped you, what the Fu*k are you thinking d.i.c.k.w.e.e.d?
I would beat your **** and then dump you too. Why not run back to one of those broads that you cheated with Smart Guy?
You are a loser! Get outta here!
2006-09-01 04:56:33 · answer #5 · answered by Simplystunning 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because we are vulnerable doesn't mean we should always give in. There's no such thing as accidently cheating on a girl 5 times!
Cheating is not a vulnerability - it's a vice. And it's not something that any woman should put up with. If you want to get and keep a girlfriend, then you need to grow up.
2006-09-01 04:49:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
You didn't cheat accidently... sorry. You put yourself in the situation. You didn't plan it, it just happened. IT was good that you were honest about it with her. I am sorry that it didn't work out for you, but it just means that she isn't the one for you.
what a minute? did you say 6th time? you have cheated on 6 girls? you have issues kid. Cheating is not natural. .... Try not having a "girlfriend" for a while and that way you won't be a cheater...
You have a lot of growing up to do.
2006-09-01 04:59:00 · answer #7 · answered by Why do you ask? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Much as I dislike saying this, pal, but YOU have some serious issues! 6 times? An accident you say... did you think it was her? Women who cry b/c of a movie is in NO WAY the same as your "vulnerable" state of mind. Get help - or just grow up and accept the fact you're a player and these women are very, very temporary. I'm sure that's how they see it. I say: Screw the world while you still can!! lmao!!
2006-09-01 04:53:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My guess here would be because you're not stating when starting a relationship that you're not a monogamous person. If you enter a relationship with someone and do not implicitly state you're not monogamous, the assumption in most societies (I would say Western, but Chinese, Japanese, Indian, and African societies also commonly follow this rule) is that you will be monogamous. There is a serious ethical difference between chiding someone for showing emotion and breaking an assumed vow to another person.
2006-09-01 04:53:53 · answer #9 · answered by Gamerbear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no way you can accidently cheat on someone, not even one time, let alone five or six times. So quit trying to lay the blame on someone else for your screw ups. You are immature and self centered and you don't deserve a girl friend untill you grow up and learn what having a relationship means.
2006-09-01 05:05:26 · answer #10 · answered by smoke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you *really* think you can cheat on your girlfriend accidentally?
And if six girls have dumped you for cheating, how can you believe it was all their fault?
The terms "girlfriend" and "boyfriend" suggest some kind of committed and exclusive relationship.
Maybe you aren't ready for a girlfriend yet. As they used to say, you might be better off "playing the field" until you're ready to make a commitment to one person. That way you won't be raising some poor girl's expectations, then disappointing her because you cheated.
2006-09-01 04:59:05 · answer #11 · answered by johntadams3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋