What should i do?
Could you please give me the best advice you have? I am just not ready to let her go yet??
this is an email she replied to me...is she letting me down easy, or is she scareed, like she says she is...because she is only 13 and never been in a relationship before??
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later
Now, I know this is a no, she clearly said she wants to remain friends, and trust me, I am treating that with respect and honor. Now my question is, is she just scared like she said because we have been such good friends for a long time, or because she doesnt see me like that. If she doesnt now, will she
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Now , what would she have said she doesnt want to ruin a frienship?? Without meaning it, I asked her straight up to be honest, and I know she isnt lying. What should I do? I mean I know nothing is gonna happen in the near future, but maybe when she matures a little bit, or decides to take the risk to date me, I mean, I like her so much, and am just not ready to let her go. I know she is afraid of me breakin her heart, because she told one of her friends, that she doesnt like how many girlfriends I've had that Ive broken up with. And she really used to act like she liked me, I mean, we obviously had soemthing more than friends, but when I asked her she got scared and backed off. She also told her mom, who she is really closed to, that she is REAALY scared of ruining the frienship. What should I do?
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But, her friend asked her a few minutes ago about it, and she got all mad and said who wants to know?..and her friend said me.. and she got all mad and signed off. what should i think/do??
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And why would she get all mad at her friend, I mean the email I replied to her was nice , caring and understanding, so I dont know why she thinks I put her up to it? Why was she all mad if her friend asked her about it?
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Now, I am not an idiot, and I emailed her back and told her i respect her decision, and totally understand her decision, and I am not smothering her, directly, but her friends mite be talking, what should I do
2006-09-01 04:32:32 · 27 answers · asked by how many 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Regardless on whether you are ready or not to let her go, it just sounds like shes trying to let you down easy. Theres nothing you can do if she doesnt feel the same. Let her go.
2006-09-01 04:36:11 · answer #1 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way. How many people actually meet their future wife at the age of 15? Not a whole lot. Even if things would work out right now, you will most likely end up breaking up. And in the end, you will have thrown away a good friendship that could have lasted a long time. Is it worth that? Im guessing not. You are SO young. Dont put so much effort in trying to get someone to be your girlfriend. She knows how you feel. She'll come around if she wants to. She's hardly a teenager for god's sake! Stay friends for now...in the end, that will mean the most to both of you.
And by the way, I have a huge problem with people coming into answer questions who are ignorant to the person asking. Theres no reason to make fun of people asking questions. Let's keep in mind that we were all 15 once and this is what your life is about when your 15. These are the problems you deal with. And I dont remember seeing age limits on Yahoo Answers. The real patheric thing is that grown adults actually pick on little kids in here for simply being young. Thats sad.
2006-09-01 11:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by Kisses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dunno.
It sounds to me that she values the friendship you two already have. Sometimes dating a friend doesn't turn out so good if a break-up occurs. Not only do you lose a love, but a good friend too because it hurts too much.
It's possible that love isn't on her mind, and it really shouldn't be. It's possible that she has a lot going on in her life right now and the last thing she needs is to have to deal with a love interest as well.
The best thing to do is to keep respecting and honoring her decision. It doesn't mean you can't be friends with each other anymore. I'm sure it will be awkward at first, but if you're friendship is as strong as you feel it is, then it won't take long to get over this small hurdle.
You two are really young...there's plenty of other people to date. Heck! Maybe by the time she's ready to be with you, you'll have this dating thing all figured out and treat her better than you've ever treated anyone else. All about saving the best for last! :-)
Good Luck!
2006-09-01 11:48:12 · answer #3 · answered by my_lil_buttercups 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've blew it by not giving the girl any space.You pushed her into a corner trying to force her into a relationship she either does'nt want or is'nt ready for.Stop smothering her with emails and let her alone for a week or two,then try and pick up as friends.I don't think you'll be as close as you were,but then again,she may have missed you.You've got to be prepared to let her go if that's what she wants. A true friend would want her to be happy with whoever or whatever she chose in life.You're only 15 and your hormones and emotions are all over the place at that age.You seem like a caring person but you need to live a few more years before getting into a deep relationship.Hope life works out for you
2006-09-01 11:50:45 · answer #4 · answered by Taylor29 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax, man. I couldn't even read until the end, yet I know what you're talking about and you're wasting your time thinking about. YOU'RE 15 AND SHE'S 13!!! Doesn't that tell you something? You know, the stupidest thing that happened to me when I was 12, I had a crush on this girl, and couldn't talk to her normally, like she was something more than just human. At that age, people are still not able to think clearly about how to create a good relationship. And I actually think that people really suck at relationships until about the age of 19, when the most advanced are starting to figure out what do they really want and not just fall head over heels for some cule face and a pair of legs. It probably looks stupid to you, and you think that 'no, but this is different, and we had something special going on...'. Forget it. EVERYBODY goes through this at the teen age. Don't obsess over her, don't write her any more (nah, you prob'ly will write her anyway - that's what I did even when I was 2 years older than you're, even though the advice was not to). Anyway, trust people who had already been there and gone through this, some many times. You're still too young to figure out what's the real relationship is about, If you still want to 'get her back', then find something to do instead, and take her mind off of her. You'll be much more attractive to her when you don't need her. Remember, you can't do anything to get her to want to get back with you. You can only do things to make it worse if you continue trying to 'sort it out'. I'm serious. If you're here after an advice, you'll do what I tell you to do. If you're here just to let others know of your problem and hope that someone will give her an advice to be a 'nice guy, not hurt her feelings and tell her how you feel', you'll probably do something like that. Just remember, it's like hitting your finger with a hammer, only much more painful when she rejects you again and you keep thinking about her. Not worth it. I don't even care about the best answer, I'm just giving you an advice of an experienced person. If you remember anything out of this post, remember this - NOT ALL POSITIVE LESSONS ARE LEARNED IN POSITIVE WAYS. The best of luck to you.
2006-09-01 11:50:33 · answer #5 · answered by Negotiator 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, dont get mad when I tell u this, but, she just doesnt want to be with u like that. When u really like someone do u pass up the opportunity because ur friends? No. To risk losing them, u jump at the chance, no matter what. People make up all kinds of excuses "I've been hurt b4, I'm not ready, ..........etc,etc, etc, When its the right person, trust me, you'll be ready! She is trying to avoid hurting ur feelings. I suggest u move on, stay friends, maybe keep ur distance until the pain heals, and find someone who wants to give u a chance and wont feed u B.S.
PS, it may seem like she wanted u cause she didnt like ur girlfriends, but thats just jealousy, dont confuse it with a genuine emotion. She coulda had u, now someone else got u, and shes alone, Jealousy, not love.
2006-09-01 11:40:30 · answer #6 · answered by funkygurll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first, calm down. You are so frustrated with this whole thing that you cant think straight. If you "really" like her like you say you do then remain friends with her and if its meant to happen it will. What you guys dont know is sometimes girls are more attracted to you when you dont pressure them or sometimes when you dont just show them right out. Most people like a challenge...so give her one. Also, she might not like the fact that you are discussing how you feel with her friends and others instead of her....it makes you look too desperate. Just go on with life as usual and if its meant to happen then fate will bring you two together...ok....one day you will look back on this and see where i was coming from..until then good luck.
2006-09-01 11:41:09 · answer #7 · answered by sgame00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is only 13, still a baby in terms of maturity and mature feelings. I know that may sound harsh, but it's true. Let her be and in a few years if you are still interested, ask her out again, but as long as she's saying "no", then continue to respect her decision. And there are plenty of girls and guys that don't date who they consider "friends" and say-so for the reason is she values your friendship so remain a friend and keep the pressure off of her.
2006-09-01 11:37:50 · answer #8 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let ... It .... Be
She clearly stated just friends, you have to respect that. Once you ask a girl out, you have to be ready for rejection. Hope for the best, prepare for the worse. Rejection is just a part of life, don't take it personal. Not every girl will see you as boy friend material, and that's life. Be her friend if you can, but if you can't then let that go.
2006-09-01 11:39:23 · answer #9 · answered by La Princesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chill and give her some space. The best way to tell if a girl is interested in you is to act indifferent toward her. If you back off (completely) she'll decide what she really wants from you. If you keep pushing the issue she will end up resenting you and that is not easy to fix (girls can hold a grudge forever).
2006-09-01 11:40:43 · answer #10 · answered by autumn_hendrix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going by what she wrote, it sounds to me like she doesn't see it as you two ever having been anything more than friends. It is possible that she likes you and she is just not wanting to take the chance of ruining a good friendship by you two being boyfriend/girlfriend. It is possible, in my opinion, that if you keep talking to her about being more than just friends, it may make her not want to be as good of friends with you just out of pressure from you. I hope this helps and good luck.
2006-09-01 11:41:26 · answer #11 · answered by johnettemonique 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋