Me and this guy have been seeing each other for about 2 months. I have yet been able to make the first move or be aggressive, I don't know why.. he just has some weird effect on me...
Anyways last night we were unable to have sex (female reason...) so instead I decided to help him out.. if you get my drift.. it was good and he finished. All good..
Well do think this brought us closer? Do you think he might like me just a little bit more?Just the fact that I did something just for him and I have yet to do anything of the sort cause of my intimidation.
2006-09-01 04:43:36 · 14 answers · asked by C-BIZZLE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well yes and no. He will see you as considerate, caring about his sexual tension to give a helping hand. But, really, nothing beats the real thing.
2006-09-01 04:48:51 · answer #1 · answered by Johannu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
There is never a silly question. But let me tell you something. Guys reguardless of what you do to help them, they will stray away. Trust me I do the same and I'm 27 yrs. old. Same relationship for the last 4 yrs. Said he cheated cause I accused him. And with a girl that was gross and looks like a dude. Yeah. Well, I am still trying to deal with this. I am dumb and still marrying him next summer. Yeah. Learn and be careful.Oh should I meantion that I found out by a letter she wrote and come to find out she has warts. Well You can't get tested for the HPV virus. But only know if you have symptoms some don't and you only know also if warts are visible. Usually you only know when you go to the doctors. Yeah I got looked at but no symptoms but who's to say. Yeah be careful please. Life is too precious.
2006-09-01 11:55:35 · answer #2 · answered by mother of two 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may have. But dont do things like that to get guys to like you more. That says you have a low self esteem and guys sense that. You need to do it because YOU want to and because you care a lot about him and want to make him happy. Dont take this the wrong way, because Im not calling you a s l u t....you waited 2 months, which is good. But when people talk about girls who are "sluts" it really is just a name for a girl with a low self-esteem who will give out sexual favors to guys only to get them to like her. And in the end, they dont. They still see her as a s l u t. Now, I know this isnt the case for you, but make sure you dont let any guy get that feeling from you...like your doing something to get him to like you. You are obviously a young lady who has morals, so let that show.
2006-09-01 11:52:54 · answer #3 · answered by Kisses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough question. it really depends on why he's in the relationship that you both have in the first place. it'll only bring you two closer if that's his intention- to keep you. but be aware... i have been fooled many times in this game... and i did exactly what you described in your question once and they make you feel like you guys have something special but you just never know...
make sure you know his character too. what is his past dating history? has he ever cheated (big one!)? is he loyal. is he flippant about sleeping/screwing around or has he been like that in the past with other girls? don't put your heart on the bed yet... make sure you know what you're getting into.
also, i know what you mean about the intimidation. but sometimes it's better if you're soul is at ease with your significant other, and not stiff if you know what i'm saying.
God bless and I hope whatever happens is for best.
2006-09-01 11:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by carlaerickson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully sex or it's acts isn't what makes a man like you. LADIES PLEASE!!!! Sex is the easiest part to sell to a man..it doesn't take much solicitation right?? So why not go for the bigger challenge and make him fall in love with your mind and spirit..I know it takes a little patience and time but hey..it's a sure fire way to know the truth of his feelings. Sex will never keep a man around cuz he can get that anywhere... remember that.
2006-09-01 11:51:38 · answer #5 · answered by ifyewonlyknew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends... if he asked you or kinda pushed you then he probably is just out for some a** but if you did it all on your own without being asked I think he probably sees that you care about his needs and that you are willing to do that for him knowing that you are getting nothing in return. So I think he would probably care more about you knowing that you care about him.
2006-09-01 11:51:46 · answer #6 · answered by jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he wasnt looking for sex, then he will get the nerve to move to a higher step, he was, hell dissapear as soon as u stop doing your thing.
2006-09-01 11:53:55 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a good thing to make sure a guy gets off every time he is horny. Don't leave someone standing.
2006-09-01 11:52:23 · answer #8 · answered by Alex H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course,, that was the best thing you can do under the circumstances..
And we usually do love it being helped that way...
2006-09-01 11:51:22 · answer #9 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it won't make him like you more but it will make him like the fact that he knows that he can get that from you for nothing if you know what i'm saying to you, but at lease he know's that you like him right..... you think about that one.
2006-09-01 11:54:40 · answer #10 · answered by waynekirsten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋